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The Dating Thread 71

999 replies

TheCrow · 07/03/2014 21:54

Welcome to all daters :)

OP posts:
Bumblebeepie · 24/03/2014 19:10

Oh God why....why did I just admit to Mr Smiley that I've been thinking about him alot since our date??? He started it, saying that he was still thinking about our kiss, and I said that I had too and him generally.....why can't I be mysterious woman with this one.....aaaaggh! He came back and asked what I'd been thinking about? I said that was a difficult question to answer, but all good stuff. God I'm rubbish at this!

UrsulaBuffay · 24/03/2014 19:21

In online dating terms the word 'fun' is code for sex, 99.9% of the time

Bumblebeepie · 24/03/2014 19:33

mrsirony I agree.....'fun' is generally code for casual relationship/sex

Blossomflowers · 24/03/2014 19:38

yea and "dating" I think I will become a right hardened bitch doing OLD.
MissIrony I know what you mean about knowing if there going to be an attraction in minutes. I have only met 5 guys onlyI liked 1, talked to loads and back out then. And you are right about immature, dating guys 40 - 50 age bracket, age does not seem to mature some of them.

Blossomflowers · 24/03/2014 19:40

bumble don't over analyse. I am also rubbish @ playing it cool and think I am quite a bit older then you, just my personality.

LizzieBelle · 24/03/2014 19:45

Oh no dont! A match with geeky on Tinder EEEEEK I know you still likehim, I like Cute but it will fade! Heh heh!

jarlin I had a couple of texts from Mr Cute - while he was on the dating site, what a sleeze

...and yes,going on Tinder tonight!!!!

MrsIrony you are right! Men are immature. Id like to think I am everything Mr Cute would want, yet he has just signed up to look for a relationship online!!! Your guy wants friends with benefits I think, which is ok if thats what you want too...

Jarlin · 24/03/2014 20:21

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Bumblebeepie · 24/03/2014 20:27

blossom he's just said "well maybe I've been thinking lots about you too" followed by random normal silliness texts between us both.....Grin panic over!....roll on Saturday's date...i so can't wait to see him!

LizzieBelle · 24/03/2014 20:55

jarlin Of course I haven't confronted him! I haven't seen him yet...he's too busy on Match to see me this week!

louby44 · 24/03/2014 21:21

Oooo I love reading everyone's updates!

I don't know what to do about postie#2 who lives locally to me (has 3 kids) and has been texting me loads. I know if I suggest meeting he would!

Do I suggest meeting up or stick to seeing postie#1 who lives an hour away and has no kids. I really enjoyed our coffee date yesterday and we've text on & off throughout the day!

I know it's good to keep your options open but I don't want to be confused...arrgh!

Bumblebeepie · 24/03/2014 21:26

louby if you are undecided I'd say go for a date with postie#2 then at least you can compare properly.

Jarlin · 24/03/2014 21:32

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LizzieBelle · 24/03/2014 21:35

louby You have to meet both posties to find out which is the first class male...

louby44 · 24/03/2014 21:45

lizzie I love it...Grin

dontcallmehon22 · 24/03/2014 22:36

Louby, I think postie 2 as well. Enjoy!

Glad the date went well, hormonal.

I'm feeling completely cleansed of geeky. To the extent that if he asked me back (he won't!), I actually don't think I'd say yes! This is progress guys! I looked at his Tinder profile and it's pathetic. He's written that he is 'King of GeekyLand, doing things GeekyStyle on a daily basis. Looking for the one.' King of his Mam and Dad's spare bedroom more like!

Also, to like my pic but not message is clear game playing. Maybe he wants me to message him, so he can humiliate, reject and hurt me. I don't think so matey! I'm so much better looking than him and I don't need the hassle. I need a real man.

Someone on Tinder named a goldfish after me today.

FolkGirl · 25/03/2014 03:55

Dont so pleased to read you've turned that corner...

Besides, Someone on Tinder named a goldfish after me today now that is real progress!! Grin

jesy · 25/03/2014 06:46

Date 7 tonight !
Nothing exciting tv and beans on toast lol but the text this morning sweet,
Can't wait to see you later ,I'll be looking out for you going passed the crown!
We pass each other going to work !

LizzieBelle · 25/03/2014 07:21

Aww jesy I'm really pleased for you!

I'm on Tinder - at this time of the morning too! Heh heh!

Blossomflowers · 25/03/2014 10:00

dont Dont give geeky head space he does not deserve, King of his Mam and Dad's spare bedroom more like! Grin like it
jesy wow date 7. best I have managed 4.
You all talking about Tinder, sounds like a city app rather for us country gilrs

Well I have a busy week, date tonight with MrTraindriver, Date on Thurs with a MrWelsh and date on Friday with MrSensible. Wow am going to be knackered. All this as stopped me text mrSA who never replied to me last text, his bloodly loss

LittleBlueMouse · 25/03/2014 10:46

Jarlin thank you, I have stepped back he is now texting and making plans! bloody men they are so confusing. Is it your weekend away this week?

Dont I have followed the last few threads and read about Geeky, I second what everyone else is saying...infact I would go further I say he sounds quite mad and a bit deranged. You really do deserve so much more.

MrsIrony yes I am sure that when men say they want nothing too serious but some fun they mean sex. Nothing wrong with that if everyone involved understands, if its not what you think of as fun maybe step back from him. As you say you are still on sites and all the time he is looking for sex fun and not having it with you he will probably keep checking the sites.

Louby nothing to lose in meeting postie2, if you are looking for a regular easy and serious relationship distance is usually a huge factor.

Mine is texting that he misses me but is busy until next week when apparently we can see as much of each other as a I like mmm? I shall call him Mr.Contradiction. I am though, next week going to speak to him about "us" I don't want a road map or a life plan but I do want to know if this guy is worth my effort. I like him lots...he likes to play games of guessing, and exchanges of power, so I often feel wrong footed. The red flags? well I have my eyes wide open...will that save me?

Blossomflowers · 25/03/2014 11:31

littleBM Bloody hate mind games, sounds good that you feet are firmly planted on the ground. Makes you wonder how someone could literally busy all week, unless working away or something, so distance an issue?

Hormonalhell · 25/03/2014 11:52

Yes I hate mind gamers too! What's the need if you like someone. Mind you I have the book 'he's just not that into you' and he says if a guy likes you he won't play games.

Not helpful I know LBMHmm

MrKids so far hasn't played games but it's still early days I guess

Santaclaws · 25/03/2014 12:48

Hi All
This thread moves so fast that I'm sorry I've totally lost track of what's happening, will try and skim later.
jarlin I seem to remember you were going away for a weekend with slow burner, how did it go???

lizzie have you decided what to do about mr cute?

I am still seeing Bricky regularly and we just spent our first full weekend together :) it was lovely, so easy and relaxed. What I really like about the relationship is the balance of power seems equal and after 4 years of hell, being squashed under someone's shoe because they always had to have power over me, this is a delight. Am really looking forward to our holiday and if he carries on being as considerate as he is now it will be fantastic :)

HelloBoys · 25/03/2014 13:22

this thread does move fast...

dontcallme - Geeky's profile statement makes me LOL. Kent Lad's brief description on Badoo reads 'funky and caring guy' - well he's a poser definitely and I suppose funky in a geeky way too, but caring, if that means pretending to be interested in you but then getting disinterested after 3 months or totally self absorbed but in HIMSELF then that'd be right!

Lizzie - I've seen your posts about Mr Cute and well I can totally see the un-drama-like way satisfaction of just letting it peter out. But then again I love a good row when needed (Kent Lad's new nickname for me - Crazy Cakes gotta love it especially when I'd done nothing wrong and couldn't escape and end it!). I sort of wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction of a row either!

HelloBoys · 25/03/2014 13:24

Put a profile on POF but after reviewing someone else's here and seeing some of then male ones wondered (even if guided by POF) if I rambled... Smile

Can't find a decent recent pic so getting friend to put a new one up.

keep getting rubbish matches off Match Crapfinity. I ignore and don't even bother with them now.

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