The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Crow I would be quite happy for someone to pay me £50 to smell my feet. They can even touch them if they like (although I might charge more for that...) I'll wear any shoes they want me to, too.

Santa I think it does send you slightly crazy, doesn't it?! But, to be honest, it's no different to the way I was when I was 17 when I think even I got sick of hearing myself say, "but do you think he likes me?" It's just that I didn't think I'd be in this position at nearly 40

OneDay I think I am generally comfortable with how things are. I'm sort of avoiding the "What are we" conversation. Largely because I did say to him (by email though) the other week that I'd had a lovely weekend but couldn't help feeling like I didn't really know what "this is". He replied and said he didn't really know either but that he really liked me and enjoyed being with me and felt happy when we were together type stuff. I don't really want to ask him again because I don't want to hear anything that would spoil things. He has said he isn't seeing/dating anyone else.

OFG Someone once said to me that my friend was the sort of girl men wanted to have sex with and I was the sort of girl men want to marry. I think that meant she was beautiful and sexy whereas it meant men would be confident I wouldn't go off with anyone else and they'd be happy for me to bring up their children. I do make good cakes and my cheeks flush after a single glass of wine (which is apparently really sweet ) I think they're my best qualities. Oh and tiny feet.

I wish I was sexy and beautiful though. After all, no one's ever going to "forsake all others" for sweet, are they?

How do people find public display of affection ?
This bloke I've been seeing doesn't even hold my hand and I miss that type of thing .
I've not had many relationships but even my fling would cuddle and kiss me , i dont mean Pawing at each other but some contact.

I like it.

But that's largely because I take it as a sign that they're not embarrassed to be seen with me in public.

What does he do if you go to hold his hand?

Just says not keen on hand holding etc .
It's silly all my other bf have kissed me etc which like u said its like they not embarrassed by me.

Does he hold your hand if you're on your own together? Or show you affection when you're out in other ways?

I'm not keen am horribly put off by 'get a room' type PDAs, but just general "I like it that you're here" type stuff is nice.

We kissed whilst out the other day but no one around , I was looking at the other couples who were together and I was jealous.
He'll kiss me when we are alone but that's when we are totally alone but there no you touching in an affectionate way ie stuff like hand on leg in car does this make sense.

Happy days, 2nd date arranged for Friday with mrscottishaccent Texted last night, problem was he really wants to see me again but because coming towards end of month and a bit short of money but wanted to treat me to a nice dinner. I said I could not care less if we had a sandwich as just a chance to know each other better. He seems really happy. I like his honesty.

Sometimes I think the planning multiple dates in advance is perhaps them ensuring they "book you up" so you aren't arranging dates with other men. Which is nice if you like him back

Also Bricky texts every night I finish work, or asks me to text him and we chat for about an hour. Oh well fingers crossed, I hate myself for not being more positive but I think when you've had nothing but let downs it can do that to you. It's almost as though I'm scared to enjoy it

Hi everyone...reading through thread to catch up.

Me and Mr Number4 are still in touch but its proving difficult to meet due to him working away Mon-Fri. Also, he doesnt seem to be over his past. So Ive tried to end it but he doesnt seem to listen. I still really lime him and think perhaps just need to take things slowly.
I did a bad thing! Ive been off pof for a while now but kept a number of a guy who made me laugh. He text me and asked to meet "for some sexy fun". And i did, just the once, and now feel bad. It doesnt sit well with me. Eek!

Hi flora nice to see you back :)

Don't feel bad about meeting that guy for fun. Easier said than done I know, I'm the same way I would feel bad, even though there's no reason we should. It's just not something I'm comfortable with

Even now with Bricky I'm thinking is he just seeing me till we dtd properly then he'll end it. I worry he's just after sex, then again I worried about the last 3 month relationship I had because he never seemed to want sex, they can never win

Santa Aint that the truth!

Thanks Santa. At least I knew what I was getting in to and i dont plan to repeat the performance.
I am having an OD break. Sticking with number 4 and going slowly. He text me every day....so he sounds keen. He called me on Saturday to say he wants to meet when he gets home from this job. So watch this space.

Is it just me or are woman really going to be interested blokes whose profile shows them holding a large Fish that they have so proudly caught, holding a baby or young child, pretty young woman draped over them ( most likely not their daughters) or leaning on their sports car/bmw or whatever ans especially describe themselves as a normal chap . Or is it just me. Sorry rant over and breathe.

Blossom....or the ones who proudly display their tattoos, or those who have taken a selfie in the mirror with a phone blocking their face, or those with an alcoholic beverage in their hand looking so obviously out of their face!

Nice to see pics of smiley faces and people doing fun things or on holiday.

Blossom flora what about the selfies taken in public toilets showing a urinal in the background?

At least the car or fish is something they are proud of.

I just can't believe a selfie from a toilet is the best pic someone has of themselves.

Lol...yes....seen those too.
I think girls do similar pic...maybe our male posters can confirm!

I think the pics with big fish are obviously them trying to play on the 'plenty of fish' pun but it loses its humour after a while.
An overused phrase i dislike in profiles in "looking to meet my partner in crime" ??!!!

HATE Selfies, especially taken in the bedroom with cot in the background or some poor wife clothes or yes in public loo, god how can we resist ladies. Don't get me on tattoos, I am being hassled by this bloke is so proud of his tats

omg it gets worse, I have just been messaged by a 18 yr old with a foot fetish.

I know what you mean about pics . I had one text me who was actually kissing a girl in pic.
Hey could be worse I was messaged buy a guy who on closer inspection of pic shows the lad who I blame for breaking up my first proper relationship !!!!!

Still answered as he was cute !!!

I never message guys with kids in the pics, I find it quite creepy. If I was the child's mother, I would be really annoyed that they had put a picture of our child on a site like that!

crow I do hope we aren't going to end up fighting for the foot guy?

I think sites should ban people putting pictures of their kids on there as think it is totally inappropriate, I have talked about this before and yes woman do it too.

I don't mind photos of tattoos, or holding fish, or on nights out. The only ones I don't like are pictures with kids in them. Or photos of cars where the person isn't in it! Men don't generally go places and take loads of pictures of themselves so the selfie is the only option. I don't mind selfies at all, apart from when you can't see most of their face because the phone's in the way, what's the point?!

indecisive I get the feeling that he's not up for an exclusive relationship so we could share him! Plenty of feet to go around!

folkgirl People have said similar to me - I get told to wait until the men my age grow up and want to settle down! My worry is that the sweet thing seems to be just part of my character that I am stuck with. Always feel like, what ever the man says, I would get dropped when someone exciting and hot came along!

How old are you OFG (if you don't mind me asking?!) I'm 39. I can't still be waiting for the men my age to grow up, surely!!!

Perhaps I have to wait until ED hits them and hot, sexy women have less appeal than sweet ones who make a good cake...

The thing is, I think sweet is a really lovely quality to have. It's just not sexy!

28 so it looks like I am in for a long wait! Seem to appeal to men in their 40s for some reason but don't really know why.

It really isn't sexy at all!!