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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 16:24

I need to learn to type faster!

SweetSeraphim · 27/12/2013 16:36

Hahaha!! Glorious! Sooo glad I didn't google

MasterP0 · 27/12/2013 16:37

I'm quit offended by you look dominant hahahaha, WTF does he mean, the IDIOT!!!!

Aaahhhh well, I just read and delete!

I did chat to the ANR guy for a bit as I was intrigued, really not my thing, but it was interesting to hear what he had to say!

kscience · 27/12/2013 17:00

Thanks for the tips chaps....looks like if you re going to attract and odd ball it's just going to happen.

Trying to decide if I can be bothered to put on the glad rags and go out tonight......... trying to find someone to go out with is my first obstacle.

Master which OD site was this on????

MasterP0 · 27/12/2013 17:41

POF!

Enjoy your night out if you do go out. I'm still trying to get rid of this chest infection, really annoying!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 27/12/2013 19:43

Evening dating thread!!

I've been feeling up and down about housemate guy having ended things. It just seems like a massive shame, it was going so well, and he even said when ending it that he had so much fun with me and thought I was great/beautiful etc. But you can't force people to want to be with you. Have also been working over xmas and away from family so it hasn't been the easiest few days, but I've kept myself busy, and spoiled myself a bit. Have also changed my plans for new years to something more sociable - need to take care of my emotional health and not allow myself the opportunity to get too maudlin!

So - back on POF tonight!!! Have also drafted a text to Dimples....think I'll send it now....just hoping that when he inevitably doesn't reply, that I won't feel too rejected again, and just weighing up how strong I'm feeling before I send it.

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 19:45

Why are you sending the text OneDay?

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 27/12/2013 19:50

ms23 hi! I haven't used tindr yet but I'm thinking about it.....it uses your facebook profile pic yes? What other pics can they see?

In terms of chatting, I prefer to message online/text, but not for too long, I like to get a first date (usually for a drink) in fairly soon, I'm not a fan of chatting for weeks on end before meeting up.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 27/12/2013 19:55

Dimples is a guy I was seeing (3 dates, over more than a month or so) when I met housemate guy, I was quite keen on him, it was just a slow burner, and who I stopped seeing because I wanted to give things a shot with housemate guy who has just ended it. I last saw Dimples at the start of November. I didn't really end things with him very definitely....I had a difficult week and said I couldn't meet up then, and basically never got back to him (very very poor form), I had a lot on my plate and when time passed a bit it felt even worse to text a definite end after a while. I did feel bad about it but he didn't contact me either. I'd really like to meet up with him again now, I feel I dropped the ball with him really. But he may be not interested/no longer single/think it's really cheeky of me so I don't really expect a response!!

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 20:00

Ah, I remember now a few pages back....there is no easy way other than to go for it. Are you going to mention anything about not getting back to him? or just sort of tentatively say hello, how are you?

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 27/12/2013 20:03

Hmm.....just checked out his profile (met him on msf) and he's not online anymore......

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 27/12/2013 20:05

was going to say hey and merry xmas etc, and that i was sorry i didn't get back to him and felt that i'd dropped the ball a bit, and that if he was free i'd love to meet up again in the new year.

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 20:45

Msf? sorry, no idea what that is!

The no profile could mean anything though; he's met someone, he moved to another site, etc.

Bant · 27/12/2013 20:55

MySingleFriend?

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 27/12/2013 21:07

msf = my single friend

right, i'm sending it, whats the worst that could happen.

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 21:35

Is that a rhetorical question??....good luck

Santaclaws · 28/12/2013 06:48

Hi all. Hope everyone had a good Xmas. Have to say mine wasn't great in view of being dumped by online man after an intense 3 months, then getting involved with my ex of 4 years again for a short time and getting e reminder of he ea he can be

Anyway got through Xmas and had a couple of days where I was feeling ok again, not caring about being on my own and decided to go forward into new year feeling positive. Then out of the blue at work yesterday a man I've only seen once before there began chatting to me and eventually suggested a drink or coffee then gave me his number before going home

I wasn't expecting this at all and am not sure what to do, whether to go or not. I'm just a bit wary I guess and don't know if I can be bothered with the hassle of a man. I do know though I don't want to feel lonely forever. Any thoughts fellow daters?

ALittleStranger · 28/12/2013 08:51

Sorry to hear that santaclaws. I think if you're not feeling that bothered or are only doing it out of an (irrational ) fear of being lonely for ever than pass. But if you find him attractive/interesting and can handle the idea of sharing a drink and seeing what happens then go for it. I think it might be one of those situations where if you do go you have to guard your emotions a bit and not jump into bed if it goes well.

Santaclaws · 28/12/2013 10:35

Well it boosted my confidence a bit I have to say. I'm no spring chicken anymore and I think it possibly gets harder to meet people as you get older. I don't want just anyone though, it has to be the right person. Not sure I found him interesting as didn't get chance for proper chat as people about but I thought he was quite attractive. No I definately couldn't just jump into bed, highly embarrassing if it all went wrong after that if I had to work with him

brokenhearted55a · 28/12/2013 11:54

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HanselandGretel · 28/12/2013 12:04

True, not 'getting back to him' is silent dumping. It's easy to side with a poster and be carried along by their version of things, but yes, in the cold light of day, it was a silent dump.
Self respect should make him ignore or respond with a 'wtf',

We've seen both sides of it here, people posting as they've been silently dumped and those posting because they were the 'silent dumper' and now want another chance.
Maybe we can all learn something...me included!

brokenhearted55a · 28/12/2013 12:28

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HanselandGretel · 28/12/2013 12:44

It's up to the individual to protect themselves and decide what is acceptable and unacceptable to them, that then makes it easier to avoid being strung along or accepting bad treatment and less than they deserve.

Ms23 · 28/12/2013 13:46

Hi OneDayWhenIGrowUp! Tinder does use your Facebook photos but it doesn't have to be your profile photo. You can choose any of your photos that are on facebook - up to about 6 of them. You can see any 'likes' or facebook friends that you and he have in common too.

I'm headed out on a date with a man tomorrow night that I met on it!

kscience · 28/12/2013 14:05

Well my wild night out ended up with my 21yr old son and I going to cinema...... poor long suffering child out with his ma on a Friday night.

Could not persuade anyone to go out on a Friday night, to be fair most of my friends have kids/spouses and cant do the spontaneous thing easily any more...so having to plan ahead for next weekend

Might take myself and Kindle out to dinner tonight..... get me living dangerously

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