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The git is refusing to move in with his friend...

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Lemmingswife · 15/07/2006 09:06

Until we exchange contracts on our house!
I am SO angry & upset. This could take months & months.
I asked him last night if he was intending to make the move sometime next week, seen as his friend returns late on Sunday. He said "I'm not moving in with him....well not until the house has been sold & we have exchanged contracts."
He told me that he was prepared to make the move, until a friend (who he won't name) pointed out how ridiculous it would be to look after the children in the house if I ever went out & he said that it wouldn't be right to take them to his friends house.
He said that HE pays the mortgage & the TV licence and had every right to stay as long as he needed to, but he wants out too, which is why the quicker this house sells, the better.
I was so upset & furious after he came out with this last night. I cannot go on like this for what could be months, I will seriously lose it.
I would move out with the children myself, if I could.
He kept putting on a silly fake laugh, saying "Imagine me coming to this house to look after the children. How ridiculous!"
I am so cross & so upset. I cannot go through the whole of the summer like this.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 19:17

Looks like he is sticking around tonight, as he is making himself very comfortable on the sofa.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 20:11

Seems I'm in the Sh*t with Dad again!

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tribpot · 04/08/2006 20:21

I didn't realise you'd ever got out of it, LW

If this is information from the grumpy git, I would ignore it and invite no further comment. Why not cut down on electricity costs by cutting the plug off the telly!

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 21:09

I hadn't, but things are worse. Not sure how I will get through this.

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Caribbeanqueen · 04/08/2006 21:09

What has he said this time?

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 21:14

Will let you know tomorrow, have my sister round seeing to DS1. May have to dissapear again in a bit too.

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Caribbeanqueen · 04/08/2006 21:15

OK, hope you have a nice evening with your sister

Tyedye · 04/08/2006 21:41

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 22:58

All of my family think I am bad & am out to sting H. Feel really bad - some family members think I may give Dad a heart attack. Feel really really bad.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 22:59

When I say I may have to dissapear, I mean from here, because I have a feeling my Mum is maybe still spying.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:03

She knows too much , like the fact that I had a friend go with me on Wed.
They all seem to think I am out to sting H & my Dad is absolutely furious with me.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:09

Filled my sister in on what I could. I feel everyone thinks I am one heck of a bad guy from what they have heard so far.

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Caribbeanqueen · 04/08/2006 23:14

So sorry LW, but you are in no way responsible for your dad's health. They are probably trying to use scare tactics to make you try and change your mind.

I imaging it must be very scary being told you might cause your dad a heart attack, but please don't fall for their emotional blackmail. It would almost be easier if you could just put them out of your life for a few months so you can cpncentrate in the job in hand.

If your mum is reading this, then she should learn that she should be supporting her daughter in whatever choices she makes, even if she doesn't agree with them herself. She is behaving despicably and should be told.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:17

I know, CQ, but I am worried that I may cause my Dad to be very ill & would never be able to live with myself if the worse happened.
It seems everyone is worrying about the effect it may have on him & I feel awful.

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essbee · 04/08/2006 23:18

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Caribbeanqueen · 04/08/2006 23:18

They should be worried about the effect it might have on you.

Is your dad in bad health?

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:19

Nobody understands. Even my sister said it would be easier if he was having an affair or beating the hell out of me. The way things are makes me out to be the bad one.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:20

No, my Dad is kind of ok. I have had the heart attack line since I was around five years of age.

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essbee · 04/08/2006 23:20

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:21

Hi, essbee, how are you?

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Caribbeanqueen · 04/08/2006 23:22

Well in that case you know that they are just trotting out the same old line to try and frighten you. Still worrying though, isn't it.

Your family never cease to amaze me

essbee · 04/08/2006 23:23

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:24

Yes they are, CQ. My sister even said to me tonight that they have her brainwashed at times over all this & she feels I am strong to carry it through.

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:25

I am not feeling good, essbee, but glad you are feeling ok!

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Lemmingswife · 04/08/2006 23:26

Have you been on your meet up?

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