About to loose everything

[Blossomflowers]

I need some wise words to stop me jumping of the nearest bridge. Last year spilt with long term partner of 20 years in December ( I asked him to leave) since spilt was coping getting on with life. Even dating ( have another thread) anyway fast forward few weeks life has turned on its head, suffered a break in, car stolen, having extreme bad luck with work so am totally financially screwed atm. Also been seeing X again, which oddly has been really nice. I am in a total mess, actually could not get out of bed this morning, am really really down and do not know what to do or who to turn too. Some wise words please

Online food delivery?

Ignore texts from your ex. He isn't going to make things better for you so why bother with him.

He was nowhere near when you needed money.

This is tough tough tough. Keep posting.

I'm being a nosy soul looking out the window at the removal van is parked two doors down. I'm not sure whether it is someone coming in or out as the last tenants were evicted after she thumped the landlady. It makes a change from the official guys seizing a load of cars next door was working on yesterday. I sort of envy you being away from it all. Do Morrisons deliver near you yet? They use Ocado, very flash service.

Witter on about anything, good luck!

He keeps texting has called me twice ignored but feeling really sad.. Keeps asking if anything he can do, so said he can pick his son up from school. No other way to get him back.

Can you borrow a bike? A 10 mile pootle should only take 45 mins. How old is DS? Does he have any close friends that you could call in a favour to drop him home after school? Can the 14 yr friends help - it's only 2 days?

Sod the grass - it's good for the bees.

www.rspb.org.uk/community/wildlife/homesforwildlife/b/gardeningforwildlife/archive/2012/05/31/long-grass-that-looks-great.aspx

Tread, love the grass. Yes it is official my garden is a jungle.
Son is 14 but would never let him cycle such a dangerous road.

Get your son to cut the grass Blossom.

Am going too lazy little sod, is a right Kevin at the moment

He has a duty to look after his son. Doing something to look after his son is sort of the bare, scraping-by minimum.

hugs. Keep posting.

I do enough for bees, we have them in our chimney. They cause no bother.

I love bees

Our bees are brilliant. They have been there for years. It just makes get the roof fixed interesting.

Father (lives with us) has decided to plant an apple and a damson right against the house are just what we need. He said they were dwarf varieties, but I'm not convinced. Lots of blossom this year so if the bees have done their stuff we should have a barrel load of apples and three damsons.

Choose a new car yesterday put small deposit down and waiting for insurance money, is a Mini, so cute, blue and white. I am still without a car but will have to make the best of things this weekend, lots of food in freezer will have to be creative.

I just pulled a ceiling rose down on me. It could happen to anyone. I'm fine but I may have to learn to paper a ceiling.

A mini sounds great - lots of fun! Creative is also good - will DS get on board and join in with meal planning?

Ceiling rose, how on earth did you manage that.
DS tends spend weekend with his mates, I hope the sun comes out am going to try and plant some seeds for Veg garden.

It's a long story. The room is at the top of the house and now that the roof is mended is drying out. The paper on the ceiling is coming off as a consequence and today I touched it to try and trim some of the stuff and it all just came down. Some utter numpty had put a large ceiling rose on top of the paper on the ceiling so when the paper came down so did the plaster rose and I had to cut the light fitting off to get it down before it pulled all the electrics down. I said some rude words.

I'm slightly envious of your veg plans. We have a yard with a few flower beds in and father who lives with us is very clear that we do not grow veg in them.

Update- Well I would like to say I stayed away from X this weekend but did not, but quite frankly we had a lovely weekend, we pulled resources as both skint ( hopefully I will be in a better place moneywise as money should be coming in) I am managing to keep less emotional. He has invited me out to meet his new friends, not sure if I should go. Still keeping chatting on OLD. Am feeling a little better, was so low last week. I was worried for my own MH tbh, just too much stress.

I've no idea what's going on between you and X, just crossing fingers and toes that you'll make right choices for you. What I'm loving is how you and LisaMed talk! Now that's friendship and sound advice all rolled into one

tipsy there are some great woman on here and so great to chat. I was in such a dark place recently, had a break in, car stolen, real money issues. But now starting to see light at the ned of the tunnel.

Yes, that is the awesome thing about tunnels. No matter how endless and dark they seem they absolutely have to end ... i'm so wishing you good luck and for your new car to be with you soon!

Yea some of insurance came into the bank account this morning, not enough to buy car but settle a few important bills and a tleast we can eat and put petrol in the car, what a state to get into. Still confused about everything., not surprising I suppose

Found you. Hello again. If wishes were horses we'd be riding to the rescue. What great advice upthread. I'm glad insurance money has come through.

I'm aware you have a long history with ex but that's what it is. History. He is utterly devoted to himself! You're an intelligent woman and I know you know that. The longer he hangs around knowing that you soften and put the welcome mat out of course he will boomerang back.

And what does DS glean from all this?
Dad does his usual and Mum gets cross then when Dad gets worried Mum is doing just fine without him, Dad acts nice again. So when shit hits the fan and Mum looks at Dad for help and support Dad backs off again and plays the victim.

DS is 14 but he is learning how adults run their lives and work together. You're giving DS unstinting love and trying to keep the wheels turning and he is being a normal teenager but let his DF do his dad bit (however flakily) don't let DS think this is how caring adults treat each other.

And that's the sermon over.

Waves to donkey oh I know. This has rocked me, I was doing so well. I am doing ok this week, much better than last, I was so so low. Just wish X could stay like this but know from history his bad side will rear it's ugly head, just protecting myself, am ready and armed. ATM our relationship is amazing but just know it is going to end in tears some time soon.

My take (which is based on the internet, so not set in stone) is that he is nice to you when he thinks he can get back into your relationship. He slips, now and again, but that is his goal, I think, now that hordes of pretty blondes aren't beating a path to his door.

I think it may be worth while going back to your original threads and looking at what it was like actually in a relationship with him. I think it may also be worth looking at how he is with stuff like money. Is he still hoarding 'antiques' and how is that going? Has his attitude changed towards that? If it has then it may be worth reassessing.

All normal here. The rain is wet enough to get me soggy but not enough to properly soak the garden. I will be going out with an umbrella and a watering can later on. The neighbours are used to me.

Better getting along together than animosity, for DS's sake. Just maybe try and keep the how did Borat put it, ah yes 'sexy time' a separate issue.

Yy, pouring down here too. Hoping the stuff we put in the garden that I worried might get parched doesn't now rot.

That ceiling rose episode must have been beyond tiresome Lisa.

Donkey - stuff like that always happens to me, it made me giggle. We haven't decorated here since the Flood so perhaps I need to get round to it.