'met' this guy on OD site. Few messages, emails, couple of phone calls, not actually met up yet.
Have tentatively arranged a first meet on Thursday. In my mind all was ok, but then he's asked if i'd fancy a stroll in the lanes behind the restaurant we're meeting at.
For some reason this has thrown me completely. It goes against all the guides on safe dating. I know that area like the back of my hand as it goes, and even have friends who live there, but still... all I can think of is the Crimewatch reconstruction.
It's brought into sharp focus what I don't know about this guy:
His full name
Who he works for (apparently in same place as I live)
I know approximately where he lives, but not exactly
The email address he uses he told me he's set up specifically for OD contact
He doesn't have a mobile that works in the house, and he's not allowed to take it to work
Considering the mobile network issues, I don't have his home number either, but not sure if that's relevant. He doesn't have mine either, but has my mobile.
On his OD profile, it mentions somewhere that he finds it hard to trust people
The profile was set up on eHarmony, but he never became a full member. There's no photo, i've not seen one.
I sent him the pic from my profile, as you can't see them either unless you're a member (only realised this recently) he never commented at all on my photo, and hasn't sent one back.
Until the 'would you consider a stroll' comment, I was prepared to meet him. Now i'm not at all sure.
Am I being over cautious? Am I allowing my paranoia from previous abusive relationships cloud this?
I have a DS, if anything happened to me, the options he has for ongoing care are dire! Abusive dad (abusive to me only, adores his son, but lives in a shithole of a country i'd not want ds to go to) my family are a bunch of bastards, am NC with them, and as am not christian or anything, ds has no godparents.
Am I being melodramatic?
I think in posting this i've answered my own question, but some input from fellow MNers would be most welcome.
Secondly, how do I cancel this? Tell him the truth, or just fake an excuse?