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So I'm to fat to have sex with!!!

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Katecake · 06/04/2014 15:43

Since I got pregnant (unplanned) things have gone from bad to worse, was already having issues regarding his drinking and some messages he sent to a ex while drunk and he really did not want the baby, he seemed to change his tune when I was 6 weeks and said he did and was looking forward to having baby!

So now this is where we are, in 16 weeks pregnant, I'm very slim and 5"6 and a size 8 being 4 months pregnant I have got a little pot belly really nothing major people at work etc havenot even noticed yet!

Since we got back together we have not had sex at all, not a cuddle anything! He constantly says things like we will have sex after the baby is born and I have got my figure back or that he could never get a hard on for a fat girl etc!

If I was 38 weeks I might understand this but I have always been lucky that even after 3 pregnancies in 3 years I have always snapped straight back to a very slim size 8 with no stretch marks etc and good boobs because I have implants from when I was 22!

Now my problems here are the ex he was messaging last year begging for sex was not the Slim 19 year old model he was with, 14 years later and a few kids she is holding a lot more weight!

He is actually making me feel shit about myself and it upsets me, we have spoken about this a few times over the last few weeks and still he has made no effort!

Today we had crossed words about it and he just went home claiming a a hormonal pregnant cow!

I'm just starting to think this might not be about how I'm looking at the moment maybe more that he just does not want this baby atall and is feeling trapped into having to do the right thing!

I just find myself crying every weekend, I feel gross and can't get my head round why he wouldn't want any intimacy with me (the girl he apprantly loves) but would message a overweight ex for sex!

just starting to wonder if it's worth it, should I just end it and let him off with the responsibility of being a father?

OP posts:
RedFocus · 07/04/2014 09:23

Why would you want to be with someone who is so shallow?
If my dh said something like that to me he would find himself single pretty sharpish!

andsmile · 07/04/2014 09:27

I dot think OP has body issues - she mentioned her size, the exP's comments and the exP's exGF to illustrate that he was contradicting himself. This was to underline the fact he was using so called 'fatness' just to be nasty as he really didnt want to be the relationship. He did to provoke the OP into ending because he is twat with no guts. Simple.

MillyJones · 07/04/2014 16:42

Your Welcome Kate. Think you just have to ignore the people who just like to look for hidden agenda to have a go at people for. Usually unhappy people. Good Luck with the future x

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