The dating thread 65

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We're still texting, supposed to meet tomorrow for a 3rd date, where she tries to teach me why her national alcoholic spirit, 'palinka', is healthful and hearty as opposed to my current experience - which is that it's the purified piss of satan.

So we'll see how that goes.

You can't read too much into the motivations and actions of someone you simply don't know. Insouciance is good, over investment is bad

Yeah, as for the soulmates thing, men get intimidated too, or annoyed at overly boastful people. I'd prefer someone who spoke two languages to one, though fluency in French is not high on my list of should-haves, but I'd also prefer someone who spoke two languages to twelve.

I already have google translate. I'd rather meet someone attractive, sweet and funny.

Bant wise words, you're very right.
Good luck for your 3rd date!

Just - I'm a single parent too. Do you mention your LO on your profile? I do, prob puts a few people off, but it's not like I can change the situation :-)

I find soulmates a little intimidating myself, and with bant in that I find overly boastful people annoying.
Good luck with date 3.

tiger I say I have a DS on my profile as it is important that I'm honest, but don't go into details until I meet them.

Lady - perhaps that's where I'm going wrong - in a bid to keep up with everyone else, I've done the 'boast' thing on GSM - run marathons, write books, blah, blah - but have perhaps made myself sound like a twunt!

tiger I'm no expert though I just say I like running as opposed to going into detail, but then if something is important to you then you should talk about it.

tiger, I've ticked "has children" but don't mention anything about her in my blurb.

Jammy has FINALLY said he would like to meet me and while he would like for me to come to [his city] at some point, he would love to come to [my city] first and we should make a plan. I was all "sounds good, lets make a plan" and then he's texted back about decorating his house. Honsly!

I had some conversations with blokes on pof about how uniform the profiles were. I complained that all the blokes do loads of skydiving. They all said most women have loads of going out pics and pouty selfies and how dull it was in the same way.
I sympathise about GSM though I felt very not good enough on that ! I always wondered who all these well marketed blokes wanted to talk to

I put lone parent on my profile and also that I didn't have much free time and or could arrange dates v quickly. It didn't seem to stem the flow of traffic at all

Broken I think it partly depends on how you use Facebook. I mainly use it to keep track of people I don't see so much anymore and share photo albums and have no desire for any of those 'in a relationship' updates so have little interest in adding someone I'm seeing casually. I would accept a request, but not after two dates.

But is this the same guy who just sent you a message about not getting too involved? It seems like a bit of a headfuck to be honest. He may or may not have called it off, he's definitely put you on notice that he might pull out. Why accept his mixed messages?

And I just let the GSM boasts wash over me. Sky diving? Well, yeah, that's because you're single and bored. Worked abroad for five years. Great, but now you've come back and all your friends are coupled up huh? I think I took to believe that all of those people would actually rather have lazy sunday morning shags than a roll call of achievements. And I can help out with lazy sunday morning shags!

I think he sounds keen with the contact etc but it's definitely one to watch. He has a bad commute so had a strop and threatened to end things before they'd started? I hope he's self-aware enough to realise this and put a stop to it. You deserve a good 'un.

Good morning all!

Broken - personally I wouldn't accept a friend request so early on, I have so many family pics on there I wouldn't want to let a stranger see so much of my life so soon. I agree with Stranger, be careful with this one - travel related strops are not ok!

Stranger - at the lazy Sunday morning shags!

Tiger - I've just ticked the has children box but haven't mentioned them in the blurb. I think it's important to disclose you have DCs but I find it off putting if someone's profile talks about them too much.

Just - that sounds very frustrating with Jammy! Maybe try pinning him down to a date by directly asking if he's free this weekend?

I'm feeling very meh about dating at the moment. If things don't go so well with my date this Wed (I need to think of a name for him!) then I think it's time to retreat to the sofa for a while and hibernate. The plus side of not having a boyfriend is I'm enjoying not having to shave my legs so regularly at the moment!!

Hi thread!

I have been a bit absent lately....just trying to catch up things move so quickly here! Hello everyone!

My update....it's now been a month since first date with the housemate guy....and things are going swimmingly :-) am now not dating anyone else, he wasn't dating anyone else anyway so we are 'going out with each other' exclusively I've kinda lost track of how many dates and things but we're generally having a great time together, very comfortable with him staying over here. Not so much the other way around....but that's me because 1. I live alone and he has housemates, and I'm not quiet and 2. one of his housemates is my work colleague! He is a really lovely guy, we laugh together, I think I do have a bit of mentionitis....I'm now trying to rein in my expectations/enthusiasm and not go overboard too quickly and risk ruining it. Am also a bit wary that over December we're not going to see each other very much....I have a 2 week holiday before xmas, and by the time I get back he'll be away until after new year. (Although I may be near where he'll be around new year anyway, we have family in the same area). So musn't get too wrapped up in it so that that time isn't too sad and doesn't bother me.

For those that are in the early stages of relationships.....what are you doing for xmas in terms of seeing each other and gifts?

Right now to catch up on the thread properly :-)

Morning All. Need to do a serious catch up in the thread. Was on a date last night. Last minute arrangements. Had a lovely time and was found him very attractive. Definitely was interested in seeing him again but got the 'no spark' text this morning

powpow aw, rubbish. at least no hanging about.

Bant ooh Ultrafox sounds very promising!! Good luck for tonight!!

broken I don't generally do fb requests.....haven't found housemateguy there yet and it's been a month (although he doesn't really use it anyway). I'm not sure I'd want someone I'm dating trawling through my old photos and banter with friends etc (or my friends facebook-stalking a new guy!), before I'm completely comfortable letting them in my life in general. For me it's on a par with meeting each others friends etc.

JustALittle ha, how frustrating. It's clear he's interested but maybe he's just a faffy person!! Nothing wrong with chivvying him a long a bit....'so how about this plan then?'

That's a shame, powpow, his loss though

super where are you going on your date? Hope it goes well but if not, just think how much warmer you'll be with all your leg insulation :D

What's the deal with frequency of texts? We were texting last night about meeting up next week, I text last and then he's only just replied now which seems like a really long time. Am I being pathetic?

Great news oneday as for the gifts for christmas, that's a difficult one, something thoughtful but not too extravagant, and perhaps a bit of a jokey present.
powpow better the text then silence I suppose.

just sometimes I forget about answering a text if I'm busy at work, you're not pathetic, perfectly normal as dates and time goes on you will relax some more.

super I find when I give up that's when something good happens, fingers crossed

I too wonder about texts too. Mr browneyes doesn't text much when he's at work either.

Second date tomorrow, really looking forward to it. Colouring my hair tonight

Oneday - that's lovely news. I would go for a couple of small but thoughtful gifts for Christmas.

Powpow - crap to get that text but at least he was respectful enough to tell you. Move on to the next one!

Just - guys just seem to think differently about texting than us! But no harm in steering him along and making that date! Think I'm just going for a drink on Wed eve, I'm not holding my breath for anything spectacular!

Gaga - Are you feeling ok about everything?

Have fun tomorrow hormonal!

Feeling even more meh about Wed's date now - my skin seems to think I'm 15 and has broken out in spots, grrr! Let's hope he picks somewhere dark to meet!!

Hello all so Mr Smallfeet wants to do a day date for our 3rd date this Thursday, he is off work this week and I don't work Thursdays.

Yesterday he suggested doing some Christmas shopping and lunch and today he has text and suggested a nice walk and lunch. I'm not sure now what I want to do. I do like him but am starting to feel a bit anxious about Thursday meet up which I know is stupid.

girlie feeling anxious is not stupid, it's natural, if you don't feel comfortable though then maybe suggest something you will be happier doing?

I'm okay thanks super got hideously drunk Saturday which kind of helped.

I'm back on Match taking a look round, but it seems to be the same blokes from 2 months ago.

Can anyone confirm if you can hide your profile on POF still?

Thanks lady, will have a think