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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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Hormonalhell · 21/12/2013 23:51

I'm same as you kscience, I need to have regular contact and the wooing bit as otherwise I get bored n think he's not that bothered

dontcallmehon · 22/12/2013 00:50

Oh I know no one will even be awake, but I'm missing geeky so much it hurts. He's away with his family today, so no text. He's not been on Facebook all day either, so then I start worrying about him. Even though I know I'm seeing him Monday and he's fine and he never lets me down. I think about him a lot :-(

MadeMan · 22/12/2013 01:17

I'm awake, I'm watching Father Ted kicking Bishop Brennen up the arse on More4.

Pull yourself together Dont. Smile

dontcallmehon · 22/12/2013 02:20

I will made. I know all is ok really. Last week we actually talked about my anxiety [generalised, not dating related]. He understands everything.

HanselandGretel · 22/12/2013 23:21

Have a first date for on Boxing day having had a quick phone chat this evening. He sounded ok, perhaps a little stilted and I did feel like I was being interviewed with him asking 'getting to know you' questions...I do prefer to let the convo flow naturally and now I have the impression there won't be a spark but will see how we get on in the flesh.

MadeMan · 22/12/2013 23:39

Yes I hate awkward interview style questions as well; probably everyone does. Might just be nerves with him though, because not everybody is comfortable speaking on the phone; especially to people not known very well to them.

I'm sure it will be fine on boxing day and you'll both get a better idea of each other however it turns out. Smile

PyjamaDayToday · 23/12/2013 23:11

Why has no one posted on our thread today ?

Are you all out on hot dates and too busy to service our beloved thread.

Shame on you all Xmas Wink

MadeMan · 23/12/2013 23:28

Last minute Christmas shopping I expect, everyone busy trying to bag the last turkey in the shop.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 24/12/2013 00:56

Oh dating thread Sad

I'm sorry for absence.....was on holiday and before that all caught up in my fledgling relationship and busy busy. Sadly, it is not to be with me and housemate guy. He just ended things this evening. He went quiet with the messaging whilst I was away and then ended things over the phone this evening. Said that it just wasn't right for him, he didn't see a long term future so thought it was best to end it.

I am initially a bit gutted although I was expecting it with the going quiet. I feel a bit confused as everything seemed to be going well, had lots of fun together, felt really comfortable just hanging out, never seemed to run out of conversation, it felt just like being with a friend. Good chemistry, good spark. There was the bedroom issue that I mentioned previously (he seemed to have some erectile issues) but it wasn't actually a big problem - I was satisfied, it was really comfortable just being naked together and cuddling. He would say things like that - that he was enjoying that, he thought I was beautiful, had a fun evening when we went out etc. I was not putting pressure on him in that respect (sex wise) but he knew he could ask anything of me if he wished. So I guess I just don't quite get what wasn't right for him. Although I do realise and respect that people feel what they feel, you can't force anything, and at least he has been honest.

I think I'm more upset just being single with a string of failed relationships and with time relentlessly marching on, although I try to ignore it, rather than upset about this one guy in particular. I actually rang him back an hour later to say thankyou, that I had had a really fun time with him, and also to apologise if he had felt pressured at any point (he said he hadn't). I also have a silly little xmas present that I'm not sure what to do with, I think I'll still get it to him. I don't have any use for it and it's just a fun little thing that I thought he would like.

So, that's rubbish. I've had a bit of a cry. I know I'll get over it and dust myself down pretty soon....but it doesn't feel great right now.

dontcallmehon · 24/12/2013 08:49

Oh oneday I'm sorry to hear that. Dating is tough sometimes but I think you just have to keep at it. It's a numbers game and the right one is out there. It's never nice to hear though. I hope you treat yourself to something nice and eat some yummy food over Christmas. New year, New start.

Hormonalhell · 24/12/2013 08:54

Oh no sorry Oneday Hmm hope u ok.

Like Don't says enjoy Xmas and by new year u'll be ready for a fresh start Smile

powpow80 · 24/12/2013 12:22

Sorry to hear your news Oneday.

positively9something · 24/12/2013 14:03

Hi dating thread, I would like to re-join Smile I was on the thread ages ago as rubbishfamily and I have namechanged. I was absent from the thread as I wasn't doing alot of dating, I think I was feeling abit fed up of it all. (dating not the thread Grin)

Well now I have lost a little weight and my confidence seems to be getting better, I've been out a couple of times in the last week and met a few guys that I may meet up with.

One of them seems like a nice guy, I never give the nice guys a chance but I'm thinking I may try this time. He doesn't make me think oh wow I want him right now, but those guys wear off very quickly. He is younger but seems intelligent, I usually end up talking to brainless guys.

I also met a not so nice guy who yet again I seem more interested in Confused not sure what will happen there, he seems like a game player and not a gentleman.

The third guy I think will become boring quickly, he seems quite sweet but the conversation seems boring and he doesn't sound very upbeat or positive.

I think my confidence was lacking abit and when online dating found the men to be quite boring and the conversation was terrible. I have decided I want and deserve a decent intelligent guy, so I will hold out until I find one Wink

HanselandGretel · 24/12/2013 14:13

I agree the guys on OL seem to lack conversational skills, generalising here, but I would say from my experience, 7 out of 10 are verging on illiterate in their messages, loads of basic grammar mistakes and no full stops or commas and very little in the way of conversation...these things are important to me, I'm not a grammar Tzar but it shows the lack of compatibility straight off.
All I want is someone nice, normal, funny and who knows the difference between 'your' and 'you're'!!
Pet hate OL, guys who say they have a 'good 'sence' of humour'...feck the heck off!!

dontcallmehon · 24/12/2013 15:11

I agree about the illiteracy amongst many online daters. I'm very grateful that I appear to have found one of the few intelligent men online, who knows the correct 'your'. A rarity - especially on pof!

Geeky told me he felt very lucky to have me. I feel lucky to have him.

n't settle for less than perfect. I met quite a few idiots on my way to meeting geeky and shed quite a few tears. When it's right there's none of that.

dontcallmehon · 24/12/2013 15:14

Obviously that should say don't

kscience · 24/12/2013 17:10

H&G glad it's just not me being pedantic, I especially hate the text speak!! If a guy can't construct a sentence then I don't bother

EEK I am a literacy snob too.......... my dating circle is getting smaller and smaller by the minute Wink

Saw bachelor#1 today........ has been completely silent for 3 days... drove past him and his kids (we live very close together and I drive past his road regularly I was not stalking) with another woman and what looked like her child.......... SO FROG and on to bachelor#2.

HanselandGretel · 24/12/2013 17:26

Text speak is a curse, they are straight out the window if any of that comes my way in an online message...I went out with a perfectly nice guy for a couple of dates but his texts were full of 'PSML''s, but what made it worse was there was nothing funny about what he was saying in the first place....he had to go.

Sorry to hear about B#1 kscience, yikes, why does it have to be so hard to just meet '1' person and carry on from there?

Like someone else said, sorry can't go back to check now, but it's like a sweet shop mentality in the OD world, very frustrating.

kscience · 24/12/2013 18:16

H&G you reminded me of Miranda Hart on Graham Norton last night...reclaiming the acronyms..... start at about 3:05

Sorry for derail of thread....but it is Christmas and we all need entertaining

HanselandGretel · 24/12/2013 18:22

Ooh, I missed that last night, will have a peek on youtube, thanks! That's my Christmas Eve entertainment sorted ;)

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SoftKittyWarmKitty · 24/12/2013 20:26

What did he say, Broken, and did you reply? No doubt he's just after a bit of fun over Christmas. You deserve better but you know that, don't you?

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dontcallmehon · 25/12/2013 20:07

Ah geeky got the perfect gift (sorry to be so nauseating - it's just that I've had so long in an unhappy marriage and I'm just so happy now!).

A leather clutch bag in my favourite colour. Inside...a guidebook to Paris.

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 25/12/2013 21:13

He's keeping you dangling, Broken. Just enough contact to make you feel involved but not so much that he actually is involved. Nice.

Nice gift Dont, when is he whisking you off to Paris? Wink

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