Hiring male escort?

[Wolfinthewintertree]

Hear me out before judging, I haven't had sex for five years and I'd really like to. Not loads, but I do feel quite 'up for it' when ovulating

There was a storyline on this on a TV box set I've been watching this Christmas and I thought it was nonsense at first but have done some research and it does seem I could 'hire' one for two hours for £60!

Terribly wrong or a good way of my needs being met?

I think it's you that has a problem with sex Wolf (understandably). You have never had sex that you weren't paid for and you won't consider sex with a man unless you pay him.

I think your money would be better spent on counselling for yourself. You really have no idea of what 'natural' sex is all about. You are missing out on so much.

Garlic - you'll convert me yet, at this rate!

I'd never do either, but to take the thread title at face value, if I had to do one, I'd rather choose a ons from a sex site rather than pay for an escort.

The reason being that from a sex site, hypothetically, you could find someone with whom you have genuine sexual chemistry, and turn down anyone you didn't; whereas with an escort, if you hire him from a site, he shows up & you don't fancy him, then what? If he blatantly doesn't fancy you, would that not put you off having sex with him? (It would me). A man lying back & thinking of England would depress me far more than not having sex. Plus I can only imagine what kind of rancid bloke you're going to get for £60.

In the end, I think sex is going to be better quality with someone who a) you fancy & b) who fancies you back.

I think there's something slightly tragic and demoralising about paying someone to shag you, and personally, I have much more respect for prostitutes than their clients. (Unless they're terribly disabled & it's that or nothing).

I wonder OP, as you've already been an escort whether you simply want to experience the other side of the coin?

In fact, have you never had any emotional attachment to another adult?

I'd like to experience it Fair in a 'proper' relationship: strange as it may sound, with my 'past', it's quite frightening to jump from the constraints of escorting to a ONS, I probably won't explain that too well.

xpost - ah the latest revelation makes sense.

So yeah I guess about experiencing the other side of the coin, as you your conception of sex is limited to that which is paid for.

Fair? Sexually, or otherwise? Otherwise yes, definitely.

Anyway, daft idea, daft thread - apologies :)

It really, really isn't about experiencing the other side of the coin; I would be honest if it was.

I was last an escort 5 years ago - if I wanted to experience the other side I would've done so before now!

So you have had adult relationships, they just haven't led to sex?

I was last an escort 5 years ago - if I wanted to experience the other side I would've done so before now!

If you'd wanted to have any kind of sex you could have done so by now...

Well, I'll give it a go. I change £10 an hour, or for £15 I'll wear my dinosaur onesie with a hole cut out.

Why not try one of the swinging sites, plenty of men on there up for it.Use the money paying for hotel instead safer and anonymous.
Isnt £60 bit on cheap side? Is this per hour and you pay for extras?

I know a male escort (but not in that way). He's a nice, presentable, reasonably 'hot' guy and often 'properly escorts' a couple of women I know to balls, etc. Well educated, etc etc.

It'd not be my thing at all but I can see why some women go for it. BUT. £60? Nah, that's way off target. I think the chap i know charges triple that and then some for an exclusive evening. £60 sounds like the very risky end of the scale to me.

Twinkle, that's a little unfair. As I have said, the idea of trying a website specifically for a ONS doesn't appeal, and I haven't been in a relationship. I'd like a relationship, but I am at a 'strange age', relationship wise.

It's tacky as tinsel, and not half so charming. Yuck, just no. Why would you want to shag someone who has to be paid to do it?

Oh Tiggy I'll bung you an extra £20 if you agree to wear a butler-in-the-buff outfit (Marigolds compulsory)

You need help love.

to have not had sex other than being paid for it is pretty fucking sad imo.

I feel sorry for you.

You are putting yourself at risk of stds, which at the very least would put me off.

instead of paying someone to shag you, why not invest in yourself.

I've just googled 'male escorts Bristol' thanks to you OP!

Some of them are seriously hot.

Some look like they'd spend all night telling you their woes.

Blonde please don't be so patronising. I have never once had sex without a condom, so how I am putting myself at risk of STIs, I don't know. And nor would I have sex without a condom unless I was in a long term committed relationship.

Sorry about that Fuffy!

If they put shelves up it's still cheaper than hiring a joiner.

A friend of a friend was in a similar situation and went onto a site called my fun buddy and illicit encounters. We googled and I was

I genuinely didn't mean to be unfair to you OP, I'm sorry if you think that.

But it is a fact that you could have had 'non-commercial' sex at any point before now. And I'm surprised given that you haven't experienced it, that you wouldn't want to try it...

I agree with BandB

(sorry Tiggy - I'll keep my £20...for now)

the abuse you speak of is on the streets quite literally. I would absolutely judge someone who picked a girl from a red light district as it is sordid and they are, sadly, abused, I don't condone that for a minute.

Would you judge someone who picked up a man from a red light district? Because the man you buy may well have already been picked up off the streets and used by men. You don't know. You are not that different to a kerb crawler, you are just using your phone instead of your car.