That relenting a bit to look like the good guy, when actually he was the cause of the whole situation in the first place is very familiar. How could he be the good guy when he stopped you from contacting them in the first place? He is just trying to manipulate your feelings into accepting the situation, and it's not actually acceptable at all to lay down the law about who you can and can't contact. That's your own right as a human being.
Mine tried to make it about "protecting me from harm", but I'm a grown up, I can decide what is harming me and what isn't. If I want to speak to my mum or my sister, that's my business.
By cutting you off, what he is doing is cementing control, because you have no one to discuss his behaviour with, so you can't question it. I think that is part of the so-called script they follow. By making you emotionally dependent on only them, it becomes harder to cut yourself off and be independent when you do realize they are being controlling, so not only do they manage to make you not question them, they prepare for when you do begin to question them, by putting you in a situation where your emotions, finances and home life are all so dependent on them, that it is so very difficult to take that decisive action to step away from them.
That's why you are so worried about him owning all the furniture, about what it will be like for you and your kids if you leave. He has programmed you to believe that he is the only one who can look after you, when actually you can look after yourself. Be prepared for him to seem reasonable and giving you things like the money, it's all part of his campaign to get you back under his control again. Once he does that, he can punish you how he chooses for what he sees as you not following that script he has given you. Not straight away while he is being Mr Reasonable, but afterwards when things settle down, I guarantee that's what he would do. Because that's who he is and what he does, and he may say otherwise, but you've experience it haven't you. He isn't reasonable and he doesn't respect you.
Life is going to be so good for you when you have the freedom to do as you choose. I love eating and drinking whatever I like, I love sleeping when I need to without being told I am lazy, I love being able to leave the house without permission and not having any concerns about taking too long or having to explain what I've been doing, and worrying about whether he will take exception and punish me. Won't it be so nice when you can do the same?