The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

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Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

Hi all, sorry not caught up with all of you, Folk think i have got the jist, I am disappointed as he sounded very promising but maybe give him the benefit of the doubt until you have spoken to him.

I am feeling a bit crappy about everything at the mo Smallfeet was meant to come over tonight and I cancelled him as just feel rubbish, had a headache all afternoon, am knackered and feeling down generally.

I think he is going to get fed up with me and dump me, I would dump me if it was the other way round!!

Going to speak to my G.P tomos as don't think the pill I am on is helping, seem to have been permanently ill since I started taking it.

Jarlin....
I feel the same. Last time i was on pof i felt i had to reply to every message as only polite. But now im in the "if you can't beat them, join them" camp!
I got excited by a very articulate, long message a couple of days ago from a guy who sounded fab. He had no pic but emailed me one and I just didnt fancy him. I sent him a nice reply but he's still messaging me. I feel like a shallow shiit!!
I got chatting to a lovely guy who ticked all my boxes and he was fanciable. He sent me his number and asked to meet this week and would call over the weekend. Hes obviously spied simeone else he prefers as heard nothing!
And then there was fwb guy!
Its stressing me out and i only joined less than a week ago!!

flora you do need to be really thick-skinned to do OLD. I was like you originally...replied to everyone, worried about causing offence. I soon realised that none of the men gave it a second thought. If you don't fancy them, just delete & move on. That's what they do. If you want to let someone down gently then just say 'sorry I don't think we're a good match'. Have you tried Tinder? To me it was much better in that you don't have to converse with anyone you don't fancy, and you don't waste time messaging anyone who doesn't like you!

folkgirl am really sorry to hear what's been happening with you, hope you are feeling a bit better today

Update for me, well I've had a good weekend. Bricky came around at 7 pm Saturday evening as soon as I rang to say I was back from visiting my mum. Mum is a bit a bit better and may be discharged today :)

Had a lovely evening and it was obvious we'd missed eachother. Sunday we went for Dinner at his parents house, I wasn't sure if I was keen given I've only known him a month but it was great and I met his brother and his GF who have invited me to their wedding. It all seemed very natural but there's a little voice inside me saying it's all a bit odd and surreal as it's as though we've been a couple for years. Anyway we spent last night back at mine and now he's gone to work :)

Will see him again Wednesday

sounds really good Santa

I do feel very happy and relaxed about him, it's all happening quite quickly yet he's not pushy at all and there's been no declarations of love or anything like I had with my abusive partners way too early on. So, yes, all in all really good so far

Scorned....no, i havent tried Tinder but I might. Thanks. Yes, i think i need to develop a thicker skin. Mr 4 has really upset me as I really like him. Its been since December, hes been to my house, and we dtd. To just stop comunication is so hurtful.

Yay a happy story this weekend santa , glad your mum is doing good too.

I'm chatting to a couple of guys at the moment, possibility of meeting this weekend. Mr Flash has disappeared completely. .

That's lovely to hear Santa . Sounds like you really like each other, which is perfect. Long may it continue.

Not sure what to do about MCS. How long do I put up with just receiving chit chat type texts before accepting that it's dead in the water? It's so frustrating! If he's not interested I wish he'd just say so. Although the answer's probably obvious, isn't it?

Hi all, have skim read as I missed loads but sorry to hear some of you have been having a not so great time.
folk put yourself first for a change, be good to yourself.

flora missed how number 4 stopped communicating? sorry, but I haven't had time to read everything.

poffe that's crappy, he's no good for you, end of.

The OD is a quagmire, no doubt about that, I've barely been on there lately but been communicating by text with one guy. We have a lunch date today, have spoke once on the phone, I do like the sound of him but from his pics I don't really fancy him much but he is articulate and I thought it's worth at least meeting...I'm now feeling like not going but would be a bit rubbishy to cancel so late...eek, got stomach cramps thinking about it!

Can I ask a question - it's not for me it's for a friend (yes really!) - she doesn't do much internet dating and was on Christian sites. Anyway she's been chatting to a man who she spoke to 2 months ago but then he stopped messaging her but has started up again. He said he's honest he's been on a few dates in that time but she's wondering why the time gap and is that ok. I'd say yes fine.

She also said how long do you leave it before you meet up - I said generally I try to do that fairly soon, not hours of emails etc. Is that what any of you do?

helloboys I would say he obviously thought he saw somebody/people he preferred and when that's fallen through he's returned to your friend.

MyChild - but what's wrong with that? My friend can either communicate with him hereon or if it bothers her not communicate with him.

Life happens?

I personally wouldn't be that bothered. I may give them a wide berth if I was that bothered but I know now (from here etc) that men communicate with a few different women.

Hello I'd say the same, I think he's met someobe and it not worked, but it's not necessarily a bad thing. It just depends whether your friend is comfortable with it, if it doesn't bother her then great :)

I'm still talking to POF guy! Messages are getting flirtier but no sign of a date, we keep asking if the other has plans for the weekend etc but always seem to be busy. To be honest I'd be happy to text him indefinitely, seems that it's when you agree to meet people that it all goes tits up!

Saw Mr MM on Saturday, feel a lot better about that whole thing now too, like a loose end has been tied up somehow. Feeling a lot calmer and more positive than last week, not heard back from Mr Banana, bit worried about running into him though, his regular hangout is right in the middle of town and unavoidable!

I've mentioned this before. Apologies if I've read and not taken it in.

But I really feel like shit over Kent Lad (been what 2 weeks or so?) when should/could I date again?

I was out at pub last night and 1 man was asking me out (he did have a bit of a dodgy past and was too flattering) and a friend of a friend asked me out (long story bad news, etc) but I don't want to be sitting here months down the line not dating. yet that's EXACTLY how I feel now!

sorry hello what happened with Kent Lad. Was he the one that emailed you? I would say start dating again when you're in the right frame of mind. But steer clear of any where there are obvious red flags at the outset. x

Help know sure what to do, MRHotguy has asked me out tomorrow night for a date but MRSA was indicating that he might come up but nothing def, I really like him but equally he is rubbish @ arranging things and I would have to ask him outright if he wants to come up, is that too forward. Now confusing myself

Hi All

Havent posted on here, but am just back from an exceptionally good date and was after some seasoned opion.

Has anyone ever had such a good first date that you are left reeling?

Im a bit overwhelmed to be honest. Ive done a fair bit of dating and have had ' good' dates, but nothing like todays date. We spoke on the phone on the weekend, good few hours conversation and then last night arranged to meet today for coffee. We had several and then ended up going for lunch and i had to tear myself away due to childcare.

There was so much eye contact, quite a lot of long pauses and looking into each others eyes, lots of flirty, but friendly touches and just the right amount of chatting generally and then a bit of banter. We both said at several points during the date that we werent expecting it to be like it was. He said hes not ever felt more comfortable with someone so quickly, and really, neither have i.

Im just a bit, well, bowled over.

scorned - he was the one who emailed/texted yes.

Maybe I need to re-read or get a copy of OD rules here - someone posted them originally!

yes good idea just wait til I'm ready.

Needsmorecake, that sounds like an excellent date. It may go on to more excellent dates. It doesn't always (ooh the tales I could tell), so keep your guard up a tiny bit.

I had the most dull message on OKC tonight. "Your profile is interesting". That's it, nothing else. Not even hello. His profile page gives only the most basic information. I guess he's trying to be enigmatic.

Evening ladies
santa I hope your mum continues to improve, and glad things are going well with Bricky
jarlin I'm sure you're not being too fussy - just selective. There's nothing worse than going on a date when you know you're not really that interested
girlie How are you today? I'm sorry you had a bad day yesterday
soft - I'd keep MCS on thge back burner, if he's being distant, keep chatting to others. Don't sit around and wait for him!
hansel How did the date go today?
needsmore - sounds really promising. I'd agree with Lois - enjoy it but don't invest too soon - I think some men are very good at saying/doing the right things. It's not fair to assume they're all the same though so fingers crossed for you!

blossom I'd be tempted to go out with MRHotguy - if MrSA still hasn't made arrangements for tomorrow, it isn't unreasonable for you to make other plans. It might do him good to let him know he needs to give you more notice than 24 hours. You're a lucky girl!

I've got a date planned with MrTrainDriver tomorrow night - we've texted/spoken a few times now & he seems very nice ( on paper & on the phone, anyway!) so I'm reasonably optimistic!!

Scorned, would it be corny to say it sounds like things are on the right tracks?

Very good lois !!

scorned good luck with your date, what do you have planned?
I have decided to go out on date with hotguy, MrSa seems only to make once a week due to work/children commitments. Not really enough is it?

Thanks blossom - just a drink tomorrow as its the first date & he's on an early shift all week !

It's hard isn't it when there are kids/work involved on both sides. You've got nothing to lose though & I don't think you're doing anything wrong until you've had the 'exclusivity' chat.
I hope you have a fab time!