The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

I looked at one profile out of sheer curiosity because the profile picture was of a cat...

He had 2 more photos. Of porcelain cats.

And some people wonder why they're single...

Well I've heard nothing from Mr Bricky today :( although he did text me last night when I got in thanking me for a great evening and asking me to have a look for a film I would like to see next week and to let him know

Have heard several times from the other guy who even said he would have taken me out this evening after work, but I have worked late and have to be up at 6am

I think the other guy sounds v keen, but Mr Bricky probably isn't as prolific a texter, I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.

Folk - that is so strange!

Geeky texted saying he was looking forward to Tuesday. We always see each other on Tuesday. He said Tuesday was a pretty pointless day before I met him. I told him that I was glad I could cheer up Tuesday and he said 'You can cheer up any day you like.'

The only bad thing is the days when I don't see him and I miss him.

Isn't it always the way though, that the guys you like the least are the most keen on you

It's typical, isn't it. But don't write off Mr Bricky just yet, he's probably just got a different texting style.

Well I just text Mr Bricky to let him know which film I want to see so I will wait and see what happens. He told me to let him know

Mr Bricky just replied saying he would get the tickets for the film and asked whether I wanted to meet there or drive to his and he will drive us. I think I will meet there as I don't really know him yet

There you go, Santa - sounds good!

Yes I wouldn't get in a car with someone from OLD. I'm so wary! My friend did though. On a first meeting he drove her home. She said he was totally harmless but I'd be terrified!!! :-)

I'm so excited that I've met Mr NiceButNoApology. He's like... my ideal man. Or at least he has potential to be... :-D [Grinning from ear to ear.]

Yes I would be very wary and not just from online. I wouldn't do it with someone I'd met out in RL until I knew them fairly well

I did what you said Jarlin. Took a long break from OLD as it had become v depressing. So many meet ups. So many ways that men can be such bad matches. Such low self esteem. Now I go back on and I meet someone like Mr NiceButNoApology after just a week!

We are going for something to eat first

That's nice. Eating on a date is really good. It's very relaxing.

Folk I agree with the others who posted, your guy sounds nice and attentive, the distance when you're not together is coming more from the fact it's emails and his way of coming across in writing than any lack of feeling on his part. It does sound like you are overthinking this and I know you have explained why you do this but if you could keep a check on this negative mindset then you would be doing yourself a favour. Don't let the past cloud the present and all that.

I have heard back from last nights no show, he is very apologetic and says he had an accident (broken collar bone and other cuts and bruises), has given some detail and says he just completely forgot about our date with the whole thing, he is keen to make another date....he even offered to send me a pic of the cuts to his face as proof, I haven't asked for this as it seems churlish....what do people think? believe? bull? seems a silly to make something like that up.

Very bizarre HanselAndGretel! I would do a phone chat.

Have his number now so have agreed to chat to him tomorrow on the phone, giving him the benefit of the doubt at the moment.

As expected, I got my phone call from Mr MM last night! He said he feels really bad about last week and he is definitely not back with his ex. He said he's going to text me today so will have to see if he actually does. Hopefully we can go back to our nice uncomplicated arrangement!

Meeting Mr Guitarist on Monday, even though it's just a hookup he's actually very nice, good to chat to, similar to me etc

Plus been talking to the cute guy on POF who I was hoping would message me back, he's good to chat to but not sure if it'll end up with a meeting or not.

Quite a bit going on now, it's just nice to get that little flutter of excitement when you see you have a new message :)

Hello. The thread is moving quickly again these days - nice to see.

Apparently the reason for pictures of men holding fish is that generally those are the few times men have photos taken of them - that and family photos. If a few men go out for the evening together, it's vanishingly rare for one of them to start saying how good someone else looks and taking pictures of them. Weddings, family photos and holding fish. Trying to find other ones when we're not holding a beer in the air and grinning cheesily is difficult.

Also - on women's OD profiles, there are too many:
Photos of horses
Photos of cakes, biscuits & general baked goods
Photos of holiday destinations
More photos of horses
Photos of kids
Photos of women wearing comedy moustaches
Photos of dogs and cats.
Seriously, stop with the photos of horses.

There are a ridiculous number of women's profiles which say 'My son/daughter is my world..' - the cliche there puts me off as much as the sentiment. My DC are hugely important to me but the reason I'm using a dating site is because being a parent isn't my be-all-and-end-all. Mentioning them briefly is fine, I think; definitely check the 'have kids' checkbox if you do have them, but having lots of photos and outright saying they're the most important thing in your life is going to make people look for someone else who'd have more time for them.

Also, consider that 1/4 of male profiles on dating sites are married men, possibly the only chance they got to take a selfie was by sneaking up to the nursery when the wife is downstairs..

Hansel - I think a broken collarbone would distract me from a date too. If he seems genuine then give him a chance. I daresay people on here would be fuming if a woman had a similar incident, forgot a date because they were injured and the bloke got in a huff and didn't want to see them again.

My date for this week is still on, haven't been free to meet up so far, so we've been chatting by text/email. Too much, probably, so it's all built up in my mind (and probably hers) that there will be kismet, chemistry and a spark, and we just won't fancy each other in person. Ah well..

He does seem genuine Bant so no reason to blow him out at this point.

I'm in agreement with the iffyness of pictures of kids on dating profiles, I've even seen guys posing with kids then look at their profile and they don't actually have any, it was their nephew, or best friends sisters first cousin twice removed or something!

Can't abide guys saying they are looking for their 'princess', or I 'know how to treat a lady', or 'what you see is what you get' cliche ridden drat.

"If a few men go out for the evening together, it's vanishingly rare for one of them to start saying how good someone else looks and taking pictures of them."

Yes, this is true. Men generally don't take pictures of each other unless drunk and doing stupid things. I don't have many photos of myself other than family type ones.

"Seriously, stop with the photos of horses."

Yes this needs to stop and also pictures of sitting eating in a restaurant.