The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Welcome Velvet.

Don't do it if you're not comfortable with it.

I don't like talking on the phone, so I've never done that! I have exchanged texts, but I've not exchanged numbers with someone until we have a first date arranged and then it's done with the intention of confirming on the date and being able to let the other know if we're stuck in traffic or whatever.

Don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't feel comfortable with, and that includes exhanging numbers

Thank you, I know it might sound silly but even that takes me way out of my comfort zone at the moment!

The first time someone emailed me, I suspended the account and didn't go back on for a fortnight! I think it's understandable to be wary to begin with. In the end, I was arranging 3 dates over a weekend. But in the early days any sort of contact was still stressful!

Aaaaaaaaagh!!!!!!

He arrived after 40 minutes with me glass of white wine in hand & starters ordered (but not yet arrived)

I RRRREEEEEAAAALLLYYY LIIIIKE HIIM!!!!!

I'm excited because I've been on so many Internet dates and... nothing.

They were not fun.

Tonight it has been the fireworks and the everything. I only had an hour as I had to meet some friends but now I'm free again and I think he's going to suggest meeting again. It's pouring rain and I'm back home so I think not!!!

Buuuut I think I'll be seeing him again another night hopefully soon. He certainly seemed very keen. I'm just going to relish this feeling now of spending time with someone I like. Oh I know what you're going to say- Carpe Diem and all that- meet him in town for some drinks but in a way I don't want to spoil what was a perfect evening? Do you know what I mean? I want to let the feeling last.

Oh well I'm glad I didn't ask him again about his age! I was thinking when we were chatting that he seemed a little younger than me. Like one year or two. Just looked at his profile & he's 5 years younger! Haha!

So pleased for you Green Sounds like he was worth the wait after all. Really hope see him again.

Really hope you see him again.

Hello All
Thanks for starting new thread folkgirl :)
Well just got in from date with Mr Bricky. Seems very nice, pleasant, ordinary (in a good way) kind of bloke. Chatted way for 3 hours, conversation flowed, all good. He asked to see me again, we are going to the cinema next week. The only downside is he has moved back in with his parents, this is a man in his 40's. He had a relationship lasting 8 yrs which ended about a year ago and they lived together.

When that ended he went back to live with his parents who are elderly and his dad now has cancer. Does this sound ok.?. He seems like an honest easy going kind of bloke. So I will just have to see

Yeah except- he didn't even apologise for being so late!!! Is he a bit immature or something?

It's a shame because he's texting asking me when I'm free again
etc etc

'You can tell me your availability
:-P'

so I cheekily wrote

'Yeah and you can come at the time you say you're going to be there :-P'

If it had been me, I would have been feeling so bad for being so late!!! I would have said sorry and been appreciative that the person had hung around!

Anyway he texted back saying

'I can see the blackmailing starting :-P'

Blackmailing?! Honestly though how do I get it across that ringing me when I'm already in restaurant to say you're 40 minutes away and asking for the postcode isn't cool at all?! Or has he already got the message but doesn't want to say sorry for some bizarre reason?! Really- I don't want another man like my ex!!!

Hi Velvet :) I think everyone's comfortable with different things, personally I would text someone before meeting but not talk on the phone as I hate talking on the phone, I can't even call a taxi without feeling awkward! I'm sure it'll be fine if you say you're not comfortable giving your number out :)

Green I'm so excited for you! Glad it was just a shaky start and worked out ok, sounds like he more than made up for it :)

Oops, crossposted! Maybe he's embarassed and doesn't want to make a big thing of it so is trying to joke around a bit? Maybe he thinks he already said sorry? Is it the kind of thing you couldn't get past?

Ok, feel like an idiot. Not the way I normally arrange dates but we did it all by message and didn't talk on the phone and somehow didn't exchange numbers either, not great I know but the date was arranged quickly and seemed watertight...but I 'think' I got stood up. I waited outside the pub having told him I would wait outside in my last message, no sign after about fifteen minutes and I didn't go in to check.
Sent him a message online when I got back to say I had been there having thought perhaps he had waited inside but not heard anything back though he's not been online by the looks of it. Feel a bit peeed off but my bad for not exchanging numbers to avoid any mixup...he did say he was new to the OD thing and may well have not thought of exchanging numbers either.
In my defence I've had rubbish dates having spoken on the phone first so I wasn't too pushed about speaking to him first as I thought we'd either like each other or not when we met.
I'll be a bit annoyed if I don't at least get an apology or explanation but as the evening goes on I think perhaps I won't. Bah.

Hansel I was stood up 3 or 4 times in my previous run of Internet dating. There are some real assholes out there!!!

I've never had that happen. Part of me thinks it was a mixup but that's mainly as we had no way to contact each other. Now I'm thinking he might have been a phantom profile or something...holy crap, I really am having no luck at all!!

Yes one of the ones who stood me up was just arranged by messages & no tel no.

Really? did you ever hear anything back?

Mr Coffee Shop came over tonight. It was a bit weird tbh - sometimes I think he really likes me and others I think he's just not that into me. Don't think I'm seeing him again this weekend. Feel a bit sad and emotional. It was much easier staying single.

I don't mind lonely though, I'm a classic introvert so being alone doesn't bother me. And at least I don't have this emotional roller coaster to contend with.

Yes soft kitty re: emotional rollercoaster! I hate the players and I fear that no apology means that he just doesn't have any respect for me. Perhaps all the questions come from the same reason- no respect! Anyway we don't know until we've had a couple more dates...
I just hate the arrogant womaniser types and I hope he isn't one of them!!! [Man-paranoid I know!]

Hansel well the 3 instances were all very different. One guy texting on phone for AGES! Seemed really keen! Weird! Other guy like I said. The other one was very confusing indeed. Anyway, their loss and my lucky escape! Did make me feel crap at the time!

Haha! For short I shall call him Mr NBNA haha!

He says he's free whenever I am. I am not sure yet when I'll be free! :-)