small problem in new relationship

[brittanyspierce]

I met a lovely man who I've been seeing for a couple of months now, he's kind, funny and smart and I enjoy spending time with him but... we dtd for the first time last week and he has a tiny penis!!
I'm just not sure I can stay with someone if the sex is disappointing?
Obviously this is not something that is going to change or improve but wonder is this something I can become accustomed to? Is it just not what I'm used to or is it a deal breaker?

[croquet]

To all the objectors - surely this is the kind of thing women ought to be able to ask each other about on the internet? It's not a nice topic, no - but there are enough people who have had the same quandary. I don't think people should tell the OP she shouldn't have asked.

If you can't sheepishly ask advice on an awkward problem in an anonymous online forum then where can you?!

[LoisPuddingLane]

It is possible, as a lady, to train your flange to "feel" smaller things. That's what our muscles are for. I actually like a smaller dildo these days.

[TalisaMaegyr]

Oh I have no problem with the question being asked! That's what places like this are for. It's opinions like 'if you stay with someone with a little cock, you'll probably end up cheating' that I have an issue with.

Anyway, as an aside - in my experience, men with a big one are usually crap in bed. They don't make an effort, because they seem to think that the sheer size of them is enough Well, it isn't.

[croquet]

Ah ok Talisa. And an interesting observation!

[yummystepford]

There is nothing wrong with ending a relationship because you are not sexually compatible. Sex shouldn't be an issue so early on. I sometimes think men deserve the benefit of the doubt the first time, in theory they should be very eager and not have had sex recently in theory, which may affect performance.

But everytime I've given a nice guy another chance I have not really seen much improvement and have soon gone off him anyway.

I am so happy that I ended a couple of relationships for that reason, how can you fall in love with someone if they are disappointing you in the most intimate way.

I have an amazing man who is also amazing in bed and we are very compatible. I've never felt so close to anyone else and he makes me so happy, I think the good sex makes everything so much happier in general. I'm glad I waited for him to come along!

I do believe if you feel disappointed now those feelings will only increase. I'm sure if it had have been good and you had felt a good connection to him you wouldn't have even questioned whether or not his penis size would be an issue. Clearly it's sex with him in general. Good luck xx

[normalishdude]

Deal breaker for sure. I have dumped women because of their vagina size.

[yummystepford]

Men with bigger dicks aren't always crap in bed! My oh is pretty massive and very talented and has brilliant endurance

[EyelinerQueen]

Exactly yummy.

There's been no mention of the holy grail that is a man who is very well endowed and knows how to use it??

Or maybe I've just been very lucky so far in my life .

[TalisaMaegyr]

I didn't say all of them, did I? I said IN MY EXPERIENCE!

[kentishgirl]

( "the holy grail that is a man who is very well endowed and knows how to use it??god yes )

Size doesn't guarantee good or bad. You can have too much, or too little, though, and it effects what sort of sex you can have (positions etc). Real micropenises make penetrative sex rather disappointing - you and they have to be willing to make up for it in other ways.

The OP's chap doesn't have a micro though, just a skinny. I'd agree with other posters that these are the best, but they still do the job if you and he put in the effort.

Try again, OP, he might surprise you. I don't think first time sex is a good reflection of how things will be when you both relax a bit.

[betman]

I once went out with a man with a small penis (about the size of my thumb) and the sex was crap. He always tried hard but couldn't take any hints of how to improve things. My husband has a large penis and is great in bed. If it's not right it's not right and for me good sex is a deal breaker.

[AmyMorris4974260]

TalisaMaegyr,I am entitled to my opinion,and am speaking from practical experience.If the guy only has a small dick,why should you have to put up with rubbish sex all your life.Your only live once.It seems like someone like would put up with the rubbish sex,and would be really missing out on the greatest pleasure in life,which is good quality sex.You must be crazy TalisaMaegyr.

It does seem from reading other posts that most women on here are in agreement with me.With one recent woman saying,

"I am so happy that I ended a couple of relationships for that reason, how can you fall in love with someone if they are disappointing you in the most intimate way.

I have an amazing man who is also amazing in bed and we are very compatible. I've never felt so close to anyone else and he makes me so happy, I think the good sex makes everything so much happier in general. I'm glad I waited for him to come along!"

I couldn't agree more with her,as since leaving the small dick guys I have encounted,I am now with a man who is shall we say is very generous in the dick department.Gives me orgasm after orgasm,and have never felt better.

[LoisPuddingLane]

If I were a small-membered chap, it would shrink even smaller reading this thread. Personally I have never really enjoyed a big, big one. I think it just depends on the shape you are inside, to some extent. Having my ovaries shaken never did a lot for me.

[GarlicMarchHare]

Well, apart from a couple of iffy phrases, Lois, this thread has been all about how different things work for different people. A lot of women don't need PIV at all for satisfaction; I envy that. With those whose sexuality requires a penis, much depends on overall build and/or internal configuration. You may have noticed several posters referred to 'genital compatibility' - that's not a made-up thing, it's a physical reality!

We owe it to ourselves to honour what works for us.

[LoisPuddingLane]

I agree there are some balanced posts. But there are more than a few "ewwwww small dick" type posts, which don't seem very nice, to me.

[dottypotter]

what is considered small?