The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Yeah true!

I should point out that he asked me to arrange something as he says I have less free time than him. True! So I'll just have to bide my time and try not to think about him!!!

Thanks for your response FolkGirl. In response to your posts, it's so easy to over think things isn't it?

I think men are simpler than we think. No, mademan?

And thanks for your ideas about my wardrobe last night. Green dress was a great plan! :-)

I think everyone is probably simpler than I imagine them to be!

Hahaha! Yes me too FolkGirl. I actually don't want anything too serious with my guy. I just want fun. And then I have to send these texts. Sigh. I want to see him before Friday too. It's so far away! Why am I depriving myself of a bit of fun when I've been soooo bored for so long?!?!

I reckon we can all over think things from time to time Green; women and men.

It doesn't help though having to check through all these different communications; texting, emailing, facebooking, telephoning, carrier pigeon...and so on.

FolkGirl, I'm not very expressive in written form. I don't like committing my feelings in writing, I prefer a face to face situation when communication can be more nuanced, if that makes sense. So coming over as distant in writing is nothing to worry about. I think it sounds great with your guy.

Green, I'm glad the date was promising, despite the lateness. maybe bring it up next time and say you were a bit annoyed and see what he says? I think your text was perfectly pitched, so hope you get a positive response soon

Geeky and I had a lovely time last night and this morning. Although when he's tired, he's very grumpy, I've discovered.

He got the bus again, but he just prefers not to drive if he doesn't have to, I think. I dropped him at the bus station this morning and we kissed and our last words to each other were 'I love you.' My feelings for him have changed I think, but they've deepened, so I think that's normal and probably not a bad thing. He hasn't mentioned what we'll be doing for valentine's day yet though.

I am wondering if I am being too picky, on a few sites and getting lots of messages, winks etc,, thing is I just look at theire profiles and have seen noone that is near what I am finding attrative, have chatted to couple of guys and they seem really keen but do nothing. Am I putting to much emphasis on this, maybe I should just be more flexible and just meet up with people and see what happens, just wondering what experiences you have had.

I think you should be picky, Blossom. I got lots of messages, but very few were suitable. It took a while to find him, but I knew once I'd met him. Although if you're wavering over someone, no harm in meeting them.

dont I am not being arrogant but I just at some of these blokes and think, really? Then I had a chap message me last night we exchanged lots and I actualy thought wow, then suddenly he removed his photo and stopped replying, I don't get all this messing around .Sure I will get the hang of it.

Thanks Don'tcall. I think I will turn off my phone for the evening (teenage I know!) and this will mean I will be oblivious to any replies :-)

And another thing what is about men posting wth pictures with their kids, I think that is weird and don't get me on dodgy selfies, often with babies cot in the background wtaf

I used to put my phone on airplane mode, so I didn't get any texts. I do so hate those early days of dating for making you feel on edge.

I'm with you on the pictures with kids, Blossom - totally inappropriate!

dont I think what I'm doing is looking for evidence that he doesn't like me/is messing me about because I find it difficult believe someone like him would be interested in me.

He's lived all over the world and has dated some really beautiful women (well I'm assuming they were). I think I just think that 10 years ago he wouldn't really have looked twice at someone as short and pasty as me!

I just need to stop thinking about it all now...

Really good to read that it's all going so well with geeky though

Blossom I was really surprised too at how many men had their children in their photos. I think they do it because we will think they're more mature and more responsible and after all, we are women and just can't resist a lickle wickle baby...

Green Yes, your text to him was fine. Switch your phone off and don't check it again until you next need to use it. He might not have read it, he might not be in a position to reply, he might not want to look too keen... Lots of reasons why he hasn't replied yet.

FolkGirl hahaha! Lickle Wickle baby!

(Personally I find it a total turn off!)

Yeah, I did too, Green.

I had nothing against meeting a man with children, but I didn't like the way some of them thought their children were one of their selling points. And in some cases, their main selling point.

I put that I had children on my profile, but that was it. Some of the men had adverts that talked about how much they loved their kids, how much time they spent with them, the sort of things they liked to do with their kids. It looked like some of them were auditioning potential step mums rather than looking for someone for them!

Apparently some woman put pictures of their kids too, how very odd

Exactly. A lot of men write their kids names?!? One I read said 'Emily-Louise is my whole world etc etc.' I'm sorry but if she is your whole world, where is there room for a girlfriend?!?

Do they Blossom?!

I wouldn't have put my children on there. Some people are very strange.

Yes women put their kids on too sometimes (I had a snoop at the women in my area to check them out to see what kinds of people I was being exhibited alongside!) but well you do get a lot of strange types on dating sites

Ps date has been arranged!

(I sneaked my phone on!)

Green!

You're rubbish at this, aren't you?!

Pleased to hear it's arranged though. What are you doing?

We're going to an as yet unknown gig/concert. We'll have a stroll around the city and I'll show him some places. I'll have to see what's on. I told him I had a crazy week this week and he just said 'Have a nice week.' No questions or anything! :-)

I hope he's not expecting me to invite him back to my house afterwards haha!

It's ok FolkGirl I haven't texted him back so it's AS THOUGH my phone were still off! ;-)