The dating thread 66

[LividofLondon]

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

Evening

To all out on dates tonight....HAVE FUN and dont forget to report back and give us all hope.

To all out and not on dates..HAVE FUN

To those of us staying in........... I am passing round the Rose

has anyone tried ZOOSK????

I am in need of a slap up side the head I think......

Bachelor#1 started so promisingly we eventually dtd then he went silent. Last text had been lets get together in NY when both less busy. He had kids and we both had work do's, he was also working most of xmas. Had expected some contact but nothing for 7 days. I had written him off but and then I gave benefit of doubt and sent "hope you had good xmas" text. Chatty reply next morning but again no hint at getting together. So I replied later in day on same chatty vein with a more direct "you got time to meet up for coffee?" Nothing.
I don't expect and would not like long rambling or frequent texts but thought need to be direct as some people just don't get subtle (i.e. me)

However had a text from match.com and he has looked at my profile today?????

When did this all get so bl**dy complicated.

Do I need a slap????

No you don't need a slap, it IS soooo complicated.

Why re-look your profile, especially if you've dtd, bloody weirdo! If only he would tell you straight up, YES/NO!

I just want REGULAR (EVERYDAY, DICK ON TAP) sex!! Is that too much to ask???? Oh I also want it with someone I'm emotionally connected to!!! I want to spoon, and share showers, and cook all his favourites, and hang out and go to posh restaurants, with weekends away, holidays in the sun, with more sex and more sex............

@kscience - batchelor#1 doesn't sound too interested unfortunately, I'd say the relooking at your profile is just that - having another look, I've done that with people I've been on dates with that I wasn't sure about seeing again..I think he would be more in touch if he was interested. Bah, it sucks but there will be someone worthy of you come along soon who you won't have to second guess.

@PO - Your post made me ....sex on tap...knowing my luck he'd disappear down the plughole midway through the act..I fank you.

Am one of the 'in's' tonight, kids, chocolates, music channel, more chocs...Happy New Year everyone!!

H&G I know you are right... it started well but has fizzled, I just want him to say thanks but no thanks

SO glass of wine anyone..... I am on the musicals tonight

kscience - he won't say that as he is on the fence, I wouldn't be surprised if he asked you out again, just at the moment he doesn't sound sure. How many dates did you two have?

10 dates over 2 months, including meeting some of his work colleagues for a formal works "do" at his bosses house.

So it fizzled out? 10 dates is a lot, that's a shame he's being so wishy washy after all that.

H&G it was going really well right until we dtd and then there was a week where diaries just would not fit, and then.....just nothing...not even normal texting.

KScience PM me his address and let me go beat the shit out of him and ask why he's being a tool?????? 10 dates later and he's re-looking your profile???? GIVE ME STRENGTH, what is wrong with him?!?!?!?!

You know I make it a point to tell guys after a few dates that, if you change your mind for whatever reason about seeing me, sure I might be disappointed/pissed off, but PLEASE PLEASE just ALWAYS be honest and upfront with me and they always nod and agree like the Mr Churchill dog, SIGH, do they heck?!?!?!?!?!

Master thanks for making me laugh

Wouldn't mind but didn't even have bad/fumbling/embarrassing first time sex... it was not exactly planned but evolved... and it didn't involve alcohol either!!! Just to add insult to injury

Sorry TMI, too much rose........ maybe time to walk away from the keyboard

It may have went off the boil for him when the diaries clashed etc, out of sight, out of mind perhaps, which is no good to you really...you want a real man, not a come day go day flannel!

master I will come with you, and I could do with beating the shit out of a few of my ex's . I'm sure a lot of others on here would also like to give us some addresses to visit

Well i am sitting here alone tonight :( Before I left work I had a text from my ex of 4 years, the one who was EA. I stupidly met up with him recently when I was upset over my online relationship ending. He said he still loved me wanted to try again. I agreed in the end and he's let me down also because after all that he went ahead with his plans for going to spend Xmas with his kids ( fair enough) but refused to say what he's doing new year so we argued because i wanted him to spend it with me if we were trying again. we also argued because he was going to sleep xmas eve at his ex wifes house with her and the kids which i wasnt too happy about if we were back together.basically he told me if i didnt like it to put the phone down and not contact him again, which i promptly did.I've only had the odd txt since day before Xmas eve, so obviously he's changed his mind about trying again. Then of course he txt tonight just saying has my daughter had her baby yet and happy new year!! Agrrrrrrr

Oops sorry about the essay

Santa DO NOT apologise

Pour yourself a glass and indulge in a guilty pleasure..... between posts I am watching musicals whilst singing at the top of my voice na ddancing around the room

It is helping

Lol think I will join you if that's ok :) after Eastenders of course

Do you think that's what he's after, me to apologise? He's left me alone all Xmas and new year too, how the hell does he think we could start again

Santa he is playing you because he knows exactly what he can and can't get away with.

I am feeling very pleased with myself at having walked away from my ex who I bumped into a couple of weeks ago and so now knows I am back in the area and has been texting and phoning ... how much he misses me, has changed, appreciates me, knows what he has lost..... puts fingers into ears and la la la It will end in grief and I will be back here in a few years time just with a few more tears shed

Well done kscience they really are not worth it are they. He saw me crying on his shoulder over the way the online relationship had ended. He was saying he loved me, would always be there for me, I could always talk to him and he wanted us back together. Huh yeh right, he'd never make me happy anyway

Exactly..............another FROG.....already been kissed and there are SO many more waiting for us.....

Well update from me after my date with Mr Lovely....there were no sparks, not even a kiss at midnight...not his fault, stupid waitress woman asked him to open the champagne, left me sat at our table on my own.

In fairness I had known all night, from the minute I picked him up that no matter what happened, I just wasn't in to him and I really wanted to be! I wanted to like him and not be pining after the other knobber who so clearly isn't pining after me!!!

So the outcome is new year, new start. Clean slate and starting all over again!!! Wish I could be excited about it but I'm not!! I have learned some really valuable lessons over the past few months and made some mistakes BUT onwards and upwards...2014 is going to be our year everyone!

Happy New Year!

Latest update from me -

I sent local guy a message to try and find out what went wrong. No reply unsurprisingly. But he has viewed my profile again!

Haven't heard from film star guy again but really not surprised or bothered about that. Tried to google his picture as someone suggested but couldn't get it to work.

Have been talking regularly to not so local guy and seem to be getting on well. He is planning to come up either this weekend or next so we'll meet then. I did some snooping and found him on Facebook and he seems very genuine. Only slight niggle I have is that it's always me that initiates contact. Whenever I do he is always chatty and friendly but I don't know if that should be a concern?

GOOD MORNING ALL AND A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR. Hope everyone feels ok this morning

damnLies sorry there was no spark with your date last night. Keep thinking positive 2014 has GOT to be better. I made a resolution this morning that my 2014 IS going to be DIFFERENT and BETTER. NO MORE KNOBBERS. Yes it's true you do learn things from everything that happens to you

2 things have happened to me immediately on waking today.

1. had a sneaky look on Match, haven't renewed subscription and see that my ex online man is back on there :( he slated online dating when we were together and he said he would never do it again if it didn't work with us. We had both cancelled our subscriptions at his suggestion when we were together (his suggestion)

2. had a Happy New Year txt from Mr Married At Work at half midnight last night. So still texting me even after I ignored yesterday. Seriously just what is wrong with him?
   Needless to say I'm ignoring, I seem to have a lot of people to ignore these days and its never been my strong point. Another lesson to learn maybe??

Happy new year all!!

Well my NYE started well, I drove and picked Mr Smallfeet up, we went to a lovely pub, lovely food and great atmosphere. Then I started to feel bit iffy, threw up at the restaurant and ended up going back to his and watching Jools Holland whilst feeling very ill on his sofa!!

Not how I imagined my first night at his house to go!!

I am fed up, am home now and still feeling ropey and very sorry for myself!!

Also found out that his ex wife only moved out 3 months ago, I have been seeing him for 6 weeks so am concerned that this is all a bit soon. He however maintains that the marriage had been over for a year before she moved out.

Lies pity.... but now you know and can go chase down the next frog prince

Need I have no wise words....but good luck

Santa some men are just a bit slow, next time you see him at work remember to talk slowly and form every syllable deliberately just to make sure he can follow what you are saying.....

Girlie at least it will be a memorable moment to look back on....too soon to laugh???? When did ex wife move out of the bedroom would be the more telling question!!

Happy New Year all...here's hoping for a bumber crop of nice men in 2014!

Number 4 hasn't replied after the last message yesterday morning, though he did say he was working, could he have snuck a quick happy new year in there though? I see he's been online very early this morning.
Why is this so hard!!