Do men know that we Rank them?

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Is it just me or do we all rank our men?

E.g. cock-size, worst in bed??

Trapper - yes please!!! Ask her!!

Isn't marks out of 10 still the same? A kind of rank ... a different quantifier

Hmm I must admit the first time I'm in bed with a guy, there is always that moment where you feel how well endowed they are which can be a moment of great joy or a bit of a disappointment.

( or is that just me...?)

Understanding the concept of size is not the same as ranking someone.

I don't compare people to each other either because I think, like dahlen, relationships are not comparable, I'm interested in each person as a whole for reasons related to my life at the time I was seeing them.

I think you are objectifying people when you are ranking their attributes/performance in the way you suggest.

Same with marks out of 10.

My single friends certainly 'rank' men, have a laugh over a few drinks about the latest guy, how good (Bad?!) he was. Not just size but kissing, conversation etc. The more alcohol the worse they get! My married friends don't, loyalty to husbands etc :)

Scarletohello - thank you!! Phew ...

No it's not just you ... I can say I've felt with trepidation before - not wanting to judge ... but I do, not always as men think we do either

Of course I rank men. I keep a spreadsheet detailing size, performance, wealth, prospects etc. I do this because, of course, it's what wimminz do innit? We are all a bunch of shallow gold diggers who only care about huge, thrusting willies.

Is that what you wanted to take back to Pistonheads hear OP?

Offred ... by giving marks out of ten I'm clever enough to know who scored badly and who scored well, which in turn gives me a rank.

I think people don't like the word rank ... I better change the book title or I'll get death threats!!

(Maybe these are girl secrets we're not supposed to disclose??)

'Girl secrets'???

Are you 12?

09Emma09

That's exactly what I'm talking about ... and we're worse with fuel (alcohol) I thought it was part of the banter.

I know clearly who I'd have a return visit with and who I wouldn't ... all in good fun and learning between the girls ... like Master Faking; good or bad ( a whole new thread for another day!)

Nope. Even after several attempts to explain, I really haven't a bloody clue what you're on about.

I understand how you rank people

I said you are objectifying people when you rank them.

I don't think people who objectify their partners can be having healthy and mutually respectful relationships.

By the way I love PistonHeads ... I also love a great lover, one who knows what he's doing - not one to come at me saying all thrusting like "He's big isn't he, can you feel him" and bore the pants of me on cock-launch!!

By the way he ranks 11th in bed not size; I just happen to know these things and manage it without a spreadsheet yet. I keep that for the value of dinner dates I get as you've judged ;-)

GuyBrush ... so you don't know who was your best lover ever was??

Havant ...yes I'm 12 that's why I'm openly and honestly discussing sex.

Really? You've never had a bad lover and thought he/she was shocking; never again?

I would suggest that you are probably only having superficial sexual relationships with people (which is fine and different to the objectification thing) if you are able to pick a best lover. All I can say really is 'different' and I can determine problems like abuse or lack of confidence.

Offred - ok, got ya!

Offred ... "problems like abuse" for who?

Them for being rubbish or me for knowing what I like? What did I miss here?

Have you ever been 12 OP? The point was you are behaving towards other people and discussing sex in a manner that a 12 year old would do. 12 year olds discuss in exactly this kind of way because they haven't really got to grips with the complexities and don't really know other people are people yet.

That was the point I think.

Never done this, myself. I think it's really odd. Would you like to be ranked based on tit size, height, hair colour, weight, sexual ability? It's a bit vulgar, no?

Problems like abuse in my relationships.

I do think no matter what kind of sexual relationships you have you need to be respectful. Ranking and marking is quite hurtful and disrespectful.

Ah ok again Offred - I understand, I think. Strange that all my friends when together will discuss men and sex and size too. I just happen to recall who's No1 for me and usually why.

It's not something I recognise as a woman.

You don't have a spreadsheet? I can't believe none of your friends have told about this girl secret! We all have them. All girls have spreadsheets. So, I can only conclude you are a) not a girl, or b) 12 years old and making shit up.