The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

So talking of paying, if a meal is suggested as a first meeting then should it be agreed before the meeting about splitting the bill?

Rummi It sounds a bit incestuous but, there was a documentary on tv a long time ago which says that couples who look alike are likely to stay together long term.

I actually had a good look at my own family tree and it is quite true. I was a bit weird out at that, but I am kind of using that as another filter of mine. My ex had similar nose as I have as well. Which was quite funny. He mentioned that to me. I didn't realise that until he showed me photos of us on our travel.

Rummikub - I'm a bit old fashioned, I'd assume I'm paying unless she insisted that we split it.

Oh gosh. Good question. For the first date, all out, or low key ?

Maisie0 - You might be right. There's a couple in their 50's in my local that look like brother and sister. I thought they were until I saw them kissing.

Ah yes maisie I have heard similar. isnt it about things like distance between eyes and ratios of various facial features? Rather than having the same nose? Interesting theory though.

neil thanks, I think I would feel more comfortable saying to split and see what the response is. I wouldn't want to assume.

Low key would be my preference I think.

rummi I'd insist on splitting particularly if I really liked him

Hi you guys, bit of a lurker for the past couple of weeks, but I have decided to join you if I may. Ive also took the plunge and gone back on POF (after a some weird experiences on there a few months ago)

Currently I am trying to decide between posh chap cyclist guy and a supremely fit bloke who sadly uses awful, cringeworthy text speak and wants me 'all 2 himself'

I always worry with the fit guys cos im a size 16 and may not live up to expectations!

Oh ok, thanks for that mini

I wish there were proper rules!

Have you dated either dawny?

Maisie I do, I bloody give up. Honestly - MEN lol

Welcome Dawny If either have a problem with you being a size 16 or even a 26 then I personally would run him over with his own bike. I used to be larger than a 16 and refused to let anyone judge me by my weight. Anyway, posh chap sounds nicer.

I always do coffee as a first date Rummikub. I always offer to pay or split, never once has my offer been taken up. If it was a meal, I would try to arrange how it's going to be paid for before going. If I was paying half then I would just order what I wanted, if he was paying for it all, I would be mindful of that and not go mad.

Rummi Yes, that's the theory. My nose happened to be a bit big and flat. Lol.... So that is why I check the nose now. Before I check the body etc. I realised I like stocky guys. I am also a bit plump too, and shorty.

Neil Okay... that sounds pretty incestuous ! lol. Oh gosh.

I hope if I ever find someone for real, people do not think we are siblings. That would just be bleh. (Must not think about this...otherwise I shall never find anybody!)

Deliberately Hang in there. Lol.
I used to do that a lot, but these days, I feel like I may just "settle". I don't know.... I think I need to send a proper message soon, and really focus.

I was told that my nose looks cute on women and kids but on a man, it looks stupid.

Maisie There is no way I will just settle. I would rather be single for ever than settle. I think it's possibly easier for me as I've been on my own for so long it's not something I need, I would like but not need.

I dunno, maybe it's that way of thinking that keeps me single, looking for perfection when it doesn't exist!

dawn text speak would be a huge no no for me. he must be able yo use too/to and there/their/they're etc. correctly too
rummi yes it would be better if there were rules and I don't know a bloke can win either way. I'd hope if date had gone well he would offer to pay, think that says something positive about him but then I'd want to split it. think if date had been awful I'd be tempted to let him pay. sorry that sounds awful.
so about as clear as mud then

Oh no, ignore them neil!

Maisie, I think it operates on a much more subtle level, like the ratio of width of nose to length. Would you dare take a ruler out on a date with you to check? oh you can do it with their pictures....

Gosh, we must not think too hard on this and just go with the flow and enjoy the process...

Mini That sounds like a good idea ! lol....

Rummi Maybe the ruler thing is too "crazy chick", but the photo thing sounds good. (Then blow it up at home and measure it then !) I just realised that sounds bad.... and it does make me sound stalkerish!

Rumi no I haven't dated either, yet. Just chatted

Thanks deliberately I know you are right, good to have it reiterated though.

minime I agree. If he is gorgeous, is it worth one date? I already know the answer to this to be honest. It would grate on me massively and I would end up hating him.

Neil aww. I don't believe your nose looks stupid.

Best of luck to everyone waiting for texts etc, hope everything turns out swimmingly.

misuse of an apostrophe too is a no go. I just can't get away from it. (occupational hazard) bloke I'm seeing, sporty, thinks it's funny. I have corrected him bit only in jest. well sort of

After reading this thread I finally signed up to POF yesterday. Wow! Suddenly getting a lot of interest! Looks like tonight will be looking through the responses I've had and seeing if any are a reasonable match!

neil I took your advice and dropped the bit about not being girly - not sure if that's made a difference or not, but have also dropped it from my Match profile, so will be interesting to see if I get any more responses now. Congrats on last night - sometimes a little big of distraction is what we need - enjoy!!

Bigbird01 - So does that mean that when you do give a dutch oven, you'll be wearing something pink????

Ok, I am embarrassed to say this, but I did a crazy thing. I have now narrowed a shortlist. There is like only 5 people. Age-wise, and outlook etc, and only maybe like 2 that I like like ? Their profiles are quite clear and good.

I also then did a crazy thing which is to find the same list but reversed for girls. Gasps. Gosh, there are a lot of girls ! I think I need to continue with my make-up and wardrobe rehaulling... I only posted like 1 photo on there. I guess this is not really enough, right ?

OD is getting to be too much of a faff !
I can now see that I still look tomboyish... Deep sigh.