can you just ask someone for sex?

[secretsatan]

If you suspect that someone fancies you, how wrong is it to just ask them if they'd like some sex?

I'm not up for a relationship at all. But I'd really like some sex.

I don't think subtle is going to work. Or at least it will take too long. Or they might think I want to go out with them.

remind me how this works. It's been a while.

you never know it might work

I feel sick. That might have been the vodka last night though. If he doesn't reply to me today I'm going to send him another message to block me on facebook as a mercy.

Did you write 'you're shy, and shit' or 'you're shy and shit'?

Because if it was the second, that is quite rude and he might then be wary of future post-coital comments!

I know I know. I did spell everything correctly, but he should decline me on the 'and shit' gangsta speech alone.

'and shit' sounds like me. I have done some amazingly embarrassing drunken sex texts.

Oh dear, I'd have been tempted to rewrite it and send again with a note "edited to remove the influence of copious amounts of vodka ;)"
That way you have laughed at yourself first so the embarrassment factor is lessened, but you've let him know that the message itself was intended.
Hope you get a shag out of it!

Calm down, we all shit.

I've done some epic drunk texting in my time.

My guess is he will ignore till Friday night when he's had a few beers then message you.

I managed to pull once by texting someone in the same room 'cmon then' < cringe >

I can see where you're coming from hello, but isn't there the danger that she will dig an either deeper hole? "Everyone on mumsnet says..." type stylee. Sometimes it's least said soonest mended.

Please do keep us updated though OP!

mwahahahahahaha. Good work.

What you do id you ignore the fact you drunk text/rang/FB'd someone and pray they pretend it never happened or they respond positively.

Oh god yes, if he doesn't mention it then deffo do the same! Pretend it never happened and then he might start to doubt himself.

I think that's quite stylish SouthernComfort, I'm going to remember that one.

Resend a message saying "The previous message was brought to you by Absolut Vodka. Please drink and reply responsibly. Unlike me."

Ha ha am loving this thread!! I can't believe you actually write 'recreational sex' !!!

I used to be on a dating site and had one long standing FWB that became gf and bf and a few one nighters/eight nighters. Eventually met OH on there and after talking for over 6 months I snared him in my web.

So my general advice is it's pretty easy to find casual sex online, however if we were going to travel back in time I would have advised asking said bloke out for a drink then asking him in for coffee after would have saved all the embarrassment but would have been far less entertaining for us all

Trouble is that if you send an 'I was drunk' message then he might think you didn't mean it!

The self-deprecating follow-up is what I'd do but I'm shit at this sort of thing, therefore you probably should not do it. Stick to your vodka guns and go down in a ball of flames style.

You know he is shit??

Way to get into somebody's pants.
oh lol lol. You should have gone with the actual rap, not gone all gangsta style, man!

I second the suggestion of sending a Vodka Edit message.

I once went up to someone at a wedding reception & said I felt like getting lucky & did he feel like getting lucky with me. It was someone I was never going to see again though so I didn't have a lot to lose.

We had a good night though

I have in fact sent song lyrics to the tune of 'when the boat comes in'. Using 'chicky' and 'dicky' The shame still hasn't gone and he still reminds me of it.

I know what you mean fluffy, but the vodka edit fits with my personality and I'd get away with it. I'd rather laugh it off first than be embarrassed about it.

I did send a vodka edit.

I basically said I shouldn't have sent the message but that wasn't to say I did not agree with the content when sober.

HE'S STILL NOT READ THE FUCKER. Maybe his phone has fallen down a drain, he's forgotten how to log on to FB and will have to re-register and lose all his messages. Maybe.

How do you know he has not seen it?

It'd say 'read'. It says 'sent' still.

Every time I get an FB notification I jump. I'm a nervous bloody wreck.

Or you have sent it to wrong person!