The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

hello he just wants to have his cake and eat it. He is clearly unavailable and whilst his background is very difficult for him, it doesn't give him the right to be like that with you.

I am still getting texts.
"Please talk to me." "Have you ever loved a man properly? I mean really properly" "is this about trust"

Aargh so annoying. I've costed up replacing his stuff on Amazon and it's cheaper than a courier (he lives an hour away), so that's what I'm going to do.

Sorry to bang on but all this I think with Kent Lad - is to make himself feel better. He didn't think of that at the time he was dumping me but now after my email obviously feels remorse and maybe wants me on back burner. but on his terms. bless him. NOT

Lahti you are bang on about that. well this cake is not for eating now.

Can't believe that man (take it was the nasty one?) is texting you? what part of the word no does he not understand?

will you buy duplicates of his stuff on Amazon and send to him then?

hello yes I think so. The value is about £30.

Lahti well if cheaper and he accepts then why not?

Hi benzal welcome!! This thread is great!

blossom - there are some right nasty bastards out there. Just delete & block. He sounds like that hideous copper I was involved with for a very short time. Every single text was about sex... warped.

Glad you liked the 'face transplant' suggestion

So... I have just remembered about a guy at work ( i work for a large company with different floors and rarely see him)...anyway...I fancy him and would like to ask him out but A) I don't know if he is single B) how do i go about it? E-mail him or use the messenger service we have? c) what if he says no and then i will see him around everywhere.

What to do, what to do. hmmmm

made really lol scorned I just might have to use that next time.
I have a call arranged for later, he really does not that attractive but am going to keep and open mind.

Met his parents yesterday and they seemed nice. I don't know if it is a big deal or not! Not seeing him until next weekend now due to my shifts.

Jeez I've just had another text.
The general gist is....
Apparently I am controlling him and he has been patient with me. He bought me gifts 2x flowers from Sainsbury's, a set of cheap cutlery and paid for the cinema twice.

Sorry for ranting, but I need to vent.

Lahti I'm sorry but I at cheap set of cutlery. I know it's not funny though. My only suggestion is send one last text in which you state clearly that you do not want him contacting you again and if he continues to do so, you'll report him to the police for harassment. Keep his texts in case you need them for evidence and ring the non emergency police number on 101 if he continues to text you. There are stalking and harassment laws in place now, so the law is on your side.

soft laugh away. I've just sent a curt text explaining that I have not changed my mind.
Seriously though he makes it sound like I'm a gold digger. We went for 2 meals and paid half each. Whenever he paid for the cinema I paid for drinks beforehand etc. How much are flowers from a supermarket FFS!!!
The whole experience has put me off OLD, I clearly cannot recognise nutters.

Let's hope he gets the message Lahti but sadly I expect not.

I have got myself into a right mess. I haven't been on holiday for several years and neither has Bricky apparently. So we were sort of talking about going together in June, however I allowed myself to be rushed into booking something yesterday. Well I didn't book it, he did and I said ok at the time so he paid the deposit. Now I'm having serious misgivings having seen the escort site on his phone. Prior to that I felt perfectly fine with him

I'm now thinking I'm crazy, I've only known him 6 weeks and when I said this to him yesterday, how mad we were booking it so quickly seeing we had only met so recently he couldn't see why I thought that!! He just said well it's just a holiday, it's not like we're getting married. Again a totally different outlook to me. What on earth am I going to do?

If you really don't want to go, tell him to cancel it or change the booking to a friend of his instead. Just say you got carried away and jumped the gun. Or you could discuss the escort thing with him first because how he reacts to that will tell you all you need to know. If you then end things, it's up to him to sort out who goes on the holiday.

May I ask something about OD etiquette?

POF chap mid 50's (just a bit older than me) messaged me Fri evening, we exchanged some messages and they were great. Really keen and we've a date for Sunday - he asked me. So we chatted on the phone on Sat, both very nervous, he tells me he's a bloke who doesn't like spending time on the phone unless its for a purpose. I get that, nor do I really. So apart from a couple of texts Sunday when he wanted to check he hadn't put me off him already we're not in contact. Is this normal?

As you've guessed - this is not 'normal' for me and I've no clue!!

Hello to you all....as my name suggests this is all a bit new to me....early forties, just divorced....

I need to go back to the beginning and read this thread through but wanted to ask advice please....

I've been on a couple of dates from POF but not led to anything.

Anyway...last week I was in the local shopping mall and a seriously HOT guy walked past me, and we really looked each at each other, and then he came back and asked for my number... I gave it to him, and he called, but I couldn't answer, and he texted and asked if I want to go out...We're going out on Friday. I know absolutely nothing about him other than that he is very good looking! I obviously won't meet him in a dark alley, or go to his place, (or ask him to mine), but what precautions do I need to take meeting a complete stranger?! Any advice please?

Aargh. Apparently he loves me. I'm going to struggle to find someone with a squeaky clean past. Blah blah.
I've just replied with....
This is harassment
Stop texting me
If you continue to harass me I will contact the police.

He has replied that he will stop when I have returned what us his including the cutlery. I am also very cruel and he is better off without me.

He's fucking mental isn't he?

What do you all think? Have I jumped the gun in letting him go ahead and arrange a holiday? I know I have to ask him about the phone thing but assuming that turns out ok am I crazy to go on holiday with him?

santa I would ask him to cancel. If you ask about the escort agency how will you know whether to believe him except by giving him a long time to prove himself. The guy I've just finished with was on about taking me on holiday etc and I've only known him 8 weeks.

Dating newbie - you need to let a friend know where you are meeting And times. You ought to let friend know what time you will be home And text them when you do get home. Good luck.

Lahti Give him back his shitty stuff ASAP, then he has no need to contact you. Take it to his door (go with someone, not alone) and leave it there or in his back garden - wherever, it doesn't matter. Might be best to do it when you know he won't be in but will be back not long after you've left it there, say an hour before he gets in from work. Then text him and tell him it's there and not to contact you again. If he's in when you drop it off just don't engage. I know he's an hour from you but I'd say that journey will be well worth it just to know that it's done and dusted.

Then on the way back stop off at Tesco or wherever, and treat yourself to shiny new cutlery.

And yes, he is fucking mental.

Newbie Going on a date with a stranger is no different to the POF dates you've already had. Just meet in a public place and don't go back to his house the first time you meet. Good luck!

jarlin wishing you a very happy birthday for tomorrow have a fantastic day