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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 14:24

Oh so pleased hormonal! Sounds fab!!

rule, I am going to introduce geeky a few months down the line. Dc are 4,5 and 7 and good sleepers, so have kept him secret. They do know I have a friend who stays over sometimes.

dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 14:25

That should have said girlie not rule!

Hormonalhell · 08/12/2013 16:27

Thanks Don't Smile

Does Geeky have kids?

dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 16:50

No he doesn't, which actually makes life a lot easier. He's 5 years older than me and all his friends are settled with kids.

girliefriend · 08/12/2013 16:56

See that would worry me slightly dont only because if he now doesn't get on well with the kids or they don't like him you are already really emotionally involved.

Although can totally understand not wanting to introduce them too soon incase it doesn't work out and then they get upset, gah - it's so hard!!

Well done Hormonal!! So when is date 2?!!

dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 17:14

I think they'll get on ok, the kids are young and he likes kids. There's no knowing, but because we're emotionally involved, we will do our best to make it work.

girliefriend · 08/12/2013 17:22

yes am sure you are right, I'm just a worrier Grin

Does he want children of his own? Would you have anymore?

Sorry to be so nosey!! My friend has 3 children and separated at the beginning if this year from her husband. She is convinced that no man would take on 3 kids so it's good to know it does happen!!

kscience · 08/12/2013 17:32

Evening all,

Interesting reading all of your experiences thank you for sharing.

Things seem to be progressing well with bachelor number 1..... date 4 introduced to friends from work, they all seem normal. Am I being right in being reassured by this? There is definitely a strong physically attraction between us and similar outlook to life. Date 5 on Monday night....

dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 17:42

I would quite happily have another, but equally I don't mind not. I don't know if he wants a child, but it wouldn't matter either way to me. He said he knows he'll be number 4 in my life and that's fine by him :)

kscience · 08/12/2013 18:16

dont thats such a perfect sentiment

dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 18:31

It really is kscience but I'm all insecure again as he's not texted today. I checked on pof though and his profile was deleted yesterday like I asked him to. Everything is alright, then isn't it. We've arranged the next date and everything. I'm just paranoid, as I'm so attached already!

Hormonalhell · 08/12/2013 19:01

Don't I'm sure all fine, try not to worry.

Date 2 lined up for Friday, can't wait Smile

Queenofthedrivensnow · 08/12/2013 20:06

*jumps in...

So I had a big think about things with gap yah and decided maybe I was just irritated at the stagnation of it all. Long story which will out me. So I text him and asked if he wants to v informally meet the dc this week. I got an instant v enthusiastic reply then a message saying was I really ok with that? I think I need to see him and them in a room together or I can't progress this relationship Hmm

ladygoingGaga · 08/12/2013 21:27

hormonal so pleased for you! isn't it always the way, just as you give up you meet a fabulous bloke Grin

Loads of good news, it literally warms my heart Smile

I'm still over joyed with other stuff going right in my life, so walking on air in that respect.

Been looking online, but just no one on there at all, either that or I'm too fussy Grin

Poffedoff · 08/12/2013 21:33

Don't, i know that feeling of insecurity oh so well... I wonder if it has anything to do with how different a new relationship is compared to being married... We're used to being with our partners 24/7... Living together, eating together, socialising together... Suddenly we're back to "dating" once or twice a week and pretty much living separate lives apart from that...
Try not to speculate too much, remember you're still the prize, he's bloody lucky to have found you and he knows it!
Things will develop at their own pace, enjoy this honeymoon period and try to push any negative thoughts away when they creep in... that's what I've been trying to do and feel a little less stressed than I did..

Queen...does gap yah have kids too?

Poffedoff · 08/12/2013 21:39

Great news Hormonal, exciting times. by the sound of it Grin

What's the general consensus on Xmas pressies... I've no idea what to get pof guy or even what kind of money to spend...it's still ( in my eyes) a relatively new relationship so I'm a bit stumped.

Poffedoff · 08/12/2013 21:42

Nothing wrong with being fussy Gaga.. good things come to those who wait n all that Grin
It's so great that you're getting fulfilment out of other things in your life, not relying fully on finding a relationship to make you happy...

dontcallmehon · 08/12/2013 21:51

That makes sense, poffed - I should just try to enjoy it. The honeymoon period doesn't last forever.

powpow80 · 08/12/2013 22:39

Woo hoo hormonal. Great news altogether. I'm firmly on the sofa for the moment. Pof profile has been deleted. Few parties and nights out coming up. Who knows I could meet someone the old fashioned way.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 08/12/2013 22:44

Yeh be has older dc who I meet quite frequently. But he has been out of the relationship with their mum for a decade.... It's different for him

Poffedoff · 08/12/2013 23:10

How long are you seeing him again Queen? I see you said 10 dates but over how long a period?

Jarlin · 08/12/2013 23:22

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Queenofthedrivensnow · 09/12/2013 00:08

Erm about 7 or 8 weeks I'm not sure.

TheNewSchmoo · 09/12/2013 00:28

Well I've dived in. Signed up with Match today. Have donned my tin hat and will see how we go....

Poffedoff · 09/12/2013 10:47

I was just wondering Queen, I never know how long I'd leave it before introducing someone to dc... Do yours know you've been dating?