Morning,
Lizzie, sorry that you're having to deal with this situation. Hope you get the answers you want.
Softkitty, sounds like something I'd do, am rubbish at playing it cool.
Re Tinder, I do message if I'm keen but you do get a few matches that still don't respond or ever msg. Is a numbers game I think.
Folk, all sounds really positive.
So, I have decided to end things with the guy I was seeing. It has morphed quite quickly into FB and he has been reasonably clear that he doesn't see it as anything else. I am quite proud that I am nipping it in the bud rather than letting it continue because there's nothing else on the horizon.
This thread really helped me with the discussion over your child being an added bonus to a potential partner rather than an issue so thanks for that.
I think I'm going to have a break for a bit. Am really not over Mr S, we had this amazing connection and I really thought this was it but his ex turned up pregnant and because he was so lovely he thought he had to try for the child. Am finding it really hard to let go because (from what he said) this ex was awful and brought out the worst in him. He's mainly making a go of it because he's worried about a horrible custody battle if he doesn't (which is what happened with her other child). So I feel like it can't possibly work and am holding on for him to come back 
Sorry for the long spiel, just can't really talk about this in RL cos everyone thinks I should get over it.