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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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Bant · 27/12/2013 08:46

Not really Hon - a lot of them will have search filters to only show women who've been online in the last week, and so your profile will show up to those people. Many won't read all of the profile and will just send a message based on the pictures, not knowing about your status change.

I had a date last night, first one in England in about a year or so. It was... okayish. Don't think I'll call her again, the conversation was interesting enough but she had a strange nose, and there wasn't really any chemistry or spark.

Nevermind, back to the drawing board

dontcallmehon · 27/12/2013 09:01

Of course, that makes sense. A few did comment on the not single thing, but obviously just as I'd been online recently and come up in searches.

Doesn't sound like that date is going anywhere then, Bant. I think if you actively find something offputting about the person on a date, it is obviously wrong.

ALittleStranger · 27/12/2013 09:01

Strange nose? Are we talking Daniella Westbrook or Wicked Witch Of The West?

Hon given that you'd left it up I imagine they also may have thought it was one of those odd technique profiles.

kscience · 27/12/2013 10:06

Thanks for the advice chaps...... might give the free sites a go am on match.com and sent a few winks last night so will see what comes up.

Have a fun day all

Ms23 · 27/12/2013 10:13

Hi all! can I join in? I'm just starting some online dating and was wondering a few things:

  1. Does anyone have any experience of Tinder? Its what I've been using and I've been speaking to some interesting men. It does of course have its fair share of unsuitable men but they are easy enough to weed out! I think its got a bad reputation for being a 'hook up' app but I haven't found that so far. (Sorry if this is a conversation you have already had - I've skim read the thread but couldn't see anything about it)
  1. How do you handle the 'chat' before they ask you out on a date? One guy is asking me if I have skype but to be honest I think I would rather text for a couple of weeks and then meet in person. Some men are keen to ask me out the first day we chat and some haven't yet despite chatting for a couple of weeks.
ALittleStranger · 27/12/2013 11:12

Ms23 I've not used Tinder but quite a few friends have. It does have a reputation as a hook-up act, but POF also has a reputation as a sleazy pit of hell and some have found true lurve on it.

I'm no longer dating but when I was I never skyped etc. My approach is to exchange a few emails to check you have things in common, similar sense of humour (although be warned what seems like a sense of humour on screen can come across very differently in person) and then meet for a drink asap before any expectations build up. Anyone who hasn't asked you out after a couple of weeks is a time waster.

MasterP0 · 27/12/2013 11:31

I associate skype with men who usually want to sex chat, so I NEVER skype unless we are dating etc.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 27/12/2013 11:34

Hi new ppl. I met gap yah through pof and didn't spend anything Grin

I think it's been 3 months now and going ok I think. He is very keen to go away for the weekend in jan. I'm up for that. We exchanged Xmas presents. I think we both did ok out of that - token but well received Grin
I will catch up on the thread now.

Ms23 · 27/12/2013 11:55

Thanks for the replies! The guy who wants to Skype travels a lot and won't be back for a couple of months. He doesnt seem like the sort to want sex chat but will be wary anyway.

I like tinder because it seems a little more relaxed and informal than other sites. Only things I don't like is that it doesn't inform you of a person's height (I don't like to ask because it seems shallow - but then I am really not attracted to very short men so don't want to waste their time) or their smoking status (smoking is really a deal breaker for me). I've spoken to and met some nice, intelligent men with decent jobs so far but no particular spark with any of them. I've always been the one to do the rejecting though - which I find stressful and upsetting. I can't imagine how I'll feel when I am the one in line for rejection!

girliefriend · 27/12/2013 12:06

Hi all just popping on to say hello!

Had a lovely Christmas - even though was working most of it!! Got a week off now which is lovely Smile

Got a date tomos evening with smallfeet, things seem to be going well although we have yet to dtd!! There is a remote possibility tomos night might be the night Wink

Sidge · 27/12/2013 12:20

Hi everyone, hope you have all had a lovely Christmas.

kscience I signed up on Match and eHarmony. I found them very different sites, Match is a huge site with some very odd blokes! But I chatted to a couple and had a nice date with a younger guy but although he seems very keen I don't think he's The One.

You can search on eHarmony - they send you your 'matches' but some of the matching criteria are quite spurious such as you both like reading thrillers or are looking for someone under 60! However there is the option to search and view other profiles. I was messaged by a guy on eHarmony who didn't come up as a match but is LOVELY and I have been seeing him often - we're up to 4 dates over the last 2 weeks! I know it's early days but I really like him.

Ms23 I'm no OD expert but for me I didn't want to text or chat indefinitely and was keen to meet sooner rather than later. I think it can be hard to know if you are compatible with someone JUST from texts and calls, with a real life meeting you get the bigger picture.

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 12:22

@HotCross - I have decided against the second date, he was not my type physically though he had a nice face, I couldn't picture myself kissing him and there was just a real nothing feeling when I came away.
I did waver when I got his text asking me out again but that may have been because I was flattered and he seemed a genuine type, which is what we all want of course...yet, he's not for me.

I would go for a second date with a guy if there was an inkling at least, the explosives are rare on first meeting, so I'm a realist, but there has to be a little something to make you want to go back again.

MasterP0 · 27/12/2013 12:31

OMG, I've just logged back into the eHarmony website after a year and they've changed the layout/functionality, it's driving me mental! They're offering a free week till 1st Jan, so will try it out if I can work out how to use the damn thing!!

MasterP0 · 27/12/2013 12:34

So much for free week, you can't see pix but can communicate with them, why would I do that????? eHarmony is really taking the piss!

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 13:40

I got that far too having decided it was worth a go for a free week, but won't be signing up; there really is nothing 'free' if you have to pay to see pictures, awful misleading bit of promotion there. I only had four matches and it said three of them were out of my area!!
It doesn't look very user-friendly either, I can't even find how to delete!

MasterP0 · 27/12/2013 15:35

RANT

Honestly what is wrong with some men, here are a few emails I've received for your amusement, lol!!!!! My profile is clean, no mention of sex, no sexy pix etc., but I still get these:

Hey how's u do u like submissive guys ? U look dominant , did u have a good Xmas x

Wots up wiggy

......I'm looking for a ANR relationship, if you don't know what that is google it and let me know if you'd be interested.....

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 15:43

Oh dear! I like the tagged on 'U look dominant, did u have a good Xmas' bit Grin

Bant · 27/12/2013 16:02

... And what is an ANR relationship?

Bant · 27/12/2013 16:16

Eww eww eww. I googled it.

Nevermind

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 16:16

I'm hazarding a guess it's something kinky...but perhaps it's simply 'A Nice Relaxed' relationship...

SweetSeraphim · 27/12/2013 16:18

I can't google it, I'm at work! What is it??

powpow80 · 27/12/2013 16:19

I just googled ANR. It's adult nursing relationship. Came across a dating website specifically for it too.

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 16:20

No please, don't tell us. Let's me keep some semblance of innocence!

HanselandGretel · 27/12/2013 16:21

Cheers Hmm

powpow80 · 27/12/2013 16:24

Sorry hansel.

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