can you just ask someone for sex?

[secretsatan]

If you suspect that someone fancies you, how wrong is it to just ask them if they'd like some sex?

I'm not up for a relationship at all. But I'd really like some sex.

I don't think subtle is going to work. Or at least it will take too long. Or they might think I want to go out with them.

remind me how this works. It's been a while.

Of course if the world's going to end in an hour and a half you can up to strangers and ask them for sex. I don't think that's an issue atm though so no help.

Everything's fine..........................

clutches pearls.

Oooh getting drunk is risky though because he might assume it "means something" or be too drunk to care that it doesn't, and then be upset later if, indeed, he wanted it to mean something.

at the pram eyebrow!

I'm NOT giving dh the pram eyebrows!

3 is plenty!!

Berstie I think you're over-thinking it........

Probably

Maybe a drunken conversation would work. I think a drunken "jumping" could have unintended repercussions. But then, I don't know.

I never actually managed to have any casual sex with randoms :(

If you think he fancies you then I doubt he is going to turn a shag down. Give him your moby number and it's much easier to discuss getting dirty that way.

Can you just ask someone for sex? If only you could!! I'd be going up to strange women and asking them every other day!

Start flirting with him. If he's clearly interested you say, "You know I really fancy you but I don't want a relationship right now. How do you feel about keeping things casual?"

Could you come over? I have something that needs fixing (helpless female routine)

Still not as good as some of SP's suggestions.

Get nekkid and jump on him, thrusting is essential at this point. You could have something like "let's talk about sex" on in the background in case you think that approach is too subtle.

Just flash him and say "fancy it?"

I just used to say "What are you doing after this?" and if the answer was "nothing", say "Fancy coming home with me/going back to yours?"

You do realise this thread is going to be written up in the "MNers are gagging for it" article follow-up soon to be published by the Telegraph?

I met someone earlier this year, we went on two dates and got on really well, and at the end of the second date she said 'look, I'm only living here for a couple more months, but I think we get on really well. Shall we see if we're any good in bed together too?'

We were.

But she didn't thrust anything at me when she said it. That would have been odd.

SP

If the OP is serious, just on the theme of the thread....

Make sure the guy you're picking doesn't have passive aggressive tendencies and is genuinely Ok with the casualness of it, not secretly hoping you'll fall in love with him? Especially if he's in the same friendship group?

I've seen "casual" situations where the guy thinks "well she's a woman, women want boyfriends, they don't REALLY want casual sex, therefore if I'm sleeping with her she'll make me her boyfriend" . And then starts raging when she uses him to please her Yoni a few times, but eventually gets a proper boyfriend . Can get vvvvvvvveeeeeeeeryyyyyyyyyyy messy.

Oh dear fucking fucking fuckity fuck I got pissed last night and messaged him. FUCK! FUCK! I am fucking mortified.

He's not seen it yet. You can't drag a FB message back out of the ether can you?

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Ooooo! Which of these frankly scary genius suggestions did you use?

Ah, I have arrived just in time!

Hahaha, go on, what did you say in your message?

Oh no, what did you say!

Was it a picture message a la SP?

I am seriously mortified. I should have gone with the beaver. I deleted my version so I can't sit rereading it.

I actually said something about 'I know you're shy and shit' and I definitely used the phrase 'recreational sex'.

Oh fucking fuck I'm such a twat.

He's STILL not opened the message.