So I'm to fat to have sex with!!!

[Katecake]

Since I got pregnant (unplanned) things have gone from bad to worse, was already having issues regarding his drinking and some messages he sent to a ex while drunk and he really did not want the baby, he seemed to change his tune when I was 6 weeks and said he did and was looking forward to having baby!

So now this is where we are, in 16 weeks pregnant, I'm very slim and 5"6 and a size 8 being 4 months pregnant I have got a little pot belly really nothing major people at work etc havenot even noticed yet!

Since we got back together we have not had sex at all, not a cuddle anything! He constantly says things like we will have sex after the baby is born and I have got my figure back or that he could never get a hard on for a fat girl etc!

If I was 38 weeks I might understand this but I have always been lucky that even after 3 pregnancies in 3 years I have always snapped straight back to a very slim size 8 with no stretch marks etc and good boobs because I have implants from when I was 22!

Now my problems here are the ex he was messaging last year begging for sex was not the Slim 19 year old model he was with, 14 years later and a few kids she is holding a lot more weight!

He is actually making me feel shit about myself and it upsets me, we have spoken about this a few times over the last few weeks and still he has made no effort!

Today we had crossed words about it and he just went home claiming a a hormonal pregnant cow!

I'm just starting to think this might not be about how I'm looking at the moment maybe more that he just does not want this baby atall and is feeling trapped into having to do the right thing!

I just find myself crying every weekend, I feel gross and can't get my head round why he wouldn't want any intimacy with me (the girl he apprantly loves) but would message a overweight ex for sex!

just starting to wonder if it's worth it, should I just end it and let him off with the responsibility of being a father?

He sounds like a shithead. You are NOT gross. Get shot of him. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Simple, ltb

Why would you want to have sex with such a git? Sorry but he sounds shallow and selfish, not to mention unfaithful, and you are better off without him.

It isn't about your size. He was just trying to come up with a nasty enough insult to get you to shut up. He sounds a right twunt.

You can lose weight very quickly if you want OP.

Simply pack the arseholes stuff up and tell him to sling his hook.

Easily losing around 14 stone in one swift motion.

You don't need people in your life who make you feel like crap.

Good luck with your pregnancy

Confuddled in this thread has got the other end of the pregnant sex stick.

should I just end it and let him off with the responsibility of being a father?
Yes end it, but make sure you are at least getting CSA even if he doesn't take any practical responsibility for being a father

Your problem isn't that you are too fat to have sex with. Your problem is that he's a cunt.

And your not fat! Even if you were further along you still wouldn't be fat. You are growing a baby. And it's got nothing to do with his ex's appearance either.

He's being completely awful to avoid having sex with you.
Maybe he can't? Dies he drink or do drugs?
Actually, scratch that, it's not your problem. How much does he weigh? That's how much weight you need to loose.

He is a cunt.

god what an asshole. He should be thrilled to get to have sex with you and be with you. If he isn't, he has mental problems and a fuckload of immaturity. Don't let him make you feel bad.

Omg.

Ltb. That's unbelievable!

Nah Meh Nah

I don't actually want to even have sex with him now, he has just made me feel so rejected and worthless that I can't be bothered because I know at best all I would get would be a "roll over and I will stick it in"

If I was as shallow as him then I wouldn't even be pregnant because he has actually out on well over a stone since I have been with him and got a right gut! Maybe I should of stated I couldn't get turned on by a overweight drunk!

Tell him to fuck off, and mean it.

www.itv.com/jeremykyle/be-a-guest

It has NOTHING to do with your size! It is him being mentally and emotionally abusive. Even if you were the size of a fecking bus, his attitude would be inexcusable!

OP, you might also want to check your own judgements about body size and women's attractiveness, tbh

You seem mainly pissed off that he is directing this sort of shit at you but it appears you agree with his basic premise.

Food for thought ? or too deep for you ?

Totally agree AF.

Is it because you're a size 8 and ping back that you're pissed off?? Would it be ok if you were a size 18?

Anyfucker, I have no problems with anyone's body size, I like the size and shape I am and I have always been perfectly happy and comfortable with it, likewise I have no problem with anyone else's body shape or size, each to there own and as long as there happy that's the most important things! One of the most beautiful attractive people I know is what would be classed as overweight but the reason I think she is do beautiful is because she full of confidence and carries herself so well and is 100% happy in her own body, I'm not saying only stick thin is attractive!

This post was not to slag off the size of his ex it was to state how upset and worthless he is making me feel! He is the one who clearly has issues with females weight/size etc! And I was trying to get across a point of if this is what he is like then why would be chase a overweight person for sex when Apprantly it grosses him out?

Like I said I'm not shallow, I didn't stop having sex with him or find him less attractive because he out in weight!

Please stop saying the ex is fat though because that makes you sound as bad as him.
He sounds like an arse but sexual attraction is about more than just looks and figure so it's perfectly plausible that he lusts after her more than he does you even if she is a fuze 12 and you're an 8!

That said, he's a tosser who seems unable to face up to his responsibilities. You are having his child and he needs to face up to that. Clearly your relationship is shit and only you can decide whether that's temp due to the shock of impending fatherhood or (as is likely) you and he are not meant to be. I think you should call it a day and concentrate on your baby.

he does not want the baby.

he is treating you like shit.

LTB

Xposts with AF!

This is meant kindly love, but you are taking how he is supposed to feel about women and applying his logic to yourself. So, you obviously agree on some level.

You seem proud of your ability to "spring back" to a size 8 and about how your breast implants ensure they are still acceptable to a male gaze

Take the male gaze out of all this and what are you left with ?

he is a cunt, and you go along with it

what you should be doing is telling him to fuck off back to his ex because he messaged her for sex

why haven't you done that if you are not somehow competing with her ?