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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

OP posts:
kscience · 30/12/2013 11:24

Dontcall No I don't have ANY personal pics on, and didn't even when in longterm relationship... just call me odd or old fashioned

ALittleStranger · 30/12/2013 11:38

Dont give yourself a gentle slap, your posts sound like someone trying to find problems.

I'm firmly with geeky on this. I don't posts pics of other people, I don't update my 'relationship status' and I would be really pissed off if someone started telling me I ought to.

Bant · 30/12/2013 11:51

Sorry Dontcall I'm with the others. I have photos of me, the occasional photo of my kids (although I keep privacy settings high on those) - I have a good friend who asked me to take down group photos including them from my Facebook because he was concerned about digital security, so I did. His image, his choice - his FB profile is very minimal, it's only used for messages.

Different people use FB for different purposes. Some people don't use it at all, some use it for work, some people document every minutiae of their lives. You can't insist he posts photos he doesn't want to post, you've just got to accept his view of these things is different.

dontcallmehon · 30/12/2013 12:04

I will try to relax. I am looking for problems I think. It is going so well and so my little self-destruct monster appears. I know he adores me and I could really hurt him and so I find myself wanting to say hurtful things and having to stop myself. He's perfect and I need to stop the sabotage and slight control-freak tendencies. I sound like a catch, don't I Wink.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 30/12/2013 12:47

don'tcall I'm with you on not quite understanding how some people are so vehemently anti-facebook. Facebook doesn't rule my life and I don't really post a lot on it but I do find it an incredibly useful communication tool for keeping in touch with people.

For me it'd be a respect issue; there must be a compromise. Obviously you should respect if he doesn't want to be tagged in a post/photo (although if he feels that strongly about it he should have his settings so that you can't do that anyway) but if you wanted to share a photo of the two of you on your facebook, without him actually tagged, then he should respect that you want to share that with your friends. It works both ways.

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 13:00

pow tell semen lol to go swim somewhere else, what does he think this is????!!!!!!

flora hi

kscience I put on my makeup, do my hair! get a mirror, choose a suitable background spot and and just click, click click, whilst striking different poses and there's bound to be one, don't give up!

dont call I feel your pain! as much as I'd like to agree with all the others! I have a VERY suspicious mind and automatically think WHAT ARE YOU HIDING, WHY DONT YOU WANT YOUR PIX ON FB??? Even though my relationship status is hidden! I think we need to reprogramme ourselves and NOT sabotage a potentially good thing, STAY POSITIVE + he's never given you a reason to think otherwise and bite your tongue!

Just got back home, he's sooooo sweet, lots and lots of cuddling and kissing and talking, we seem to want the same things, be on the same page,, at this stage only time will tell! I'm going to drive up tomorrow or NYE. LEGS TIGHTLY SHUT, YAY swwwwooooooooooooon

HanselandGretel · 30/12/2013 13:12

I have a de-activated Facebook account, I never really took to it.
@dontcall - yes, you are looking for problems! chill out and learn to enjoy it, if it's a pattern with you to self sabotage new relationships, then now is the perfect time to keep a check on that if you have someone new in your life who you like.

Sent three messages in total - one non reply, second one replied to be polite as no follow up message..but third one replied and we're still exchanging messages but only started late last night before bed and but will have a look in a minute to see what he's saying and whether it's got potential.

dontcallmehon · 30/12/2013 13:27

I will do as oneday suggests and ask if he minds me putting pictures up as long as I don't tag him. I would be disappointed not to be able to.
I think I'm annoyed about NYE. He saw his. sister over Christmas. Why does he need to see her again?

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 13:34

dontcall STOP IT!!! You're being a big baby, STOP IT!

dontcallmehon · 30/12/2013 13:43

I know Blush.

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 13:45

(((CUDDLES)))

dontcallmehon · 30/12/2013 14:04

Thanks master. I am being v silly. I think we're going to be together long term and I know he thinks that too (we have already talked about next new year). I just hate being apart from him.

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 14:17

Aaaaaahhhhhhh that's sweet but if you continue behaving like a mad crazy possessive woman with trust issue then you might not be together that long...... NOTE TO SELF: listen to your own advice lol

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 14:19

I'm determined to not let my ex's ruin this relationship (easier said than done) runs and hides in the corner, assuming the foetal position

dontcallmehon · 30/12/2013 14:49

Nor me. I will be cool and calm. No possessive scary woman here, oh no.

HanselandGretel · 30/12/2013 15:07

Having a very nice exchange of messages with a number 4 who I messaged this morning...same sense of humour, witty, able to string a sentence together...at last!

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 15:09

Hansel GOOD LUCK!!!!

HanselandGretel · 30/12/2013 15:13

Thanks PO...very very soon to be getting excited, the guy could disappear in a puff before the next message but least it shows there well may be hope!! oh and and great it's going well for you with Prince of Wales Wink

INeedSomeHelp · 30/12/2013 17:08

So if you've been chatting to someone and they just disappear, do you just walk away or do you ask why?
I thought I was getting on well with local guy - we had exchanged mobile numbers and were talking about meeting up but now....silence.
Do I send one last text asking what happened?

ALittleStranger · 30/12/2013 17:11

Refer to the Rules. It happens. Accept it, acknowledge you will do the same one day. Move on.

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 17:24

ineed you could try! I personally see nothing wrong! but he doesn't owe you an explanation as you were just chatting, he's not made promises, so in a nutshell yes ask, I would, but I wouldn't expect an answer, so BRACE yourself!

It REALLY annoys me when they do that, GROW SOME FUCKING BALLS, just say "we've chatted I feel no spark, good luck, goodbye" I don't think any of us would go all (Liam Neeson -Taken) on them "......., I will look for you, I will find you, and I will kill you." lol

kscience · 30/12/2013 17:25

Which page is the rules on??? I need a reminder...OH and possibly a slap up side the head

Santaclaws · 30/12/2013 17:27

HELP wtaf!! Saw man at work today who asked me for a date and we arranged to see eachother twice later in week. Anyway he's texting me lots and seems really nice, nothing sexual just general chat ect. Then I say what I'm watching on tv and he replies " so are we" I ask him if he's got children with him and he said yes his daughter and his wife!!! Who he's virtually separated from and he really likes me blah blah blah!! And he has some decisions to make in the new year. What the hell! Of all the bloody cheek! Asking me out

I told him I make it a rule never to see anyone who is still married or at the very least is properly separated and living alone!!!!

Am heartily sick of it all really. WHERE are all the decent men????

MasterP0 · 30/12/2013 17:30

OMFG, WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM!!!! On second thoughts lets all go Liam Neeson on them, FUCKTARDS!!!!

kscience · 30/12/2013 17:30

Santa good job you found out before going out.......... you were incredibly civil and restrained.

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