I think I've done something I shouldn't (tmi)

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Saturday night I got a fb message from a bloke I went to school with. Hi how are you etc..........he's in a hotel room and feeling horny. I thought he was messing about at first but he started asking do I like to play with myself - toy or fingers? Etc

Anyway for the next few hours - til about 4.30 in the morning we were saying what we were doing to ourselves - what wed do to each other - really explicit stuff.

He emailed me a pic of his hardon - later on a pic of him covered in cum. He was asking me for pics - I did send one of my boobs but nothing any more intimate.....and we left it at that

Later in the afternoon - I get a message - what are you wearing? I'm in bed - at home - naked. Tell me what you'd do to me? A few messages back and forth but it fizzled out

Is this cheating? I have a dh and 2 kids, he has a gf and a dd.
I think I just got swept up in the excitement but I'm starting to feel guilty

Yeah it's not on. Delete and block

Erm, are you for real? (Not trying to be insult

Sorry! Pressed post too quickly!. What I was trying to say was yes, it is cheating. I wouldn't dream of doing that in a relationship (or anyway, but that's just me!). He sounds like a proper sleaze.
Are you happy in your marriage?

How was this exciting? God you really need a new hobby.

Delete. Block. Do not tell your DH but start respecting him again. If you need excitement find it in your own sex life.

Yes, this is cheating.

Yes I'm for real ............... And starting to feel ashamed

It's all deleted anyway

I don't know why I played along - I'd be really hurt if dh did anything similar. Dh is lovely

I would be devastated if my DH did this, so yes. Definitely cheating.

Ok well, that's a good sign that you feel remorse/shame. I guess the old put yourself the other position; how would you feel if your dh did the same.
Anyway, it's done. Do not get in touch, delete, block, like I said, this guy is a sleaze.
What your marriage like? You can make hinges more exciting no matter how lon you've been together..

Starting?

What on earth did you think you were doing exchanging such messages with another man?
Next time, he'd invite you in and you'd go?

As others said, delete all and never contact this person again.

Sorry, x post!

I'd be gutted if my husband did that to me. Really gutted.

My marriage is mostly good dh is vvv caring. Our sex life is a bit stale though - dh gets performance anxiety but he at least tries

I know - I'm feeling like such a horrid person. Dh doesn't deserve it

If I found out that DP had done this, we would be over. It is most definitely cheating.

You really need to sit down and think about why you thought it was a good idea and then use that insight to work on your marriage

OP - can I suggest you remove your personal info/pics etc from your MN profile, or at least make it private. Your DH or someone you know could identify you very easily.

Where was your DH while all this was happening? If he did this to you how would you feel?

What Tally said!!

I am really sorry OP but I cant even imagine how you did this? Masturbating with a random when you are married?!

What?!

How would you feel if your husband did this??

I'm completely disgusted to say dh was asleep next to me

OPNot accusing you of anything but I just cant believe what you are saying. My brain just cannot cope.

Why would you do this?

Have to leave this thread as I genuinely can't relate to / understand it.

I Hope your DP never finds out - it would be awful for him.

Really hope you sort out the issues around your sex life etc and hopefully without your "lovely" DP being crushed. Good luck.

I wasn't masturbating - but I did tell him I was. It was a thrill I suppose thinking what I was saying was having an effect

I know that doesn't make what I did any less horrible

I don't know why I thought it was ok........maybe it was the attention I was getting (chronically low self confidence/esteem). Doesn't excuse it though

And golly, more lovely attention from us all this morning.

Hide your profile for goodness sake!

That's alittlestranger - just what I need. I feel disgusting enough with out sarcasm on top

It's sarcasm I don't want to hand hold, I don't know where it's been but also serious. You're engaging in risky behaviour (what if your husband had woken up at the camera flash?), you're clearly enjoying the attention, at least from him, if not from us. This is significant if you want to work out why you did it.