small problem in new relationship

[brittanyspierce]

I met a lovely man who I've been seeing for a couple of months now, he's kind, funny and smart and I enjoy spending time with him but... we dtd for the first time last week and he has a tiny penis!!
I'm just not sure I can stay with someone if the sex is disappointing?
Obviously this is not something that is going to change or improve but wonder is this something I can become accustomed to? Is it just not what I'm used to or is it a deal breaker?

[Ivehearditallnow]

Life's too short for small willies.

Cut him loose and may the search continue!

[JaceyBee]

I agree fully with vinotime, sex is very important to me and bad sex would be a deal breaker. I don't think that makes me shallow, I just know what I want from a relationship. It doesn't matter how nice he is, if the sex isn't good it won't be sustainable for long.

Also definitely agree big dick does not = good sex, is it just that he was small or were there other things that were bad about it too?

[JaceyBee]

Maybe give him one more go sober, after that I think it's probably gonna be a no go sadly.

Sorry but I did chuckle at 'getting in too deep' don't think that's gonna be a problem with this poor dude!

[Poogate]

Size does matter. My last boyfriend was extremely lacking in length and girth, his penis was tiny, I was quite shocked to be honest. Sex is extremely important to me, so this was a deal breaker. He was kind, caring and generally lovely, but so are my friends; I want a boyfriend that I enjoy having sex with.

His penis was so small I just couldn't feel much at all, or get turned on by him, and I'm quite 'tight' down there! I didn't want to go down on him as I just didn't find his tiny penis sexually alluring. Quite the opposite in fact. I do feel really sorry for guys with small penises, it must really affect their self-esteem, but I can't help what I'm turned on by, it doesn't make me shallow at all, what turns us on is v basic.

Having said that my boyfriend before him was I guess you could say below average in size, but it was adequate and we had a great sex life, so someone doesn't have to be hung like a donkey to get me going. I guess it's like some men don't find women with v small breasts feminine, and some men don't like large breasts! We are all different in what we deem sexually alluring.

[Quitelikely]

How its possible to get satisfaction from a pencil willy is beyond me! Unless he puts a sock on it.............

[buttonortwo]

I had this problem with my now ex, in fact I wrote a post about it at the time, almost identical to yours. We were so attracted to each other, lots of chemistry but I was never fully satisfied with the sex. He just couldn't hit the spot. Had toys etc and did other stuff but it was never enough. I thought I could get past it... His ex wife ridiculed him for it . Sad. He ended up turning out to be abusive and violent. I wish I left it earlier when I did know in my heart of hearts it would never be enough. I want a good sex life and I do not believe it is shallow, you are just sexually incompatible

[cherrytree63]

I'm another in the "size matters"camp.

I keep falling off the small ones.... :O

[Ivehearditallnow]

HAHA Cherry you loony x

[croquet]

I would dump him (after double-checking it sober)!!

My first bf had a tiny one but I didn't know as he was my first, so I thought it was all brilliant! Lucky him.

[laregina]

Brittany when are you next seeing him? Is it bad that I'm really curious about your next (sober attempt) update?

[Innogen]

Size does matter. Anyone saying otherwise hasn't experienced something too small to please.

Lucky them.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Yep you must investigate sober, although in my reasonably extensive experience girth is not really affected by drink whereas length definitely can be.

[DomesticDisgrace]

Size matters to me. Maybe I just have a big fanjo but it really matters.

[laregina]

Alibaba but I've 'known of' men who were definitely growers rather than showers, girth-wise as well as length-wise.

Unless the OP is seriously talking pencil-dick proportions, in which case I would struggle to stop myself laughing, let alone DTD.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

laregina - ok, well hopefully for the OP that will be the case.

[brittanyspierce]

laregina we're not expecting to have the opportunity
for a couple of weeks due to other commitments, childcare etc... I will report back after the event!

[WhateverLover]

Surely if you couldn't feel it, he can't have got a great deal of pleasure out of it either?

I think you should definitely try again sober and make the decision then.

It would matter to me...

[PollyIndia]

You can't know from 1 drunken encounter so definitely give it another go. My new boyfriend is not particularly well endowed, but I am having the best sex I have ever had. Wasn't especially the first time, but 2 months later and it's WOW.

[PollyIndia]

Oh and yes, bad sex is a dealbreaker. I went out with a guy for 6 years who, in hindsight, I did not have good sex with. Ultimately, I just didn't want to anymore and then it was an inevitable slide to us breaking up. It's only since that I have realised how bad it was. He was beautiful (and this IS shallow), so I would just look at him thinking, but you are beautiful and not realising the sex was no good.

[buttonortwo]

How tiny?

[Crinkle77]

I went with someone with a tiny penis once and it was awful cos I couldn't feel a thing. I had to finish it.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

So he's not too small, it's you who's too big...

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

Tbh that is why I would be worried if I had a son. That he would be judged and laughed at if he had a small penis.

[heyho1985]

This is hilarious

[Grumpasaurus]

I agree there is a difference between small willies and just-no-point willies. My husband isn't huge but when he fucks me, it is satisfying. Sex with him started a bit 'meh' but is now awesome (the potential was there, if you see what I mean?)

I once went on a few dates with a lovely guy. For the sake of anonymity, let's call him Nark. When we got around to it... I was shocked. It was tiny. Like, pinky finger size tiny. Hard. I feel kind if awful, but a) I don't even count him on my 'list' as I didn't feel a thing, and b) I never saw him again because of it.

I told him I was seeing someone else. Which was true, in a way. I got reacquainted with the rugged seducer I keep in my bedside drawer :-)