DCs went on holiday (abroad) with soon to be ex H, supposed to be back y'day - no sign.

[januarycat]

early stages of divorce.

The 3yo hasn't ever spent a night away from me. they were supposed to be back y'day. h phoned today to say it will be sunday. he said he'd told me when they left - he didn't, in fact he said they would travel thursday, be back following thursday.

he is playing games & was being very 'oh, dear, did you forget I told you it would be sunday?'

he has made threats in the past to take them away.

I have phoned the police (101) to log it. they said phone back on sunday if no sign & think about getting a court order.

he thinks it's funny & was being patronising & sarcastic on the phone, he finished the call by saying how lovely it was to talk to me. he is doing what he knows will hurt me the most.

Did I do the right thing calling the police. h is emotionally abusive & i often doubt how I feel/think/react.

Thanks for any advice.

So they have supposedly been en route home for 24 hours? Is that right?

Keeping fingers crossed for you that they are home very soon xx

Hope they're back soon. Your ex is a total arse.

Nightmare situation

Thinking of you OP

It's 11:30 - if they aren't back yet and you are still getting an international dialing tone, call the police and tell them this.

Also add the advice to meet him in the street, take your DS from him outside the house and not let him in again is good.

As tempting as it will be to shout at him or tell him you're only going to allow supervised contact from now on (a must given this performance!), don't, he thinks now he's "won" over this, let him enjoy his victory, the reality of what he's lost in the long term will occur to him soon enough, you don't need to give him fair warning.

Traffic around London is snarled up due to the marathon. Hopefully that is relevant to the OP and explains any delay.

Op, I'm thinking of you.
Hope you have your dc in your arms very shortly

When u talk to him, don't mention the police and be calm with him.

U don't want to anger him

Your ex is being a prick but don't panic. It won't help you.
He only said Sunday did he? It might be part of his game to arrive at yours at ten to midnight or something.
What a horrid man. :(

Hope the kids are back with you

Any updates OP? Hope you have some news x

What's the time over there ?

Update ?

((((((((((((((Hugs OP))))))))))))))))

Hopefully she's not posting because she is busy seeing to the DC.

I've been lurking OP as I have very little useful advice but I hope you have your children back now

Who set the midday deadline?

Sending hugs op hope they arrive back soon

Just seen this, really hoping they are back with you now!

Hope they are back with you now OP

I think OP would have posted if they weren't back, so I'm taking this as good news. Fingers and toes crossed.

I have to get a court order before the police will act. They can't do anything until then. I explained EVERYTHING.

Still internat dial tone

The midday deadline set by police as h said they would be back early this am

The original arrangemts were for them to be back thursday just gone.

I do think there should be some fast action. I'd worry he used this time to take them across the world.
I hope you can get the order asap.

Oh god. Can that be right, januarycat? I guess if he has PR and hasn't exceeded the 28 day limit or whatever it is.

I found this by Googling, is it worth contacting the charity mentioned, Reunite? Unfortunately I'd be very surprised if there was anyone answering the phone today.

I really hope there's someone you can speak to today, this is a dreadful situation.