The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Santa just whenever it feels natural I guess. For example if you were talking about which dating sites you were using, the conversation could have naturally led onto other dates.

I think I already wrote about this one with me & Niceguy, but it came up naturally in conversation on 3rd/4th date, because I got a text from someone else I'd been on a date with and said I wasn't interested in, he saw the text so I explained and then we chatted about it and confirmed that neither of us was seeing anyone else.

I can't imagine asking a man to meet - haven't even managed to send a first message yet!!

Do you find that men send messages that are sort of over the top sweet really fast?

Have been chatting to a couple and the messages are really flattering and I don't know if it is something to worry about.

Over the top is not good. They are getting to know you. Nothing wrong with making it clear that they're interested, but grand baseless sentiments either suggest they're desperate or think you're gullible.

I seem to be attracting creepy types or over the top planning 5 dates ahead without even having met types. Not sure why! Have had quite a few first messages that are basically essays too.

Couple of possibilities though - seem interesting and reasonably normal!

ofg I think it's just par for the course that you'll get creeps, desperate types and over-the-top flowery essays. Just think of it all as fan mail; even famous people have to sort through the crapola.

I'm panicking at the moment. I haven't heard from Bricky since this morning when he said speak later as he had to go back to work. Since then I looked on his POF profile. I don't have a profile but was able to see his, does anyone know for sure that he can't tell it was me. Doesn't it tell him that someone has viewed him?

I had some nice texts last night arranging where to go later in the week and saying he couldn't wait till Saturday and that he was going to miss cuddling me last night. Yet now I've heard nothing and I'm so worried it's to do with me snooping

I don't think looking at his public profile constitutes 'snooping' Santa!

I often looked at men's profiles on Match after I'd met them. Often many, many times...

I don't think anyone went off me because of it.

I would imagine he just hasn't had chance to get in touch yet. Or hasn't had the time to give it the consideration he feels it deserves.

Don't start worrying just yet!

Ok, I need to calm down don't i. I think I've just had it happen so many times that they meet you, draw you in, then lose interest and move on. Just think it's going to happen again

Santa I'm on POF and I can see who's viewed me but if someone without a profile views me I can't see anything about them, so there's no way he knows you've viewed him.

All this technology these days makes us paranoid, doesn't it? I'm the same. Think we all need to relax (me included) because if it's meant to be, it will be.

Yes santa you need to calm down!! A little paranoia is natural (see my post haha) I think when we've had things go tits up before we seem to be naturally programmed to not accept things going well! But obviously he won't be able to tell that you've looked at his profile if there's nothing on there to link back to you.

Isn't it daft when you can clearly see other people are worrying themselves needlessly but you do the same thing yourself. Hmm.

Mademan @ fanmail!

yes oneday and often you even know yourself your being daft but can't stop yourself. Thank you all for calming me down. kitty glad to hear that about the profile

He has just text :)

jarlin I left my make up on the other night, I tend to do that the first few times. Can you sleep in just a pair of knickers

Fan mail! That is a funny idea!

I wonder if it is my profile that is causing those sort of messages - I tried to be honest and it is a bit dull but I seem to be attracting all the ones that have been heartbroken! I don't want someone telling me that they didn't know girls like me existed - way too over the top and just puts me right off.

santa Calm thoughts! I can only see actual people with profiles that have viewed me on POF.

I guess, that by definition in order that we are currently single(ish), we have not had a LTR work out yet. So our own experience is that eventually people will cheat on you (for example) or for me, that people eventually just change their mind and don't want to be with you any more and you had no idea that anything was wrong. So that's what we expect.

At least it seems like everybody does it! None of us are freaks!

jarlin eyelash extensions, good idea. Never tried those but might give them a go myself

Guys, I miss you. Don't feel I'm in a position to post here right now (apart from this one!). Going through a very rough time. Hope you're all doing well. I can't bear to read much of the thread right now

Jarlin I was thinking after I wrote my last post shit that could sound really callous! Especially if anyone is single after being bereaved. My LTRs were 2 and 6 yrs long....I thought I'd cracked it with the 6 year one. But live and learn.

Dont the thread will always be here when you're ready to post. Just keep going back to those bloody rules, I think they work at all stages....if it's not fun, stop, and remember you are the prize

Where can I find the rules again. I've forgotten them

dont Take care, we are thinking of you. As oneday says, the thread will always be here for when you ready

Hi everyone, dont have been thinking of you, I hope you are o.kay and getting some rl support.

Jarlin I am the same in respects to not liking to sleep naked I always get up having dtd and put knickers and a t.shirt on!! I also take my make up off, he hasn't run out of the room screaming yet.......

I struggle more with actually having someone in the bed with me, I am not the most - ahem - tolerant of snorers, fidgeters, deep breathers, men trying to sleep in my space I did mention to him I like to be left alone to sleep but Smallfeet appears to be a bit of a cuddler.

As he only stays over once every 2 weeks (if that) its fine but I do wonder how I would cope if it were ever to be more often!!!

Dont thinking of you too, come back whenever you're ready.

Decided I couldn't wait a couple of days so asked POF guy if he wants to meet up for a couple of drinks. Now begins the wait for a reply! At least if he says no I won't be wasting more time messaging.