FolkGirl When you wrote the lines below a few posts back, it really resonated with me.
I think the truth of the matter is that he's just not that into me.
...I think I'm starting to think that I don't want to put up with being someone's "will do for now" option or consolation prize until they meet someone they do fall in love with.
I'm in the same situation with Mr Coffee Shop, who I've been dating for about 5 weeks. I really, really like him and would like to make a go of it but get the feeling he's holding back emotionally, which means in turn that I am too. I'm concerned that he's just not that into me, especially after reading the book recently. Despite really liking him I don't want to be the person he dates until he finds someone he fully wants to be with - I'm not going to make someone a priority if I'm only going to be an option to him. He's also another man who hardly ever texts unless arranging a date and has never, ever phoned me to speak, yet when we're together we talk non-stop.
I think he's wary because a/ he's not quite over his ex who he was with for years, and b/ I'm 7 years older than him and have a child (he doesn't have kids). While I can understand both those points, I'm not willing to be on the periphery of his life indefinitely.
Not sure how it's going to pan out with him, so I've decided to give it a total of about 3 months to see how things progress before making a decision on whether this is the right man for me. We haven't dtd yet but I'm dying to as he's bloody gorgeous, so fingers crossed it at least gets that far 
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