The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

Oh and would just like to add. You weren't dumped for 'being insecure'.

You were dumped because you caught him out and he was embarrassed and so lashed out.

pink - sorry, didn't mean to post over you. Hope you are ok?

Mr Sailor hasn't messaged me tonight. Desperately resisting the temptation to message him - don't want to come across too keen... Surely if the kids thing had been a problem for him, he wouldn't have got in touch this morning, so why no response tonight?

Thanks White doorbell it means a lot. X

Ah-ha ! One of the guy I messaged did not responded to me at all yesterday even when I sent him 2 messages. Tonight, he has sent one, asking how I am. Should I respond or not? I feel like making him wait too for like a whole day.

I have to say that at this stage, I am a little bit mixed about this guy actually, because he is someone I knew a long time ago. I also helped him to move down to London for work by introducing him to some of my male friends. I was kind of surprised to see him online, but I did not consider him as a candidate, but I did feel like curious about whether he was okay or not. To be honest, I am not sure if I should feel giddy even if I meet someone. Should I have these feelings first even at this stage ? Or am I expecting too much too soon ?

Sorry, I did not read the message above me.

MrWallet I also echo the sentiment by another poster previously. Be good to yourself. You will get there. Before my ex, I was dating another guy, and I felt so down, almost suicidal. Never knew that a man can make me feel that way. It took a lot of support from a female friend to make me see clearly. I am so glad that it is over. I hope that you will also be gentle too. You do not have to put all eggs into one basket right now, and OD is a little bit... challenging.

Says her, who is also uming and arring.

mrwallet are you feeling ny better? xxxx

Pinklaydee- Sorry to hear that :( I'd agree with FolkGirl though, it sounds like a total cop out

I'm with Folk, Pink. It sounds like a luck escape to me. Why so defensive if he has no reason to be?

I've been chatting to a couple today, somehow my heart isn't in it. I was out with DC today and one asked why I didn't take any notice when I was being blatantly flirted at. The truth is I didn't pick up on it. Now I'm feeling a little odd, I can chat away all flirty OLD but not even pick up it when flirted with in RL. Looking back I can see DC was right, but for some reason as it happened I was totally oblivious.

Had a text off Mr IT at 5pm saying forgot fone the mate I was with said its a line. It j believe him as I know what time he finished work ect and what time he'd normally be home sounds stalker like but we pass each other at a island on way home lol

It said sorry I was as t ignoring u I'd left fone at home

Morning White doorbell. I am off to the docs this am, probably to restart my AD meds. It was a long relationship and I think I am missing the routine even though I had good reason to move on. Still painful when you are the one that walked away.

So out of approx. 40 messages, I would say only one was from a guy who saw my photo, readmy profile and wrote a personal message.

I have noted that though a lot of these guys have not been blessed in the looks department, it ddoesn't seem to affect their self esteem!!

Thanks for your messages of concern ladies. I was running before I could walk. Will follow all your exploits with interest. X

jesy - it can be a line re forgetting your phone but you had a text afterwards so ignore your friend! and you know Mr IT a bit better now!

I'm glad he texted you.

I did tbh I think she a bit jealous I k now he very unlikely to be Mr right but we have a laugh together plus he seems to care .
Even this morning he texted saying hope hospital appointment went well

maisie did you ask any questions in the two messages you sent him? If you did, a 'how are you?' would annoy me. A friend has just done this to me only I had sent three text messages

MrWalletwithMothsonboard Take it easy, as you say running before you can walk is not a good idea. Yo will always get oodles of support here, good luck.

Think made a prat of myself.
Sent a casual message saying did you fancy going out to town o be night but he didn't seem up fir it.
He mega tired I k ow that but I'd hoped we could of but part of me thinks it best as look at me I'm sure he'd rather be with his mates.
Plus I can't afford to as I don't get paid this week just feel stupid for pushing it.

You're not 'pushing it' by asking him out though, are you?

How did you get on at the Docs wallet? It is still painful when you walk away. I left my ex and even though I used to be very uncomfortable in the house with him, it still feels empty now he's not there.

Mr sailor has been quiet today. Trying hard not to send another message or start assuming the worst...

Jesy - Why do you think you've made a prat of yourself? You asked if he wanted to do something, but you've said you know he's tired so no need to take it personally!

Also there is nothing worse than initiating a night out when you have no money, for both people involved. Try to relax, I'm sure everything is fine. You shouldn't feel you are pushing anything though, it's been three months, you are entitled!

Just wanting a bit of advice - hope it is ok to post here.

Is it normal for the amount of texts to reduce? When I first started seeing this man we were texting loads but now after a few months it has settled down. I sometimes don't hear from him for maybe half a day. I know I am not his priority and he doesn't leave it for days but I wondered if it was just natural progression in a relationship?

I'm happy staying in when I see him ,never been a big going out person.
I just fancied getting dressed up ext nice dress heels you know what I mean.
He a big go outer , it like o night he'll be In gym ect me spag bol and holyoakes .
I think he like to make decisions which is ok think just . A bit down had some crap ews today

Hi DD. Maisie and all.

I got some anti depressants from the doctor so should be feeling a bit better in a few weeks.

It is beginning to dawn on me that some of my messages are from scammers, that is how naïve I am! I had one today from a man with a very nice face (doubt it was him) saying they were working overseas and would like to meet a lovely lady when they return to this country. I now realise the "widower" with the lovely smile never existed at all!

I met my last partner online but that was over six years ago so things have moved on quite a bit now.

I really think this Wise Owl site just sends your profile out as I had a part of a profile sent to me thanking me for contacting them!

I will deffo be cancelling before the three months is up.

aww jesy what's up? xx

giddy I've had similar and then it picked right back up again over last couple of days trying to play it cool and not respond immediately to messages. I guess it does have to slow down a bit as it's not possible to keep up such intense messaging I guess. I'm trying not to let it control me too much- my new mantra is control the controllable!

jesy hope you're OK

It's over I don't know what's wrong with me