DCs went on holiday (abroad) with soon to be ex H, supposed to be back y'day - no sign.

[januarycat]

early stages of divorce.

The 3yo hasn't ever spent a night away from me. they were supposed to be back y'day. h phoned today to say it will be sunday. he said he'd told me when they left - he didn't, in fact he said they would travel thursday, be back following thursday.

he is playing games & was being very 'oh, dear, did you forget I told you it would be sunday?'

he has made threats in the past to take them away.

I have phoned the police (101) to log it. they said phone back on sunday if no sign & think about getting a court order.

he thinks it's funny & was being patronising & sarcastic on the phone, he finished the call by saying how lovely it was to talk to me. he is doing what he knows will hurt me the most.

Did I do the right thing calling the police. h is emotionally abusive & i often doubt how I feel/think/react.

Thanks for any advice.

Oh gosh OP, what an awful situation. I hope they will be home soon.

OP, you are amazing.

You've done brilliantly, I hope they are home soon for you.

Hope they are home soon x

Poor you.
He's just made it really easy for you to cut him out of your life. Get all contact through a centre and he need not darken your door or fuck with your mental health again.

Stamp on him, do a good job.

Hoping they're home soon for you OP. Glad you have a plan for tomorrow and going forward.

Mothergo has it right, he has over reached himself with his arrogance and desire to hurt you. He's shown he can't be trusted and not just shown you, but shown other people too.

Make notes / take photos and screen shots of every call, text etc.

The police aren't being great, but the vital thing is they'll have made a record of this happening. That's a good thing. Substantiates your case. Well done.

Hand squeeze.

Make sure you record any other calls.
And, if possible, have someone with you when he finally shows up.

January, I am in awe, you are doing amazingly! Tomorrow is the day you kick is arse and set your boundaries.

Oh my gosh the cake looks fantastic. Hope your DCs home soon.

Hand holding what an utter bastard. X

That's made me feel ravenously hungry.

Gorgeous looking cake january what lucky boys they are to have such a good mummy. Can't wait for your update when they arrive home x

Just saw this thread. Hope your DCs are home safe and sound soon.

The cake looks amazing :)

Can only reiterate advice given up thread. Hope your babies are back with you soon. Good luck, be strong x

Cannot believe what you have been through these last few days. This is horrendous. I really feel for you! Lots of hand holding from me!

Any news yet?

You've done unbelievably well. xXx

I hope your dc are home really soon, they will love the cake.
Make sure you do the phone calls tom you need to put things into place to protect you and your dc.

Another one here hoping you have your babies home now... Please update x x

They will LOVE that cake - well done!

Not sure how you can get the passports off him - probably best not to start a row in the doorstep about it - something to ask the solicitor. I can't imagine he is allowed to hang on to them if he does not have residency.

Well done January - onwards and upwards for you and your kids.

I came back to this hoping to read good news

What an utter shit he is

I really hope you have them back soon. You are doing amazingly well.

Did I miss something ? A whole update post ?

JC you are making cakes before you even know where your kids are ? Have you been in contact with the police bearing in mind the Sunday midday deadline has well and truly gone ?

AnyFucker you have missed several updates.
The OP has spoken to her children who are on their way home. She also has a superb plan of action for tomorrow.

Come on now love, come and have a sit down while you catch up..