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Original poster

please help me

258 replies

iambigfatmess · 15/04/2014 23:40

I went and saw myfamily today for four hours haven't seen them since Christmas dh has gone mad. He is so cpntrolling. I can't do this any more I want toleave but he says I will loose dc

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Custardo · 18/04/2014 01:13

good luck and well done!

cozietoesie · 18/04/2014 16:42

Just to say, OP, that there is another place which is just a tad more private - it can't be googled for example. If you were to want to change your user name and post there, I'm sure that the posters on this thread would be happy to direct you.

yoyo27 · 19/04/2014 15:57

Really hope things are okay OP. Xx

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 20/04/2014 21:28

He is being nice now kids are ok thanks for the support so much happier at the moment

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cozietoesie · 20/04/2014 21:43

Did you go back to him or stay at the other place?

yoyo27 · 20/04/2014 21:51

Reading between the lines I think she may have gone back x

Coconutty · 20/04/2014 21:55

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cozietoesie · 20/04/2014 21:59

Quite right, Coconutty.

cestlavielife · 20/04/2014 22:01

he trod on your foot? and has hurt you before?
there is no excuse for this - do you you stamp on people when they annoy you? it is abuse and assault call womens aid and report to hv/gp/police .

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 20/04/2014 22:01

I haven't gone back sorry meant the threats have stopped

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makemineapinot · 20/04/2014 22:03

So glad to gear you haven't gone back! Hope you and dc are ok. Sorry I've not been around - been out of signal visiting relations. But your support network us still strong!!!

cozietoesie · 20/04/2014 22:20

Well everyone's still here for you. The DCs are OK you said?

Have you given any thought to the future (schools, job etc) yet or are you still a bit too tired?

yoyo27 · 20/04/2014 23:25

That's great news. And fab to hear you're happy xx

Atbeckandcall · 21/04/2014 08:20

I'm so happy for you and your children. Happier times ahead!!

Coconutty · 21/04/2014 09:28

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AMillionNameChangesLater · 27/04/2014 20:14

It's been a week, I just wanted to see how you were doing

I hope you are ok

prettymess · 27/04/2014 21:36

Think

prettymess · 27/04/2014 21:36

Thinking of you OP

SnotandBothered · 27/04/2014 21:56

Hi OP

I am thinking of you also. Hoping that you've managed to stay strong and that you are your DC are giving each other strength.

Please don't feel you can't post if you have gone back. The support won't stop - if anything, it will increase.

BuzzardBird · 27/04/2014 21:59

Well done Op and thank you for update. I hope the dcs are ok?

Appletini · 28/04/2014 07:59

OP you have done so well to leave. He is being nice in an attempt to fool you into going back.

DO NOT GO BACK.

It WAS that bad.

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 01/05/2014 19:17

First step on the long road to divorce started thank you all so much

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BitOutOfPractice · 01/05/2014 19:19

Oh that is great news. I hope you are proud of yourself!

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 01/05/2014 19:24

Terrified and feel very guilty about the kids and also him

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blueeyedmonster · 01/05/2014 19:37

I have been following this and you are brave and should be hugely proud of yourself. What you have done isn't easy by any means but now you will wrap the rewards and finally start to lead a happy life. I think a name change is on the cards for you. A big fat mess you are not!

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