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at that livid he sounds totally nuts! lucky lucky escape. I'm with you on the distance front, anything over an hour away I wouldn't bother.

girlie fab news on that date! he sounds like a true gent! I love holding hands, makes me feel all warm inside

Another one saying I wouldn't email him hero if he wants you he will get hold of you.

Good news on the busy weekend hormonal I love a good wedding

sadfor it's not a bad thing to be cautious, but it all sounds like it is going very well to me.

Sorry to hear it never went further bant

My motto too, onwards and upwards, no dates or interests for me so quiet week, living my life vicariously through you all!

I had a few weeks of being disillusioned with OD so haven't made much effort just lately, and what do you know? I'm overwhelmed with the buggers. Ones who had disappeared on me, new (but weird) ones, and a few possibles all messaging me like mad - and I'm busy with RL stuff (not dating) so little time to reply - strange ol' business this OD

Bant hope you're ok, that's crap :(

pyjama isn't that always the way?! Hopefully good things will come your way from all those messages.

livid that's scary! Bullet well and truly dodged.

Well I have a situation! Tech guy from last night has texted twice, lovely messages saying how wonderful I am! There is no physical attraction there on my part though, even he's such a lovely guy. I didn't have the heart to say no to a second date, even though I know it's a non-starter!

Livid - Mike sounds totally awful. Where do you stand on text speak in emails? If someone text speaks at me I ignore ignore ignore. I think it probably sorts some wheat from the chaff!

Bant - sorry about your Ultrafox. That's a shame. I feel like we have gone through the same thing. Well done on standing firm.

I still think I might send my guy a breezy email at some point, maybe a long time down the road. Perhaps when I am firmly ensconced in multiple promising date situations I'll drop him a line saying "Hey, this train is leaving the station, it's now or never to ask for a ticket"

Where do you stand on text speak in emails? If someone text speaks at me I ignore ignore ignore. I think it probably sorts some wheat from the chaff!

I can't stand it. Text speak is fine in texts, where there is a character limit and often costs per text, but I see it as rather sloppy/lazy if used in emails. I also, rightly or wrongly, imagine the writer isn't particularly bright I'm no genius but I'm after a meeting of minds as well as bodies.

Gosh livid - he sounds terrifying! You definitely dodged a bullet there!

What a lovely date, girlie.

Out with geeky tomorrow. I'm at that lovely stage where I don't feel like each date is make or break and I can just enjoy being with him.

That's a nice stage to be at Dont. Hope you both have fun tomorrow

super - if you really think it's going nowhere with the guy, and there's no chance of chemistry kicking in, then cancel the second date. If he's really into you, then it's easier to be turned down after one date than after two when he'll be even more into you.

Its a cruel to be kind thing, really

Dontcallme that's a nice place to be... I doubt I'll ever get there with pof guy, even after all this time I feel he could disappear at any time
Regarding text speak, I abhor it, even in texts!
Ex has been sick all week so hasn't seen the kids, he was supposed to have them tonight but has just texted to say he's not well enough. Arrrgh, no date for me tonight. Luckily I have a nice bottle of red in reserve

So, any dates lined up for the weekend?

Just catching up on the thread there.... Hormonal sounds like a fab weekend ahead for you! Hope you have a blast.

Same as happened to me Poffed, my LO's dad text an hour ago to say he was unwell n so I too am stuck in

Luckily mr browneyes has agreed to come over

Ah Hormonal I'm so jealous!
Would love to be able to have himself come over here but unfortunately my eldest's bed time is ridiculously late at the weekend.. Not quite ready for kids to know I'm dating yet so I'm stuck in watching god knows what with the kids...
I'm determined to make the most of it though... Popcorn, blankets and fire (and wine of course)

My little one is only 10 months but if my other two had been here too (age 11 and 13) I wouldn't have let him come over as yes it's too soon to meet kids

Wow Hormonal, you must have your hands full...brilliant that you manage dating on top of all that, and so successfully too :-) does mrbrowneyes have kids too?

Hi everyone, I'm new here

I've joined Match and whilst I haven't managed any dates yet (distinct lack of babysitters and my exH is away at sea so no time off!!) I've had lots of 'views' (mostly from guys whose pictures look like the lineup on Crimewatch) and a fair few messages, and have been messaging then texting and chatting with one guy who seems lovely. He's away at the moment with work but we have a date lined up for the day after he gets back!

I did have a potential date last Friday night but after arranging a sitter and messaging him to say I had a sitter I didn't hear back from him... Oh well his loss!

My Bullshitometer is turned on, I have my rules list and I'm finding it quite fun starting this whole OD business. I have found this thread really helpful!

Welcome Sidge

Yes Poffed he has 3 kids same as me, we joked we might have to buy a minibus if things get serious.

Well he's just gone home and well I gotta say I'm impressed in more ways than one

Hi sidge, welcome to the Thread :)

The bullshitometer needs to be turned up high. I read yesterday in the QI book of facts that 1/3 of men on dating websites are married.

Now I'm a bl

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Now I'm a bloke but that strikes me as a bit odd. When I was married I had the opportunity to date other women, I possibly had the means and the motive, but it still seemed a bit morally reprehensible. Is this c

Oh I hate my phone so much

Is this common then? Men turning out to be married? Presumably more than one out of three that women actually talk to? What proportion of women on there are married?

I'd say there are a fair few married ones Bant but u can usually tell them a mile off! They never want to meet up, online through day etc

The second guy I met on POF turned out to be married. He told me on third date!! I really liked him too but ended it there and then

I do remember reading a profile on zoosk (I think) years ago, he'd been checking me out so after a few days I looked at his and it said 'this is xxxx wife, he is married with 3 children and is about to get his nuts chopped off' or something similar! The only married man I met was in real life and I only found out through FB stalking. I avoided the newly singles, a few friends had their hearts smashed by newly single men who's exes (or themselves) didn't want them to date. So avoid the obvious wedding photos on profiles with the wife badly photo shopped out haha! I saw a few of them!!!

Sidge, welcome! And IMO 95% of them do look like crime watch mugshots! Unless they're holding fish, that's another gem :-/

Welcome myownhero and Sidge :-)

Just catchting up, Bant sorry to hear about Ultrafox - although I will admit feeling a little reassured as a woman that we can be just as rubbish to men sometimes.

Stupidhead sounds like your getting-back-together is very full-on!!!

Horonal sounds like a great weekend ahead

I haven't (knowingly) come across married men OD but then I tended to ignore about 95% of them and had a very high criteria of who I would respond to on POF, and the way mysinglefriend is set up (needs a friend to write half your profile for you) must be a lot more difficult for married men to target!!

As for me, my guy is away for the weekend. We had a lovely date on Monday, the first since our 2nd date when we both went home alone due to work commitments the next day. Thursday another lovely date and I stayed over at his. Things are pootling along quite nicely. He's away for the weekend now so I'm on a fag-hag date tonight :-) and then our next plan to see each other is next week......he's coming over to mine for an xmas evening with me, my good friend and her boyfriend......eek!!! Meeting friends!!!! That's a 9 on the scary-shit-o-meter.

Quick update- but I think geeky and I said we loved each other last night in a roundabout kind of way. We talked about it and he said he knew he was falling for me on date two. We didn't want to say it as it was too soon - but he said he felt the same way. So we ended up saying 'I more than like you' and 'I more than like you too.' Oh God.

There's a whole long story behind this, might update later.