My boyfriend asks your moot - was my Facebook post 'grossly inappropriate'?

[Fullyswindonian]

I have a small Facebook Friendlist consisting of 99% family and old school friends.

One of the people I don't actually know in real life was 'friended' for his similar views.

I recently read something that poignantly reminded me of him, so posted it on my Facebook Wall, but without direct reference to him. It could have easily applied to a small number of other people on my Friendlist, but he was the only one who chose to respond with comments.

My boyfriend considered it 'grossly inappropriate' as he believes the Facebook friend is interested in me, despite the fact we have no dialogue and certainly nothing even remotely smutty or off topic has occurred. He isn't attractive to me in any way, in fact I find him 'unattractive' in most ways.

I will admit however to a small degree of naievety as I mostly fail to intuit when a man is interested in me, I've been told.

At my boyfriend's suggestion, I put my Facebook post up here for your inspection and opinion.
I would genuinely like to know if my post was inappropriate/ disrespectful to my boyfriend.
My post was prefixed with something along the lines of 'just read a poem by one of my favourites and it reminded me of someone on my Friendlist who is also all these things'.

My boyfriend and I are both mid Forties, neither married nor cohabiting, and I am the only one wothout children from a previous relationship. He is universally considered genuine, kind and fair.

Praise

I praise you because
you are artist and scientist
in one. When I am somewhat
fearful of your power,
your ability to work miracles
with a set-square, I hear
you murmuring to yourself
in a notation Beethoven
dreamed of but never achieved.
You run off your scales of
rain water and sea water, play
the chords of the morning
and evening light, sculpture
with shadow, join together leaf
by leaf, when spring
comes, the stanzas of
an immense poem. You speak
all languages and none,
answering our most complex
prayers with the simplicity
of a flower, confronting
us, when we would domesticate you
to our uses, with the rioting
viruses under our lens.

~RS Thomas

Gunz passive aggressive is so last year

So what's so filthy and disrespectful about it then?

Genuine question because I'm at a loss.

Yes it's a bit wanky to post a poem with a slightly vague intro. But grossly innappropriate? Disrespectful? How?!

For the record I'd suggest the OP is either being disigenuous with us or on the autistic spectrum.

Been there, done to death, read the thread.

I find him as a person unnattractive in all ways.

This is where I got to and I find it incredibly confusing. If this is the case, do you see him as some kind of specimen that you can conduct social experiments on? Really, considering the above statement what was your motive for posting the poem with ANY reference to him? If you like Welsh poets just share their work... you don't need an excuse.

I am aware the OP has long since buggered off but fwiw, I would be pissed off if my husband posted that poem on FB with the accompanying message

just read a poem by one of my favourites and it reminded me of someone on my Friendlist who is also all these things

because basically, what she's saying is: this is a poem about God and it reminds me of my friend who is also godlike.

Massively naive to think that that won't cause upset, even if it was posted with the most innocent of intentions.

And I just don't buy the fact that you find this FB man repellant. I'm sorry, but in conjunction with that poem and that dedication of the poem to him (not publicly, but you've told us that that was who it was meant for), there is no way that you find him repellant.

If he's unattractive in all ways, why are you even friends with him?

Why go to the trouble of posting a poem like that if you don't really like him at all? Clearly you must find him attractive intellectually at some level or you could have posted Twat by John Cooper Clarke?

I think you and your BF sound incredibly intense and pretentious. You both need to chill out a bit and maybe delete each other off Facebook so you can post whatever the hell you want without damaging fragile egos around you. That way if you end up looking a bit of a prat at least you don't have someone else stamping their feet.

Gunz passive aggressive is so last year

Still works for you though doesn't it ?

Incidentally OP, I liked your comment about the word 'moot' being Tolkeinesque. I am a big fantasy fan and there's a good chapter in 'The Weirdstone of Brisingamen' called In the Cave of the Svartmoot, where all the svarts meet to talk about things. It talks in the chapter of svarts 'heading to the moot'.

I decided to catch up after making my point BTW (sorry - I was worried if I read on I'd forget it... my memory is shit). I'm glad you have worked things out.

Gunz wha? I hoped the indicated a lightness of tone! And my questions were genuine. I am genuinely perplexed. But of course it is your prerogative to answer or not.

And fwiw everything I type now sounds PA now! I've retyped this about 4 times fgs!

Bit - I didn't answer your questions because i didn't think they were aimed at me.

You asked "what's so filthy and disrespectful about it then?"
I don't know what you are talking about, what are you referring to?

People don't half post some shit on Facebook

Oh gunz I can see we are talking totally at cross purposes here! I'm not sure I care enough any more anyway do you? I've had a little nap and now I'm off out for dinner and I'm not sure I'm bothered enough now!

MN has that effect on me sometimes. I don't know about you. I get all het up about a thread then when I think about it I realise I'm not actually as bothered as I thought!

Fancy a ?

i'll have the thanks! i'm bored as well and just about to have a nap. Enjoy dinner!

Oh enjoy your snooze. Nothing finer than a daytime snooze in my book.

Cheers