The Dating Thread 74.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

jarlin I do that too which is my version of backing off. I'm not sure whether they notice.

Hello, can I join in? I've been lurking and taking in support for my anxiety about OLD by proxy, but tonight am crippled with trying not to text a guy (Welshboy) I had a lovely first date with last week. I met him on tinder (but am also on eharmony - talk about polar opposites!) and we've agreed to go out again on Sunday. Would prob have been sooner but I'm busy every other night, and now I'm free on Sat and REALLY want to ask him to go out sooner, but don't want to come across as too desperate. He's the first person I've internet dated that I liked the instant we met, but he told me that he is feeling a bit jaded after a failed relationship and some dates where the women never even got back in touch.

Just got a text
You want Togo out for tea tomorrow night instead of cooking ?

I said tbh I'm shattered and its already prepared

He said ok I'll get nice bottle wine, run a bath for u and we can relax , I'll even lend u Pjs

All nice but now I'm worried he to nice why isn't this simple lol

jesy is that what will actually happen. is he that nice in real life?
if he genuinely means it then I think you are over thinking it.
I can see it seems v strange to us more cynical ladies who have already been round the block once but I think you should sit back and enjoy it xx

He is that nice and that scares me
Stupid stuff like always gets me a drink of wAter at night,makes 'm e a cupa in morning, was worried when I had worlds fastest shower t here was issue.
He a 'm ale tart I k ow but I want to give him a chance I like his company , sex is good plus he mAkes me laugh x

jesy send him my way then lol!!!

I do know what you mean. is tough to get your head around. baldy is v nice. he gets out of bed to make drinks. washed my knickers clothes I left at his house and keeps asking if hw should open or close the windows etc in case I am too hot or cold.

is v wierd after years if shit!

broken whats going on? are you ok?

I did pof and okcupid.

apparently okcupid full of wierdos eligible batchelors from oxford.

I met baldy on okcupid. can't comment on site cos I live near oxford but certainly lots of wierdos!!!

White
Even wen I wasn't well he was nice and on our early date I got period he just lent me pjs and pain killers
I know I like him more than he like me tho

What is it with (some) men?? I wonder if they were dropped on their heads as babies!

I have been chatting to this guy, not Friday's coffee date. He sent messages in text talk, it's a major pet hate, I even have it on my damn profile I don't like it.

Anyway, he messaged me, text talk, I asked him not too, he agreed. Not the next message but the one after he sent U instead of you, I corrected him but in a jokey way. Next message full of text talk, asking me for a date. I told him I would go on a date but only if he quit the damn text talk or otherwise he could stop messaging me as I made it quite clear I hate it. He vanished! What a f@*%ing prat!!

Broken I'm on POF and Smooch.

dd maybe you shoulf try one of the high brow Sites like guardian soul mates?

same bullshit but wider vocabularies! !!

its all "trekking the foothills of the himalayas" and "acid jazz gigs in basement clubs" rather than your cock shots and fish on pof

Jarlin Seriously, I hate it with a passion. Not even my DC text me in text speak they know how much I hate it. Yep, well rid. If he can't accept something I hate so much he is probably a Beano reader or would order me tea when I asked for coffee. Grrr.

I can't get Tinder, I have a Windows phone. Sorry.

Whitedoor That made me laugh, thank you! This was on Smooch, I think it's time to give it up as a bad job and try OKC.

this thread moves so fast and is so brilliant

dd my one date off pof... guy lives with his mum. tinkerbell was his hero and hobby was collecting superman comics.
give me strength!

minime hope you're feeling less insecure?

I am happy girl for the next half hour or so because baldy texting me from Italy. .. some business trip thing. we have plans for Friday.
watch this space tho because in half an hour I will be back in insecure central!

whitedoor thanks. yes finally got messages and tried to play it as cool as I could! argh! its so hard its like you say one minute happy girl next rollercoaster of doubt. this thread really helps though glad I de lurked and joined which is thanks to folk so thank you folk

thanks jarlin

Right, I'm back early from a total mess but I'll get to that later.
I'll try and answer some questions first.
Regarding texts, yes, some men do agonise over texts.
1st category: Pieces of shit that use and abuse women and use texts as intimidation and a form of destroying their confidence and trying to convince them that they're lucky to have them as no other man could possibly be interested in them.
2nd category: Blokes who just ignore any texts off women to keep them dangling and treat it like a game to pad their over-inflated ego's.
3rd category: The ones who pretend they don't care if the woman texts but keep checking their phone desperately hoping she does.
4th category: The ones that unashamedly sit by the phone and respond immediately but act aloof.
5th category: The ones who constantly pester the woman with texts and have future plans of wearing matching jackets.
So yes, most men want the texts but react to them in different ways. I'm sorry but that's as clear as I can make it.
I hope you appreciate this because I'm risking the higher powers of the MRA giving me a poisoned tipped umbrella up the arse or a radioactive teapot.

My shitty 'date' got me to buy her 4 vodka and cokes and 2 baileys with ice, then threatened another woman for talking to me at the bar. Cowardly as it is, I waited until she went for a piss and left. I've no doubt I'll be getting a mouthful off someone tomorrow.
I'm getting so disheartened now. Is this the kind of shit I've got to look forward to?

Whitedoor You're joking - right? Tinkerbell and Superman comics, a grown man? Living at home I could understand depending on his situation, but the rest... Shakes head and heads off to put the kettle on laughing.

awww neiljames shame it's against the rules of thr thread or I would go out with you.

hang on... which category are you in???

Don't give up. we are all in this together xxx

dd I am not joking. obviously I didn't discover the tinkerbell thing or comic thing till we had dinner. not a cat in hells chance I would have gone otherwise. ..

actually that isn't strictly true. I was flattered by him... he messaged me saying "white can I just say that I think you are awesome!". I was a bit but quite flattered.
also I had met baldy for coffee the week before and had arranged to meet again but I thought it would jinx it if I put all my eggs in one basket iyswim so I agreed to go out with mr tinkerbell.

worst part was that he vanished after the date. .. I guess at least I didn't have to say "good luck and hapoy fishing"