The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

Santa I think asking that is perfect. You have every right to know.

Lahti Bant's reply is perfect. Do not go to dinner with him! He's being horribly manipulative. Do you have a mutual friend who you can drop his stuff off with? If not, drive it over but take someone with you, drop it off and leave without engaging. I'd say to get rid of it ASAP as otherwise he'll use it as an excuse to keep contacting you.

crow - coming over for 'a bit' Glad it's going well
santa trust your gut instinct - it sounds like you are right in having a few doubts and I think you need to just ask him outright.
lahti he sounds like a bit of a loon to me - definitely put his stuff in a cab or send it by courier. I'd block him completely and put an answerphone on the landline.

I sent Traindriver a text yesterday to say how he was lovely but I didn't feel 'a spark' between us. His reply was that he knew it was too good to be true. I hate that side of dating.

Oh and soft my teenage DD regularly babysits for neighbours. Ask around about any that are reliable and trusted. She is always grateful for a few pounds and just sits & does her college work.

Just popping in, had a second date last night, it went very very well and i seem to be rather smitten. A third date has been arranged for the weekend, and i think, possibly, this is the first, realistic, viable man i could have a relationship with, that ive ever dated.

We kissed and i had the full on butterflies and wobbly legs, which hasnt happened since i was about 18.

jesy that sounds like a pretty good date! Just remember the rule about not investing emotionally too soon :-) when are you seeing him again?

Been a busy day OLD, lots of messages, mybe the sun brought people to life.
Pet hate atm is when really unattractive bloke messages me says you look nice but would like to see more pictures before we chat, as if I would chat to him in a million years cheeky gits

Sounds great Needsmorecake. I'm a bit low today. I miss geeky.

I spotted your other thread dont sorry not stalking you. Please don't be sad, am I thinking it is geeky who could not hack the fact you have 3 kids? Was this the reason he did not want to stay @ your place? Sorry do not mean to upset you.

Hi blossom, yes it was and yes, he said he didn't feel comfortable coming to my house with my children there. Even though when we were together he asked to meet them.

I think there are alot of men out there who would be uncomfortable about having sex with kids in the house that are not their own. Which I think is understandable in the early days. Eventually is there is any future then any future partner would need to accept your kids. I know it is so hard you are in a difficult position.

Still smiling but also hoping that it's not a joke !
He asked me to stay the night o. Thursday and I've said yes , he seems keen to see me as I said I'maway next weekend he then said what about midweek?
Plus nice little things like offering to walk me to my lift and walking by curb
Hope I'm not setting myself up for a fall

When we were together though he did. It was because he didn't feel comfortable with it in a friends with benefits role. I still sort of regret turning him down, but I know I did do the right thing.

Dont You did the right thing turning him down because there are feelings involved, so you (you, not him) would have got hurt. FWB only works if emotions stay out of it.

What SoftK said.

blossom it's astonishing isn't it? ShortFatEstateAgent asked for a 'proper' picture of me - and when I enquired as to what he meant by 'proper' he said 'full-lenght' !!!. This was before I discovered he was shaped rather like a squashed weeble. I was flabbergasted - what a liberty!! It is just SO rude - and says a lot. I take it you ignore them? I'd be tempted to reply by saying that I'd send my own photo when they'd completed their face-transplant/ lipo-suction op [grin}

Apart from Istanbul man, the only message I've had today is from a guy in Texas, and his picture shows him shooting something (or someone).

There are actually men in my city, but you'd never believe it from this.

Hi everyone! I am new on here... Broke up with my dp of 10 years about 7 months ago, and been expanding my social life for the last few months. This has been great fun, and I had one of my dad's friend's sons round for dinner one evening, enjoyed it and liked him as a friend. Then he invited me and the kids round for dinner, and he just totally melted me!

I asked him if he would like to do something without the kids, and we have fixed a date, but I don't know what we should do. Any ideas? I need it to be interesting enough so we can spend a dignified amount of time together without me ripping his clothes off....

Looking forward to getting to know you all on here.

He did have feelings for me though. But seems able to just switch them off.

One day

I'm seeing him on Thursday
He sent me lots of lovely texts todAy which is so sweet
Daft stuff like I woke in night and wished you were there.

oh god am being hassled by someone who is being quite horrible. He was so nice at first we chatted for sometime last night ended quite late. He then started texting giving me a list of all the sexual things I have done or prepared to do, got quite relentless. I am broad minded but am quite bemused why he would want know all this at this stage. Getting nasty now as not replying. ffs

I still want to know how a man stopped you using mumsnet! Dontcallmehun22....

We broke up because I told him mumsnet thought he was an emotionally manipulative abuser. In my desperation to get him back, I told him I wouldn't come on here again.

scorned Just saw your reply fucking hilarious. I did reply to him you got to be kidding right and got a snotty message back saying I was very rude, stupid twat! "face transplant" lol

Oh an mrSA keeps popping on POF, no time for dating my ass,

well well well. I now won't be meeting up with Kent Lad. He's sending out mixed messages re us getting back together or not and seems very headfuckery to me - a last text was 'he hoped I'd find peace' and I fired back 'don't patronise me, what are you some kind of guru?'. He really seems to think after his behaviour that he is some sort of confused man who needs pity and heaven help me if I get annoyed by him messing me around or speaking straight to him.

He told me a reply he'd sent to an email (but not sent for 2 weeks) was an apology and he was 'doing the right thing' apologising and semi explaining himself (for not meeting up originally) but this email said stuff about who knows what the future holds and we're so good together - from him. GRRR

Blossom - why do some men do that, the sexual stuff and then get nasty?! and blow a raspberry to MrSA! LOL

dontcallmehon - I think men really really don't like it when you're straight with them and tell them the truth. I think anyone who tells you not to come here is bad news - it doesn't have to be here it could be a friend of yours - that'd be the next thing, don't see that friend. No way. I just texted Kent Lad he was a coward and a liar (both true) yet of course he won't admit that and I've hurt his stupid pride. Stuff him.