The dating thread 66

[LividofLondon]

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

I don't multidate, but that's down to just not having the time to juggle, nothing against it at all. Also, I like to meet up pretty quick, so suits to meet someone, see how we get on, next date or just 'next' more often than not...I suppose it's a sort of monogamous multidating of sorts!

Am going to take the plunge and message any guys I like the look and sound of...I normally wait to get messages as I prefer the more traditional way..but, I'm getting nowhere fast! Any messages I do get are mainly from people I would not be remotely interested in and I suppose I've got to take matters into my own hands....will it make any difference, I've no idea. Wish me luck!

Girlfriend NO NO NO!!! condom's are a non negotiable until we've both been screened!! The date I'm meeting today we've already discussed sex and we both agreed that if we do decide to dtd condoms first and he's keen for both of us to get screened, I'm in no particular rush!!!

Broken have you tried POF/Match?

Girlie..... Sex talk needs to come PDQ if you have not had it before dtd. You need to talk about it or do not know what risks you are putting yourself in. You an get mornining after pill free from GP or sex health clinic, who will also screen you. But you do need to talk about or provide condoms until you are sure you are not putting yourself at risk. See it's useful know a science teacher .............. Now taking teacher hat off. Have fun could be number of financial benefits for not buying out house, how long has he been separated??

H&G I am with you on the multi date monogamous thing, dont like to spend too much time online as too easy to be fooled into feeling like you know someone.

Been out all afternoon, but nw recruited my friends to help me edit my profile............ this could get interesting

Going to have to send some time dressing up and taking selfies... this is going to take wine........... OH how sad my life has got

Kscience - taking selfies is never cool but has to be done..do you have an auto timer? better than having a shot of arm in the air or doing it in the mirror! Bottoms up...not literally..well, not unless that's your thing..

I've sent one message and so far no reply...see I knew it was a bad idea...only joking, will wait until I get rejected by a few more before giving up

H&G thats nothing have sent 8 messages in 2 days and not one reply, although all have looked at profile.......hence overhaul

I have however today had "winks" first from 24yr old and also a 31 yr old non english speaker!! I am over 40.......So definatley attracting the odds today

Kscience - we can review profiles on here too, PM me if you want me to take a look on OKC, POF or Match

Would it be inappropriate to post my profile for some feedback? Feeling brave/ that strangers would be more critical

if I were you, kscience - I'd just PM people on here rather than post it for all the world to see.. google could find it if it's posted in the open and you use an uncommon turn of phrase.

Thanks Bant did not know there was a PM option.

Any takers on reviewing profile? Happy to reciprocate

kscience - You've had winks today without changing the profile yet? it could well be the post Christmas rush!

I may log on the OD site later and send some more messages, if truth be told, there is hardly anyone who catches my eye so am feeling less than hopeful...but who dares wins and all that.

I'm def in the condoms before screening brigade. Although with recent guy I had just got screened anyway and he.... was not a risk put it that way.

I'm not generally embarrassed discussing sex/contraception anyway (even with my mum lol) but definitely if I'm comfortable enough with a man to see their penis, I can discuss use of condoms!!!

Dimples replied. It's great to hear from me apparently ??but he has jus started seeing somebody. I'm happy for him. Will reply saying its my loss!

One day good reply

H&G winks from TOTALLY inappropriate people on only 2 years older than my son.............EEEEWWWWW

OK ......so date drove all the way from Wales, we agree sex was off the table, he took me out to Shogun Teppenyaki, then out for drinks, we are now back at his hotel, we've been chatting nonsense, NO DTD (soooo wanted to) but I'm not looking for FWBs etc he's said all the right things I've been brutally honest (no time for BS/mind games) he seems so genuine but only time will tell as I e been here before! He's snoring next to me, I can't sleep!!! KEEPING MY LEGS TIGHTLY shut! We've agreed to hang out New Year's Eve and sex is still off the table (I want too as I'm horny as hell and he's smoking HOT) but I need to stay strong! PRAY for me, FAB DATE tho!! YAY

Hi...can I join in? I'm a relative novice and posted earlier on the board about whether or not I should accept a second date.
I read the first page of this thread and already I think I am onto a winner with some good solid advice. Looking forward to reading and sharing experiences.

Welcome flora. You'll definitely get some great advice and tips on here. Also a shoulder or 50 to cry on if needed.

Woo hoo master. You must have some will power. Good woman Happy to hear you are having an amazing date and have a hot guy snoozing next to you.

I am sleeping (or trying to) next to a loo roll these nights. Have been sick the last few days. Haven't managed to muster the enthusiasm to Pof even! Made a new profile last week. Supposed to have had a date this afternoon. Had to postpone. I'm like death warmed up. Cannot inflict how I look on anyone.

Posted about man at sea before. Who I found out had a gf after I kissed him. Texting again tonight. I actually think he must be a bit slow. Have told him I'm not interested if he's not single. Keeps trying his luck every time he is back. If he was single I defo would meet for fun. Really sexy guy and have heard he is off the big cock variety.

Anyway. Hope all is well with everyone.

Hi Flora

Master......... go girl..............legs tightly shut...eye on the prize

Well just when I had given up, I get a text from bachelor#1, usual chatty self, blissfully unaware that not texting for a week has pi$$ed me off. Going to leave my reply for a while

Morning Everyone!

Hi Flora

Nice to hear things are going well Master

Kscience How's it going with the profile? I shall more than likely be re-doing mine soon and seeking out all the help I can! Does Bachelor 1 have potential?

So struggled to stay away from the phone yesterday and text Mr So-Not-Good-That's-Why-I-Ended-It. Did win the battle....go me! What is it that keeps us (or some of us at least) going back to the knobbers???? I keep telling myself that I am an intelligent, attractive, successful woman, so why am I so shit at this????

On the plus side, lovely guy who I dated a couple of times but no real spark, has asked me to go out NYE. I have said Yes. I'm hoping there will be a kiss and an appearance of previous non-existent sparks! He is intelligent, attractive and likes me...a proper catch.

Please....let there be sparks!!

Morning Lies

Think I have the profile sorted, but my friends tell that the pics are not doing me justice. BUT I just don't have any pics I am very camera shy and the selfies taken yesterday were plain awful.

Wondering if just going out and walking up to random strangers and saying, "Hi, you look cute/interesting... want to go for coffee", wouldn't work better

I have just had an amazing time with geeky on our last date. He went to my friend's party with me and we stayed in bed till 4 the next day. He told my friend he'd fallen for me.

I am a little disappointed that he is going to his sister for NYE - she lives quite far away, so I think he'd arranged to stay for a few days. I don't know if this was arranged before or after he met me. I'm on my own with the dc on NYE and feel a bit :-( considering I have a boyfriend!

The other thing that niggles is that he doesn't want to put pictures of us when we're in Paris on Facebook. He's a v private person and said he's never put pictures of himself with a girlfriend on Facebook. I could probably persuade him - but I want him to want to. Have I got reason to worry here?

Dontcall, focus on the positives. At least you have a BF

I am with him on the FB, sorry I am old fashioned and dont understad the need to publish TMI

I guess you are right kscience. It's just not something he does. But then isn't Facebook for sharing pictures? And if you go away with someone, might some of your pictures include that person?