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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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dontcallmehon · 12/12/2013 15:20

I met him at the end of October hormonal.
Sounds lovely with tall guy. It's nice to miss someone.
Sent passport form off today. Paris here we come!

PyjamaDayToday · 12/12/2013 15:28

Had date with Biker Boy who was nice enough and we agreed to meet again, though our schedules mean it''ll probably be after christmas which I'm fine about.

Conversation started off all right then got a bit stuck and he talked about his hobby too bloody long a while.

Must have a few more subjects prepared in my head for times like that. Anyone have anything they talk about when there's a need for a change of subject?

Bant · 12/12/2013 16:55

try asking their opinion on the pedestrianisation of Norwich city centre, Pyjama.

Hormonalhell · 12/12/2013 19:31

I always find myself talking about where we met, POF but don't think that's a good thing Hmm

brokenhearted55a · 12/12/2013 19:35

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BitOutOfPractice · 12/12/2013 19:56

Oh brokenhearted, that sucks Sad

I woud say that isn't what you were after...

Lick your wounds and then move on - his loss

I hope you don't mind me posting. Had a year of online dating until recently and it's amazing how universal the experiences are isn't t?

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BitOutOfPractice · 12/12/2013 20:38

Yes. The ones that seem keen then just go silent. The ones who get so intense so quickly. It seems to happen to everyone. Which is reassuring in a way because at least we know it's not personal. It's not us, it's them!

ALittleStranger · 12/12/2013 20:42

I think it just shows you how people will act in a moral vacuum. You meet someone on line and they're just a stranger on the internet. There are no mutual friends, work colleagues, family members to explain yourself to if you just disappear. I think it basically gives people the freedom to act how they'd like if social niceties weren't in place.

But I think that when people meet someone they really like they give it a shot. Unless they're damaged, in which case why would you want a relationship with them anyway.

BitOutOfPractice · 12/12/2013 20:44

ALittleStrannger youhave articulated EXACTLY what I thought about oneline dating. Exacty!

There are lovely people on there as well though

brokenhearted55a · 12/12/2013 21:23

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BitOutOfPractice · 12/12/2013 21:26

And you think being friends is a good idea? Is friends what you were looking for when you joined the online dating sites? No! So say "thanks but no thanks" and move on

Sorry it didn't work out though Sad

dontcallmehon · 12/12/2013 21:39

I agree that there's no point staying friends, broken. I had two negative experiences with online dating and then I met geeky. Keep at it!
I need some support, guys. It must sound as if things are going so well, but my feelings are so much I'm struggling. I feel like I might sabotage it somehow And I hate the fact that I could, potentially get very very badly hurt :(

Hormonalhell · 12/12/2013 21:56

That's cos you are in love Dontcall and it's scary. Hmm

Hormonalhell · 12/12/2013 21:58

I've stayed friends with two guys that I had dated. It was me who ended it though and every time we meet up or chat I always get the feeling they want more Hmm

dontcallmehon · 12/12/2013 21:59

I don't like it. Well I do, but I don't. Even though it seems to be reciprocated.

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Santaclaws · 12/12/2013 22:03

Hi I'm new on here and some handholding would be much appreciated please. Met a man online, really hit it off, he was a bit over keen to start with and I began to fall big time for him, we decided to slow things down a bit as we had been talking of a future together far too soon. We were exclusive , saw eachother. 3 or4 times a week. All great , got on really well. So three months down the line I have realised that whenever I discuss something he doesn't want to discuss or i admittedly go on a bit too much he ups and leaves and I don't hear from him for a few days, and its usually me contacting him, then we carry on. He did it again last night and now I am left hanging again not knowing if its over or he just leaves to let things cool off ( as he says) . I really like him now and this is the only thorn in the relationship for me

dontcallmehon · 12/12/2013 22:13

I don't know how I'd feel about that, santaclaws. Maybe it's his way of dealing with things and I suppose a few days isn't littlemy.

dontcallmehon · 12/12/2013 22:21

isn't that long

Santaclaws · 12/12/2013 22:23

Wish I hadn't fallen for him as so scared of getting hurt now.. I have text him one word " sorry" but won't do anymore as haven't heard anything

This dating is a nightmare at times isn't it

dontcallmehon · 12/12/2013 22:28

Yes it is so tough sometimes santaclaws. I'm confused by my feelings at the moment. I should feel happy, but I'm waiting for it to go wrong...

Santaclaws · 12/12/2013 22:31

I know what you mean about the sabotaging bit. It's almost as though we have to pre- empt it going wrong and get in there and make sure it does. So it will hurt less somehow.

Stupidhead · 13/12/2013 06:21

Santa, IMO (which usually counts for shit!) your guy sounds like a control freak with you doing the running. You are the prize - he should be doing his upmost to impress you. I dated a guy just like that, he got intense very quickly then would take a huffy as and when he felt like it. After the last sulk I moved on and met someone else, he actually texted 'I miss you' after a while...I replied 'thanks, bye!'.

And don't, please don't sabotage it! You're putting everything into this and it's reciprocated!!! So catch up with old friends and old hobbies so he's not on your mind 24/7 - hard I know!

BitOutOfPractice · 13/12/2013 07:09

Santa I think I said on your other thread...you've known him how long? Certainly not long enough to be having rows, goings on and storming offs.

You know don't you, that it's not right. You wouldn't be agonising over it so much if it were right.

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