Just got copy of injunction. advise please

[wontletmesignin]

I have just got the copy of the injunction papers which were served on my ex.

It states that i must report everything.

I have received 6 txt messages from him between the 17th and 18th of this month.
I didnt report it because i chose to just ignore and couldnt be bothered.
There wasnt anything nasty or threatening in these txts.

My question is...should i report it now? I still have them on my phone.

yes, your DS is going through a lot of changes at the moment and he will be picking up on your stress at this very difficult time. On the good news side, he's probably much better off without your ex-partner being there !!

But it's his safety that you're taking care of here. And having you move from such an awful situation to hopefully a better and much, much more supported situation by SS, homestart and other organisations has got to be better for him long term.

Def don't let your ex know where your DS is without talking it over with social services or your therapist (or both). Or the police if they are being helpful. When is your SS assessment ? soon I hope?

He will be fine. Once all is in place and dealt with, then both of you can settle and you'll both be happier.

It is a different type of stress, though, isn't it? Because the tension of having an abusive, violent, person at home is much more damaging, IMO.
At least now it's the stress of sorting things out, but you can have respite and relaxed times. :)

I still havent heard back from the new nursery. I will phone them again in the morning incasd she is still trying to sort things.
It will be straightforward. One visit and he can start straight away. Dont need the visit. But i want one for ds sake.
Im sure he will be fine once it is all over.
He had a difficult night last night. Very clingy and whingy. Whingy again this morning, but has perked up and smiling again now .
He could have been picking up on me though as i was a little stressed yesterday.

Im not sure of when the assessment will be happening. Im hoping soon also.

I have had another good talk to my therapist and gave him further info of my ex. He is even more certain now that stopping contacg and forcing ex to apply for contact so he is given supervised.

He is convinced he is borderline personality from the things i have said.
He found it all very disturbing and says ive done well to cope with it for as long as i have. As it is difficult for anyone. Nevrermind being abused along with it.

He is going to work on building my self worth as he says its clear that i still feel responsible.

I showed him a letter of exes appointment with a dual diagnosis practioner, he told me to keep it as its evidence of him having a drug problem.

He has taken all of the details. Im hoping he manages to somehow find out if he did have PTSD.
He says that i need to stop caring about exes mental health and focus on me. Ive spent long enough trying to fix someone who cannot be fixed.

It was quite a good session all in all.

Im still smiling and positive after everything.
The good thing is, is he stated that i am not depressed! which i know, but it is good to hear

That's it. You have enough evidence regarding him, now concentrate on yourself and your DS.
I got clingyness from DS when I split from his dad, also dv, and just went with it. DS slept with me for a couple of months. But he's fine.
They just need something solid to hold on to.

Yes, Lweji. I agree, it is time to concenrate on me and kids now.
All seems to be running along nicely and smoothly.
We are all eating better now too.
Ds seems to have settled down a bit now. His clinginess and anger seem to be going. He is much happier, as are the other kids.

The new nursery thinks its best to wait til the january intake.
Will be hearing from solicitor on monday to speak about a full residecy order. Hopefully that would mean nobody could take ds without my permission. Im also hoping i would get one straight away with him already taking ds and witholding him from me.

Thank you all again for your help, advise and support. It has all be very much appreciated

That sounds so positive. Really glad things are all starting to come together for you now - your lovely calm future is almost here!

:)

very glad to hear it too :) I really hope the solicitor will manage to get the full residency order. Pity about waiting til the jan intake for your son, will fridays be ok for you til then?

We are getting there perfectstorm.
It is a shame meerka, but hopefully come january there will be a residency order in place. A lot would have settled and he wont be the only one starting, so fingers crossed it wont be as traumatic for him.

I have no idea how the fridays are going to play out. Ten minutes from now is when he is supposed to pick him up. My solicitor has informed him though.

The injunction and his bail conditions are there, so at least i have those to make things a little easier.

I am going to use this time, from now until jan. So me and ds can bond without a big lump of negativity inbetween us

Things can only get better now...and they already are