small problem in new relationship

[brittanyspierce]

I met a lovely man who I've been seeing for a couple of months now, he's kind, funny and smart and I enjoy spending time with him but... we dtd for the first time last week and he has a tiny penis!!
I'm just not sure I can stay with someone if the sex is disappointing?
Obviously this is not something that is going to change or improve but wonder is this something I can become accustomed to? Is it just not what I'm used to or is it a deal breaker?

Life's too short for small willies.

Cut him loose and may the search continue!

I agree fully with vinotime, sex is very important to me and bad sex would be a deal breaker. I don't think that makes me shallow, I just know what I want from a relationship. It doesn't matter how nice he is, if the sex isn't good it won't be sustainable for long.

Also definitely agree big dick does not = good sex, is it just that he was small or were there other things that were bad about it too?

Maybe give him one more go sober, after that I think it's probably gonna be a no go sadly.

Sorry but I did chuckle at 'getting in too deep' don't think that's gonna be a problem with this poor dude!

Size does matter. My last boyfriend was extremely lacking in length and girth, his penis was tiny, I was quite shocked to be honest. Sex is extremely important to me, so this was a deal breaker. He was kind, caring and generally lovely, but so are my friends; I want a boyfriend that I enjoy having sex with.

His penis was so small I just couldn't feel much at all, or get turned on by him, and I'm quite 'tight' down there! I didn't want to go down on him as I just didn't find his tiny penis sexually alluring. Quite the opposite in fact. I do feel really sorry for guys with small penises, it must really affect their self-esteem, but I can't help what I'm turned on by, it doesn't make me shallow at all, what turns us on is v basic.

Having said that my boyfriend before him was I guess you could say below average in size, but it was adequate and we had a great sex life, so someone doesn't have to be hung like a donkey to get me going. I guess it's like some men don't find women with v small breasts feminine, and some men don't like large breasts! We are all different in what we deem sexually alluring.

How its possible to get satisfaction from a pencil willy is beyond me! Unless he puts a sock on it.............

I had this problem with my now ex, in fact I wrote a post about it at the time, almost identical to yours. We were so attracted to each other, lots of chemistry but I was never fully satisfied with the sex. He just couldn't hit the spot. Had toys etc and did other stuff but it was never enough. I thought I could get past it... His ex wife ridiculed him for it . Sad. He ended up turning out to be abusive and violent. I wish I left it earlier when I did know in my heart of hearts it would never be enough. I want a good sex life and I do not believe it is shallow, you are just sexually incompatible

I'm another in the "size matters"camp.

I keep falling off the small ones.... :O

HAHA Cherry you loony x

I would dump him (after double-checking it sober)!!

My first bf had a tiny one but I didn't know as he was my first, so I thought it was all brilliant! Lucky him.

Brittany when are you next seeing him? Is it bad that I'm really curious about your next (sober attempt) update?

Size does matter. Anyone saying otherwise hasn't experienced something too small to please.

Lucky them.

Yep you must investigate sober, although in my reasonably extensive experience girth is not really affected by drink whereas length definitely can be.

Size matters to me. Maybe I just have a big fanjo but it really matters.

Alibaba but I've 'known of' men who were definitely growers rather than showers, girth-wise as well as length-wise.

Unless the OP is seriously talking pencil-dick proportions, in which case I would struggle to stop myself laughing, let alone DTD.

laregina - ok, well hopefully for the OP that will be the case.

laregina we're not expecting to have the opportunity
for a couple of weeks due to other commitments, childcare etc... I will report back after the event!

Surely if you couldn't feel it, he can't have got a great deal of pleasure out of it either?

I think you should definitely try again sober and make the decision then.

It would matter to me...

You can't know from 1 drunken encounter so definitely give it another go. My new boyfriend is not particularly well endowed, but I am having the best sex I have ever had. Wasn't especially the first time, but 2 months later and it's WOW.

Oh and yes, bad sex is a dealbreaker. I went out with a guy for 6 years who, in hindsight, I did not have good sex with. Ultimately, I just didn't want to anymore and then it was an inevitable slide to us breaking up. It's only since that I have realised how bad it was. He was beautiful (and this IS shallow), so I would just look at him thinking, but you are beautiful and not realising the sex was no good.

How tiny?

I went with someone with a tiny penis once and it was awful cos I couldn't feel a thing. I had to finish it.

So he's not too small, it's you who's too big...

Tbh that is why I would be worried if I had a son. That he would be judged and laughed at if he had a small penis.

This is hilarious

I agree there is a difference between small willies and just-no-point willies. My husband isn't huge but when he fucks me, it is satisfying. Sex with him started a bit 'meh' but is now awesome (the potential was there, if you see what I mean?)

I once went on a few dates with a lovely guy. For the sake of anonymity, let's call him Nark. When we got around to it... I was shocked. It was tiny. Like, pinky finger size tiny. Hard. I feel kind if awful, but a) I don't even count him on my 'list' as I didn't feel a thing, and b) I never saw him again because of it.

I told him I was seeing someone else. Which was true, in a way. I got reacquainted with the rugged seducer I keep in my bedside drawer :-)