So the knob has been cheating on me !

[Sonumb]

I posted this in chat Tuesday when it happened and was told about this Topic so thought I'd vent/ maybe get some advice if that's ok , bare with me it may be long

I have been with my Partner for 3 years this month , we weren't living together but were sorting all the logistics out to do so iyswim
Anyway I'm 8 weeks pregnant as we were starting a family hence the moving in together .

I sussed something was 'off' Tuesday as he had said a family member had been taken ill & having not heard from him I checked his sisters Facebook to see if everything was ok at which point I noticed on a status it looked like she were talking to herself the penny kinda dropped then so I went on a different Facebook and their he was on an account he said he didn't have with his arm round some woman all happy and smiley gazing at each other , I still couldn't get hold of him and had sent various texts etc & when I heard from him he didnt even bother to deny it just said he didn't know why wouldn't answer any questions and really hasn't said much since then .

I found out today that she and her son have been staying at his since Friday playing happy families - pictures at the beach and lots of status' about having had a great time and finally found that special somebody and she is the best girlfriend ever

After some digging nosing about on facebook I found out they met on new years day this year yet he told me he couldn't spend the day with me as he was spending time with his Grandad as he was dying & completely ignored my birthday & valentines not that I'm bothered but its the thought iyswim anyway I've gone from been upset and now I'm rather erm volatile/angry
he is coming round tonight to see me so we can talk as he 'loves me' when quite frankly I don't think he would have even answered the phone to me if I weren't carrying his baby

I dunno what to do or what to feel or what to say

Goodness, he is a cowardly git. I am so sorry this is happening to you, especially at a time you should be extremely excited about the future.
However, you come across as being incredibly strong, I can't imagine how hard it is for you right now and how uncertain the future is but I think you will do great.

Take care of yourself and your baby.

Hope you're OK today OP. You've done the right thing although it probably doesn't feel that way at the moment. You clearly threw him by acting so decisively. Not very good at thinking on his feet was he? Resist the temptation to get in touch with him because, once the adrenalin wears off, you may feel very low. Look after yourself, stay strong and add to your thread if you need support from others.

I wonder if she knows you're pregnant. Although I wouldn't do or say nothing right now. She might dump him and he might try to weasel back to you.

So started this affair while simultaneously, actively trying to get PG with you? And in the aftermath of your miscarriage?

He sounds lovely.

How old are you both? I'm not sure if your mental health is 'very bad' then you should be having a baby with no supportive partner at home and no friends or family.

Sonumb, I hope you're okay today. You sound great by the way - I'm really sorry that this has happened to you.

Michello, Sonumb said that her partner was planning to move in with her, so she thought that she would have a partner living with her when she has the baby.

I'm 26 & he is 30 .
She knows im pregnant I made sure of it

How do you feel about raising this baby alone op?

What an utter bastard, and his family are no better.

Where are your family?

Hugs and chocolate from me x

I think Sonumb just needs to think about the present at the moment.

You are doing really well, you must read a lot of advice on here because you appear to be doing everything right. I am in awe of you. I know you will have bad times but you know that the support is here.

I fell out with my family a long time ago .

I'll tty and post back in a bit as I'm gonna get a bit of sleep Thanks

Hope you got some sleep OP?

Nope I can't seem to fall asleep even though I can barely keep my eyes open

Well I have cheered up immensely

I found out she is 42,twice the size of me and resembles a troll, she is only 3 years younger than my mum ffs and while I'm at it what grown woman thinks its ok to do to this to somebody that's half her age and pregnant?

She new I were pregnant as the day I told my ex he announced it on Facebook ffs & people were talking on the status n she's like oh no its not me so everybody was well confused

Still I find it hilarious that she is 42 no wonder his mum likes her they are almost the same age

I don't mean any offence about the age apart from her its just hilarious in this situation

You come across as very strong, stronger than you seem to realise. Take what you can from this, you have done nothing wrong, he is obviously a shit and better you find out now than years down the line.

Now you need to focus on your health and the health of your baby. Be kind to yourself and take care. They may deserve each other but you deserve better. For now it is far better to be alone than with someone who doesn't value you.

What did I miss ?

I'm older than her but I am not insulted Op :) she obviously hasn't got wiser with age bas she? Perhaps he got confused when he said he wanted you to be a mother he actually meant his mother? You are still sounding strong at the moment Op,how are you doing?

at the mother comment that rings so true

I'm feeling ok today still not managed to sleep more than two hours , I've an appointment with the doctor next week

So numb..you are not giving yourself enough credit.You sound very strong.Well done you.Given your circumstances it would be very easy for you to give into his pathetic excuses. Stick to your guns and live your life with your baby .Better off without him love.

Thank you

So, he found a mother figure for him?

She must have incredible low self esteem to still be with him after knocking another woman pregnant while with him.

You do have to feel sorry for her. He's likely to cheat on her too...

I get what you mean but I don't feel the slightest bit sorry for her though I don't think he will be seeing/hearing from her again

Why, have they split?

Yeah its such a shame and was nothing to do with me