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MadeMan · 04/05/2014 13:44

Hello and welcome.

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Bigbird01 · 07/05/2014 23:14

Sorry to hear you've had a bad night neil.

Do 'normal', nice guys not worry about texts too? In a "what if she interprets this wrongly? What if she thinks I'm being too forward / too aloof??" Sort of way?

This morning I woke up to a message from Mr Weekend-away. I said good morning, he asked if I was up already (it was just after 6), I said I'd just woken, he said "Wouldn't it be nice to wake up next to each other?"

We haven't even met yet! Getting a bad feeling about this one, but the only proper interest I've had so far... :-(

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:14

mr tinkerbell also had loads of tattoos which he showed me including one of.... wait for it.... tinkerbell and on the other arm the batman logo Hmm Hmm Hmm Hmm

Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:16

bigbird reminds me of "how do you like your eggs in the morning? fertilised or not???"

Grin
neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 23:17

Oh and if you've sent a text and it gets ignored, don't be tempted(ok, you are already TEMPTED) to send a follow up text. You're putting yourselves on the back foot straight away. Just leave it with him. If he ignores it, he's a twat. Best you know now rather than later. If someones really into you, they won't ignore you.

Whitedoorbell, you don't even know which category I'm in!!! Grin

DeliberatelyDreaming · 07/05/2014 23:18

Neil I have a question for you, one of my 'texters' doesn't fit into any of categories (I don't think.)

We have had three dates, each one he has showered me with compliments. Date two we DTD at my suggestion, not that he was hard to persuade. Grin My issue is, he works away a lot and although we have Whatsapp his texting was appalling. I pulled him up on it and he promised to text more often - he didn't. In the end I gave up and stopped texting him. He still texts me, very sporadically and there will be a flurry of messages then nothing. This has been the way from after our first date. I used to get frustrated, now I just can't be arsed if the truth be told. He text the other day, Sunday I think. I didn't answer until Monday and when I did I cut him short, was a bit rude if I'm truthful. He didn't reply, but give it a couple of weeks and he will text again. What's that all about?

Bigbird01 · 07/05/2014 23:20

Thanks white that's made me laugh!

What category are you neil?

DeliberatelyDreaming · 07/05/2014 23:20

Neil I have a question for you, one of my 'texters' doesn't fit into any of categories (I don't think.)

We have had three dates, each one he has showered me with compliments. Date two we DTD at my suggestion, not that he was hard to persuade. Grin My issue is, he works away a lot and although we have Whatsapp his texting was appalling. I pulled him up on it and he promised to text more often - he didn't. In the end I gave up and stopped texting him. He still texts me, very sporadically and there will be a flurry of messages then nothing. This has been the way from after our first date. I used to get frustrated, now I just can't be arsed if the truth be told. He text the other day, Sunday I think. I didn't answer until Monday and when I did I cut him short, was a bit rude if I'm truthful. He didn't reply, but give it a couple of weeks and he will text again. What's that all about?

DeliberatelyDreaming · 07/05/2014 23:20

Neil I have a question for you, one of my 'texters' doesn't fit into any of categories (I don't think.)

We have had three dates, each one he has showered me with compliments. Date two we DTD at my suggestion, not that he was hard to persuade. Grin My issue is, he works away a lot and although we have Whatsapp his texting was appalling. I pulled him up on it and he promised to text more often - he didn't. In the end I gave up and stopped texting him. He still texts me, very sporadically and there will be a flurry of messages then nothing. This has been the way from after our first date. I used to get frustrated, now I just can't be arsed if the truth be told. He text the other day, Sunday I think. I didn't answer until Monday and when I did I cut him short, was a bit rude if I'm truthful. He didn't reply, but give it a couple of weeks and he will text again. What's that all about?

DeliberatelyDreaming · 07/05/2014 23:22

Neil I have a question for you, one of my 'texters' doesn't fit into any of categories (I don't think.)

We have had three dates, each one he has showered me with compliments. Date two we DTD at my suggestion, not that he was hard to persuade. Grin My issue is, he works away a lot and although we have Whatsapp his texting was appalling. I pulled him up on it and he promised to text more often - he didn't. In the end I gave up and stopped texting him. He still texts me, very sporadically and there will be a flurry of messages then nothing. This has been the way from after our first date. I used to get frustrated, now I just can't be arsed if the truth be told. He text the other day, Sunday I think. I didn't answer until Monday and when I did I cut him short, was a bit rude if I'm truthful. He didn't reply, but give it a couple of weeks and he will text again. What's that all about?

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:22

dd sounds bloody rude to me

neil I mafe conscious decision not to over analyse situations so could not possibly pass judgement on you and pigeon hole you... but you sound as insecure and fucked up as me
will hazard a guess at sitting by phone trying not to sound desperate?

Farmergiles99 · 07/05/2014 23:25

Deliberately- I had kind of mentioned it as we got close to DTD and I said I was nervous because following childbirth it had left me a bit damaged and I needed an op to sort it out. He asked if I needed anything to let him know and he would worry about me having the op etc. But of course he doesn't know exactly what is wrong or how it looks. I think I'm going to have to ask stbxh if it ever bothered him and what does he think I should do. ( thank god we split as friends)

neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 23:26

DeliberatelyDreaming - I don't want to sound like a cynic but if he's ignoring you, then when he gets the opportunity, sends loads, I'd be wondering what's stopping him texting in the quiet spells. Like I said, if someone's really, genuinely into you, they text.

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:28

neiljames what about the ones not too keen on texting first in a day but always write back every time? ???

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:31

usually within minutes?

Hmm think I answered my own question

neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 23:31

I think I'm cat 3 tbh.

whitedoorbell - Cowardly cat 3's who don't want to appear too keen. Smile

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:33

neiljames thought so...

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:34

farmer he sounds v sweet. give hom some Thanks from me for handling it well.

did he vanish after that?

neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 23:35

Tonights 'date' btw is 24, has a baby and an on and off the scene boyfriend.
Apart from everything else, I can't be with a 24 year old ffs.

whitedoorbell · 07/05/2014 23:38

neil the on off boyfriend would worry me more.

what age are you? I thought all you fellas were looking for much younger girls Wink

DeliberatelyDreaming · 07/05/2014 23:40

Thanks Neil. You have confirmed my own feelings, hence why now I text back at least 24 hours later if at all and last time as I said was quite rude to him. Sorry about the multiple posts, not sure what happened.

neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 23:49

I think the site's been freezing now and again,(has for me anyway) hence the multiple posts.

I am 47 years of age. Behave like a bit of a kid though.

Not looking for any age in particular. I've got less and less shallow as I've got older. Late teens, early 20's, looks were everything to me. Sense of humour and just being a nice person in general have overtaken that now.
(Christ!! I really am getting old!!!)

neiljames77 · 07/05/2014 23:53

I'm not having anything to do with the 24 year old anyway. Fake hair, fake nails, fake eyelashes, too much make up, orange skin, pretty outside, ugly inside.

It's early days though.

neiljames77 · 08/05/2014 00:03

Bigbird01 - Sorry, I didn't answer did I? Interpretation can be a swine in texts. Everybody can read differently into them and find or guess the meaning. Best just to be clear. I don't see anything wrong in him wanting to wake up with you unless you think he's being too forward. in which case, tell him.

neiljames77 · 08/05/2014 00:12

Oh and Farmergiles99 , I said being honest and upfront was best. He sounds like a decent bloke. Smile

whitedoorbell · 08/05/2014 00:16

neiljames gotta say am with you on the age thing. I am 35 bit would not consider dating a 24 year old Confused