So the knob has been cheating on me !

[Sonumb]

I posted this in chat Tuesday when it happened and was told about this Topic so thought I'd vent/ maybe get some advice if that's ok , bare with me it may be long

I have been with my Partner for 3 years this month , we weren't living together but were sorting all the logistics out to do so iyswim
Anyway I'm 8 weeks pregnant as we were starting a family hence the moving in together .

I sussed something was 'off' Tuesday as he had said a family member had been taken ill & having not heard from him I checked his sisters Facebook to see if everything was ok at which point I noticed on a status it looked like she were talking to herself the penny kinda dropped then so I went on a different Facebook and their he was on an account he said he didn't have with his arm round some woman all happy and smiley gazing at each other , I still couldn't get hold of him and had sent various texts etc & when I heard from him he didnt even bother to deny it just said he didn't know why wouldn't answer any questions and really hasn't said much since then .

I found out today that she and her son have been staying at his since Friday playing happy families - pictures at the beach and lots of status' about having had a great time and finally found that special somebody and she is the best girlfriend ever

After some digging nosing about on facebook I found out they met on new years day this year yet he told me he couldn't spend the day with me as he was spending time with his Grandad as he was dying & completely ignored my birthday & valentines not that I'm bothered but its the thought iyswim anyway I've gone from been upset and now I'm rather erm volatile/angry
he is coming round tonight to see me so we can talk as he 'loves me' when quite frankly I don't think he would have even answered the phone to me if I weren't carrying his baby

I dunno what to do or what to feel or what to say

I'm not sure what you mean lweji

Ignore the biatches Sonumb they have to pick on someone to get their cheap thrills.

Not you, sonumb.
Some pps. :)

Lweji Ok .

I'm trying my beat to ignore them

Best

Anyway sonumb, how are you doing today. Now we realize why you are so 'together', you have to be for your lovely ds. How are things?

I'm ok Thankyou

Ok so his 'missus' tried to add me on Facebook & sent a message saying if she had known she wouldn't of been with him etc - all pretty standard up until she started going a bit loopy ringing my ex saying I were harassing her & can he tell me to stop

I replied to 2 of her messages one of which I said that I don't want to speak to her & to stop asking me to get my ex to ring her .

She is quite certainly a few screws loose as she keeps messaging asking if all 3 of us can just be friends as it would be better for the baby

At which point I muted her messages as I wanted to show ex what she was saying .
Ex messaged her from my account after seeing all her messages & she said tell your phsycho bitch that if she messages me again that her ex husband will do me in

Her ex husband is also persistently ringing my Ex & telling him/us to leave her alone haven't we hurt her enough

I haven't a clue how to react as she is telling anybody that will listen that this is all my fault

Stop contacting your ex and her. Particularly if not written messages
If she contacts you again tell her to stop or you'll report it to the police. If she does, then report as harassment.

Keep yourself well out of their mess.

I would have a chat with your local police in case this turns into serious harassment. They are threatening you and whilst I am sure you can handle yourself you have your ds to think of. I would also block her on fb as I have a feeling this will turn into a classic Jeremy Kyle with her.

I only contacted my ex as she was telling him I were been abusive etc so I just showed him all her messages
I have blocked her she is mad as a box of frogs

Don't let your ex message from your account. It looks like you send them not him.

Stop communicating with either of them right now.

If she contacts you again now you have told her not to go to the police.

Don't discuss with your ex leave him to sort himself out.

As little as a day or so ago he couldn't even decide if he wanted to be with his pregnant fiancé.

You owe him nothing.

Leave them to their own sorry mess.

I know I just didn't want to be seen as a liar , I'm trying to keep my head held high iyswim

Understandable I think.

How are things, Sonumb?

Tbh everything is feeling a bit crap atm as had a horrid easter & I had a 'black out' earlier

Thanks for asking

Oh, heck, what sort of a blackout? Are you safe?

I'm sorry to hear your easter was horrid. Mine was just like any other Sunday, tbh - it rained on the washing, there's nothing on telly, and I can't be bothered to cook

Wow sonumb, what an awful time for you!!!

You really do sound so strong.....you're fab! Stay strong and don't play in to their hands. And if you continue to get messages from her, screen shot them all and go to your police station and get it reported. Even if they don't do anything about it, it still needs to be on file xx

I haven't heard from her since the last message thankfully

Ds was in a foul mood all day & due to such a crappy week and lots of bills I couldn't even afford to do an Easter Dinner so Ds ended up with Noodles for Dinner & an Omlette for tea

So feeling rather useless atm.

I'm safe luckily Ds had gone to bed , Think I just need a decent nights sleep

Pfft, noodles & omelettes are fine. You did eggs, that's easter-ish!

I'm relieved to hear you're safe, and that crazy woman hasn't been back in touch. Snuggle up & sleep well!

Garlic

Sleep seems to be evading me at the moment

Know the feeling sonumb. You need it though. You should be sleeping the 'sleep of the just' which just goes to show that there is no justice :(

I can agree with you on that Buzzard unfortunately .

Nothing wise to add, just this Hope the blackouts have stopped and you get some sleep

Hi OP I just wanted to say that I'm just appalled at the mauling you got here

I hope you are OK. Have you ended it with your "D"P?

FWIW I had a similar thing hapen to me. I found out (by a chance FB comment as it happens) that my DP of 5 years had been livinga similarly double life whilst working away. I can assure all the doubters that I am not stupid of gullible or any of the things you've been accused of. This kind of shit really does happen in RL

Take care