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Original poster

Just got copy of injunction. advise please

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 13:50

I have just got the copy of the injunction papers which were served on my ex.

It states that i must report everything.

I have received 6 txt messages from him between the 17th and 18th of this month.
I didnt report it because i chose to just ignore and couldnt be bothered.
There wasnt anything nasty or threatening in these txts.

My question is...should i report it now? I still have them on my phone.

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Ursula8 · 23/11/2013 14:06

You might be better off posting this on legal. However, I anticipate the questions to be asked will be:

What date was your ex served with the injunction? Was it before or after the texts were sent?

Does the injunction say he mustn't contact you in any way?

Whatnext074 · 23/11/2013 14:07

It's still contact with you, regardless of their tone so I would say you should report them. The letter says to report everything.

I'm sorry you're in this situation.

alikat724 · 23/11/2013 14:09

Definitely report them. If at any stage the texts become less friendly the record that the court holds needs to be complete or he could start claiming things from your side that don't exist and you won't have integrity in your record with the court. So sorry your situation has deteriorated to this point, hope you're ok and Thanks for your pain...xx

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 14:14

Thank you. I will phone them shortly to update them.

The injunction was served on the 7th of this month. So he is well aware of it being in place when he sent the txts.
Just been in my emails a minute ago checking my amazon deliveries and there is an email from him off yesterday.
The email says "G" ...whatever that means? Lol
Hmm

Thank you all. I am fine. Im not particularly bothered about the txts. Annoying as it is.
It does send an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach but thats about it

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 17:15

I have phoned them. Waiting on the PC who wanted me to contact him when the injunction copy came to me. So i am waiting for him to ring to tell him. He only starte at 4pm so...

Anyway i have just actually sat and read through it properly now the kids are at my parents.

It says

If (name) breaches the court order this is a criminal offence and you must contact the police immediately. The police should arrest and he may face up to five years in prison and/or a fine, depending on the severity of the breach.

What does that mean would happen? Im assuming it would just be a fine with it not being threatening.
I am quite shocked. I really didnt think anything would happen - hence why i didnt rush to ring.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 23/11/2013 17:20

It means what it says. If the court order is breached the police must act. The punishment is on a sliding scale depending on severity and I would assume that 'a caution' is also one of the options rather then the police necessarily always going the prosecution route. I don't know the back-story and I'm not sure what behaviour the injunction is meant to prevent but it won't have been done lightly and I'm glad everyone is taking it so seriously.

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 17:24

He is not allowed to threaten, intimidate, pester, harrass or attempt to communicate with me or instruct anybody else to do so.

This includes phone calls, letters, emails, txts etc.

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 17:25

I am pleased that they are taking it seriously also

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optimusic · 23/11/2013 17:32

Then he knows that he is in breech by sending the texts and an email. The no contact, means just that. My ex used to send letters. Just general letters (pre mobile days), not threatening, but he shouldn't have and was dealt with. His excuse was because he couldn't bother dealing with his solicitor who would often refuse to hand over, and rightly so, these letters. First time he was given a warning telling him to not do it again. But the control freak, believed he was above the law and he didn't stop. He took notice when he was sentenced for 28 days.

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 17:44

The officer has just phoned me. He says he has definitely breached it and is coming to take a statement and look at the txts an email st 7:30 tonight. He says he could be arrested, as the injunction states that but if i wanted to go another route, i could. Him just having a word with him.

If hes not listening to an actual court order, why would he listen to an officer??

I would feel awful if he got arressted though.
Would i be being unreasonable?

I feel as thougg i would be, but then i look at the facts and judging by his behaviour when i was with him, and his ignoring the injunction - i also dont feel like i am beig unreasonable!

Jesus. Why so confusing and difficult.

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GenevievePettigrew · 23/11/2013 19:36

How was the officer's visit - what did he make of the texts & email, given he knows the backstory?

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 19:45

He hasnt been yet. Still waiting.
I have had a good talk with my dad though and he thinks the best course of action would be for an officer to go and see him and tell him. If he does it anymore, then take further action.

I agree to that possibly being the best plan of action.
Ill see what this PC has to say about it too.

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 21:34

He has just been. He says he needs to be arrested and he could very well go down for the five years! He says he has well and truly breached the order and he say i need to make a stand, and they will help me through it!

Im shocked.
I still dont think i see this for the 'extreme' case they say it is!

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KirstyJC · 23/11/2013 21:37

He wouldn't say that if it weren't true. To get that injunction there must have been a good reason to keep him away from you. Well done for reporting it, and stay strong.x

gobbynorthernbird · 23/11/2013 22:03

You have done the right thing. Don't feel guilty, your Ex is at fault here.

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 22:06

Yes, you are right. Its just a lot to take in really.
The officer was lovely!
Thank you Smile

I just want it to all go away now! Hopefully this will be the end of it. He has also given me a crime number to get my locks changed.

I can feel it trying - but am i shit going to let this drag me down! He is the one in the wrong - not me!

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 22:07

X post gobbynorthern. Thank you Smile

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 22:40

I have just had a phone call from the officer who has been tonight. He has spoken to his sergent and he has advised that they get him tonight :/

Oh god my stomach is in knots

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incogKNEEto · 23/11/2013 22:53

You have done the right thing, the police officer wouldn't have said about him well and truly breaching the order if it wasn't the case. I assume x was given a copy of the court order too, he will know he's breached it, probably thinks he's above the law. Well, he's going to find out he isn't! Hope you manage to get a peaceful night x

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 23:15

Thank you incog. I am shitting myself! The officer has just phoned again saying he is on his way for him right now. Oh god oh god

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TheSontaranPussycat · 23/11/2013 23:20

You did the right thing. He was pushing the boundary, regardless of the content of the texts. Doubtless he'll be trying to explain to the police how innocuous the text were. But that isn't the point!

nauticant · 23/11/2013 23:24

You did exactly the right thing to report this.

Any shit landing on your ex he will have pulled onto his own head. If he can't control himself, what are you supposed to do except sit there passively and be abused?

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 23:26

I would expext him to kick off at the police. Especially with it being unexpexted, and more so if he has had a drink.

You are right, that isnt the point. The officer even said "if we dont arrest him, then we will be contradicting the court order" ..and so he has brought this on himself by sending txts in the first place.

I dont even know why it has got me so ...in knots(best way to describe it). It seems irish. He is being locked up, and im shitting myself.
You would think i would feel better.

But it is the aftermath, i suppose. All hell could break loose. Not just from him, but his family, and the psycho family that are classed as extended therapy.
Oh dear god

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 23:27

Very good point nauticant

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 23:27

Therapy? Wtf...i meant extended family. Im gonna need therapy after this!

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