LTB, abusive, a bully and a twat? FFS, it's embarrassing and worrying how often this crap is thrown around mn.
I have seen some great posts where the OP has truly been helped by well meaning posters but this one is just ridiculous.
The OP's DH has given an explanation (and a perfectly valid one) that he feels rejected at times. Yes he chooses an immature and extremely annoying way of showing this but he's not a bloody abuser. He's human and isn't displaying behaviour in an appropriate way as he's concentrating on his own feelings at the time. It's inconsiderate and selfish but his feelings are valid. It's far too simple to say he feels entitled. He feels unattractive and has has his ego bruised.
There's nothing wrong with propositioning your partner, just as there's nothing wrong with saying you don't feel like sex right now. How you say that is important though as both partners should be considerate of the self esteem of the other.
OP, I assume you were looking for practical advise rather than a witch hunt?! If it were me (in my relationship-as I don't know enough about yours), when my DH shows he's aroused and I'm really not I will put it off but in a sensitive way. I really fancy DH and do want intimacy and sex but sometimes not always at that second, so I'll hold and kiss him and whisper something like "lets have an early night tonight and I'll enjoy thinking about you all day".
We both enjoy the wait and the flirting through the day and it keeps things alive. It ensures he's not left feeling rejected and I do think it's important that both partners are conscious of that. Before children I had a higher sex drive than DH but now things are more even, maybe his being slightly higher, so we've both experienced the feeling of "rejection" at times and are conscious not to make the other feel that way.
OP, you know your relationship, don't feel pressured into projecting the ideas of strangers onto it.
Neiljames-I don't know how you have the patience to keep posting against the man haters but I'm glad you do!