is this normal? bedroom stuff.

[wonderingquietly]

I've name changed for this, but am a regular poster.

Quite embarrassing, but I am wondering what's normal when it comes to how long a man lasts in bed.

I was married for a long time, and my ex husband lasted for an hour minimum, usually more like 90 minutes. This was whether it was penetration or other stuff.

My latest partner, well penetration has never lasted more than five minutes. I'm not timing him, obviously, but it feels very quick. He gets an erection easily so I don't think that is the problem, and he always works on me first for a long, long time before penetration. However, I can't orgasm without penetration so that is important to me.

He is touchy when I mention is; he says no me has ever complained before and that he has always given previous partners multiple orgasms, saying if he gets them to orgasm once before penetration, then they always come again during actual sex.

Is this normal? I know its relative but but would this feel like premature ejaculaton/some sort of problem if a man couldn't go longer than five minutes of penetratiin, or was I just spoiled by my ex? Lol.

[Andy1964]

I went to the Dr a few years ago and discussed amoungst other things the fact that I was having trouble keeping my erection. He said that the average man of my age should be able to keep an erection for 3-5 mins.

[Lucylloyd13]

Normal? it is what you bothe enjoy that counts

[Contrarian78]

Absolutely correct, there is no "normal" when it comes to these things.

Somebody previously said that women like to have sex like they see in the movies. Mrs. Contrarian asked me to make love to her 'like they do in the movies'............ It turns out we watch different sort of films!!

[FluffyJumper]

5 mins sounds fine to me. An hour and a half (the mind boggles) were you really able to stay wet for that long?

[Chattymummyhere]

5mins I wouldn't see the point I count a quickie as 10mins..

Show him tell him and if nothing changes you have to decide to put up with I for kick him to the Kurb.

I've been with men ranging from 5mins-over an hour, I always found the longer better but normally because we are so lost in the moment and keep switching things up and after we go god look at the time..

[AcheyFanny]

Oh the worst sex I ever had was about three thrusts. Gutted. Massive build up, horny as hell then it was over. Stupid me, gave him a few more tries before I jacked him in.
DH is a bit quick but he makes sure I orgasm before him.

[Lazyjaney]

Is everybody talking about the same thing here? I assumed it was about how long it took once they are in the groove and going for the finish, not all the ins and outs of position changes, slowdowns, etc etc.