Afternoon all.
Dating update from me. Last time I updated I was chatting to three women from OD, one was funny but the conversation tailed off from her side, one was a bit dull and it tailed off from my side, then there was Chardonnay, who was lovely in lots of ways and we were messaging loads on whatsapp.
So, we met after lots of time trying to find an evening we were both free. It was nice. She was attractive in person, the chat was very easy, I drove her home, cheek kiss goodnight and I texted later to ask for a second date. She said yes and so I was very happy.
But then, she couldn't go out weeknights because she couldn't afford a sitter and felt bad about asking her friends. The following week, the same. I was out of the country for one weekend, but the following one I was arranging a sitter for my DC so we could meet, and then she said that while she was free on the Saturday she'd be too much the worse for wear after her girls night out on the Friday to meet.
She'd also said previously that if there was no spark on the first date, could we be text-buddies as I made her day interesting.
So, it seemed like she wasn't into me enough to meet up again after all. Ah well.
Then I decided to try Tinder for the first time. I looked both in the UK and overseas where I work and live much of the time. Different criteria for different places - in England I'd swipe yes if I found them attractive and they didn't have any Facebook likes or profile text which put me off (into cannibalism or Craig David or something)
Overseas there were more attractive profiles, but I'd swipe no if someone was attractive but we had nothing in common - tv shows, music, something like that. I'm tired of meeting attractive women who speak no English here, so I'd do what I could to screen that out early.
And, several of them liked me back. No rejection, no unreturned emails. The first one who liked me back was a good English speaker, very attractive, likes similar comedy shows to me. And we got messaging and she's funny. Very funny. And thinks I am too.
So we had our third date last night, she came to a pub quiz and we met some random people, got chatting to them. Spent a lot of time outside kissing each other and said we're both going to stop the online dating thing and see how things go between the two of us. No sweet trolleying.
I haven't tasted her cooking, met her family or friends, or DTD yet. And vice versa. Those things may throw up problems in the future. But as things stand, I'm happy and she's funny and clever and hot. And thinks I am too.
So. There you go. A possibly-loved-up bant in an exclusive relationship.
