Confronting the Other Woman?

[PhoenixRising1979]

I've posted this within my other thread 'Partner help please?' but it's sort of a different issue...

We ended up bumping into this woman last night. Myself and my partner were walking through a crowd holding hands when I saw her and stopped, with my partner trying to pull me away. I couldn't resist saying something when I saw her. She was talking to a small group of people all sitting down and I stood in front of her and told her she needs to get a life and get a grip and to stay away from him

She said nothing initially, just sat there looking really confused. Then we went to walk off with me still shouting at her, and she got up at tapped partner on the shoulder and said to him that they were going to have a conversation about this and she'd not done anything. He shouted at her to fuck off and fuck off and leave him alone at work too. I was shoving her in the arm telling her to get a life and to stay away from us, and she kept with the confused face saying she had done nothing and then went and sat back down

I don't know what I've done or what to make of it

But he could have told her the price of the tickets and then taken you somewhere else. Nah, he's probably enjoying all this a bit too much

I would be more concerned about his-her employer tbh.

If she complains about the verbals, he could be dragged over hot coals for bringing the company he works for into disrepute(sp?)

I would get him to check his company handbook or policies. I've worked for a couple of employers who had policies that took into account my actions even if not at work.

As for loosing it, especially if tensions are high and booze is possibly involved, it happens. It did to me. Very similar situation. CCTV confirmed the allegations and I was cautioned. Think before you act,it got me in the shit and although the caution is 'spent', it'll always be there,on record.

so is she never allowed to go places on the off chan've your not so do will be there?

you did yourself no favours last night.

unaware of the backstory here but neither of you are being shown in a good light.

I bet he's loving it. Stirring twat.

The club is out of town, so it's not as if it's somewhere you just walk in.

The only person who sawwas my partner, so I've not humiliated myself in front of him?

I've only told one person in real life and she made a comment thats sticking with me - my partner said nothing whileI was telling her to get a grip and stay away from him, and tried to yank me away by the hand. She asked why he said nothing at all until she tapped him and he shouted to fuck off...?

And who told you that? What a bizarre way to live. Your horrible flirting disrespectful partner is to blame for this entirely. Not the OW. She owes you nothing. Get a grip and focus your anger towards your cheating rat of a partner.

Do you think she's not going to tell everyone at work on Monday she was abused by you both?
Really?

Delightful, the two of you.

Face facts.

Your partner was either harassing this woman or having an affair with her.

She either rejected him and reported him for sidelining her or reported him for sidelining her after he binned her when you got pregnant.

Last time something happened mutual said she was very upset and affected by all the gossip, and people even suggested she left but she refused as she hadn't done anything wrong (in her eyes). Mutual saw her crying outside too apparently, so I don't think she's going to tell anyone tomorrow

You guys trying to help this poster are all wasting your time.

Every comment you have made has been argued back at.

if she wants to make a tit of herself over her prick of a boyfriend, let her get on with it

some people thrive on drama like this

So he is in a higher work position & that makes it ok for you both to verbally assault her in public?
Yup, you are unhinged & your H is a wanker.

Do any of you think my friend had a point when she asked why he didn't say anything at all while I was shouting at her until she tapped him saying we'll have a conversation about this later?

You don't appear able to see what is staring you in the face but seem hell bent on blaming this woman. It takes two to tango and I feel your anger is misplaced. Your partner sounds like a massive twat and you are seriously blinkered, you cannot be living a happy life at the moment. Are you not worth more than this degrading behaviour?

AnyFucker - I'm really sorry if it seems that way, I'm trying to listen and reply to you all. I feel like I'm unravelling...when I saw her I just saw red

NO, why do you think its so important?

Why not ask him ? You don't seem to like any of the replies your getting here.

I have no idea what mystical, righteous interpretation you and your totally unbiased friend have spun on that part of your hideous behaviour.

I think the most important part is the fact that she looked confused. She had no idea what you were talking about.

I did ask, he said he didn't want to make it worse.

Mini - because what my friend was getting at is that if he genuinely believed she'd done something wrong, he would have been backing me up. not trying to pull me away

Mama - doesn't the fact that she came after us make her look like she has something to be guilty of? That and texting him after he told her to fuck off and leave him alone?

Kringle - The club closes down after last night so I don't know if CCTV would go with it. I work for an emergency service and I'm scared now

HE WAS PULLING YOU AWAY SO YOU DIDNT HEAR THE TRUTH.

Ok, so you do agree he is likely to be the one in the wrong here?

I'm guessing she didn't say anything at all when you were shouting at her because she was the only one trying to maintain a bit of dignity in this situation. If some crazy woman came over to me in a public place and pushed me I certainly wouldn't be arguing or shouting back. Not because I had something to hide but because I would be mortified.

I think you're reading into this completely wrong OP